Dating deal breakers

<p>i was talking with some coworkers the other day about this: what are some things you just can't deal with in a guy/girl--things that, once revealed, will totally ruin a would-be new relationship?</p>

<p>hmm this is interesting to think about.</p>

<p>For me, some complete turnoffs-
1) If a guy is too sensitive and cries
2) Clingyness-"I Love you" even-though-I-barely-know-you
3) If a guy can't hold a conversation. "Hey!! How was your day?" "blah. Ok." "Um, ok...." I need stimulating conversation
4) Must be interested in doing random stuff at random times. If a guy only prefers to play video games and doesn't ever want to go out, then no thank you</p>

<p>Oh lets see.</p>

<p>"My ex my ex my ex my"
SHUT UP ALREADY.</p>

<p>"So my last relationship ended when I cheate"
At this point they stop talking because I've already left.</p>

<p>"I'm going to step outside for a smoke."
I don't care if people smoke but it's not worth the constant annoyance on my part.</p>

<p>"I'm bisexual"
Translation: I'm crazy.</p>

<p>"I'm poly amorous."
Translation: I'm crazy.</p>

<p>Other deal breakers include asking me what my expected salary is on the first date, scoffing at my beautiful (crappy) 2002 Alero, hating dogs, loving cats, being a yankees fan and not having been to New York, being a Steelers fan and not having been to Pittsburgh, having been to Pittsburgh, being hardcore vegan/vegetarian, watching anime and getting offended if I make crude jokes around you. A narrow dating pool leads to fewer harder choices I guess.</p>

<p>A startling majority of those have actually happened to me.</p>

<p>I will never again date a lesbian, first of all. They're crazy, all of them.</p>

<p>As for boys, it's a deal breaker if any of the following apply:
-he constantly calls, texts, needs to know where I am all the time
-he listens to Rush
-he has a problem with drinking or pot
-he smokes cigarettes regularly
-he thinks monthly anniversaries/Valentine's Day/etc. are important and expects me to think the same
-he complains about letting me take my time sexually
-he isn't funny</p>

<p>the last one is the most important. I've been known to date complete d-bags because they make me laugh.</p>

<p>I'm a guy so I wouldn't know what not to look for in another guy. But as a girls...: </p>

<p>-A lot of make-up. (Doesn't look good, and seems very superficial).
-Smokes. (Eww.)
-Facebooks 24/7</p>

<p>I can't stand it when a guy is totally pretentious. It's really hard to be silly or goofy around someone who acts like they have a stick up their ass. Besides that, I would say I am turned off by overly confident men. Having some confidence is okay, but I draw the line when they cross into ******bag territory.</p>

<p>obesity
not being attractive
everything else is surmountable.</p>

<p>if they are stuck-up or think the world revolves around them
if they have no sense of humor
if they are gold diggers
if they can't stand the outdoors
if they have sense of adventure</p>

<p>Lots of pessimism
If they don't like to get dirty
If they wanna be around alllll the time</p>

<ol>
<li>if he cheats and/or is promiscuous</li>
<li>if he's asexual and/or homosexual</li>
<li>if he's a jerk to me and/or if he dares hurt me [somewhat seriously]</li>
<li>if he gets creeped out by me</li>
<li>if he ever seriously calls me fat or ugly</li>
<li>if he's an idiot</li>
<li>if he's a pedophile and/or necrophiliac and/or zoophile</li>
</ol>

<p>to be continued...</p>

<p>1) If a girl is too sensitive and cries
2) Clingyness-"I Love you" even-though-I-barely-know-you
3) If a girl can't hold a conversation. "Hey!! How was your day?" "blah. Ok." "Um, ok...." I need stimulating conversation
4) Must not use the word "random" to describe things that aren't random at all
5) she constantly calls, texts, needs to know where I am all the time
6) she listens to a music "artist" produced by Disney
7) she has a problem with drinking or pot
8) she smokes cigarettes
9) she thinks monthly anniversaries/Valentine's Day/etc. are important and expects me to think the same
10) she isn't funny
11) if she cheats and/or is promiscuous
12) if she's asexual and/or homosexual
13) if she's a jerk
14) if she gets creeped out by me
15) if she's fat or ugly
16) if she's an idiot
17) if she's judgemental</p>

<p>Also, I can't stand it when a girl is totally pretentious. It's really hard to be silly or goofy around someone who acts like they have a stick up their ass. Besides that, I would say I am turned off by overly confident women. Having some confidence is okay, but I draw the line when they cross into ******bag territory.</p>

<p>Yep. :)</p>

<p>If he wears Ed Hardy or any other form of bedazzled toolbag attire on the date, I know he sucks at life.</p>

<p>They've been with one of my friends or someone I know and despise.</p>

<p>-Can't express sexuality
-Won't grind to music
-Has no hips
-Withholds sex to manipulate me</p>

<p>1) misapplies the transitive property, thinks P => Q means not P => not Q, etc
2) doesn't listen. cannot hold a conversation in which anything is actually communicated
3) entire self-esteem is based on intelligence, despite (1)
4) lies about silly things to impress me
5) talks about moving across the country to be with me two weeks into the relationship</p>

<p>oh wait, these were just the things that were wrong with my last boyfriend</p>

<p>That's not the transitive property. It's the converse, which is indeed not logically equivalent to the original statement (unlike our good friend the contrapositive).</p>

<p>fizix, you had a bf before and he wasn't a techer?
I mean...you guys have such a favorable guy-girl ratio.. why would you look outside of campus?</p>

<p>lol i know, i was giving two different examples :p</p>

<p>yeah...well this was after i left tech. so i was bored</p>

<ol>
<li>Wutang's four.</li>
</ol>

<p>*the second a women uses sex as a bargaining chip, it's over. period. having a few girls she knows you can turn to for sex is probably the only way to ensure this doesn't happen</p>

<p>Okay adding to list, I hate girls who always look at other guys when there's one on one time. For example, when we're talking, a guy walk by and she stare at him when I'm talking. It's frustrating to get my point across.</p>