<p>In terms of dating the opposite sex, what are specific things that an individual may have or do (or lack) that are deal-breakers for you?</p>
<p>Mine are, in order of importance:</p>
<ul>
<li>Will not eat meat</li>
<li>Melodramatic</li>
<li>Uses a cellphone at the table (texting included)</li>
<li>Cannot carry a conversation on a variety of subjects</li>
<li>Unhygienic </li>
<li>No sense of humor</li>
<li>Talks about people she has dated before me</li>
<li>Indignantly religious</li>
<li>Says "umm" or "like" too often</li>
<li>Wears glitter on her face</li>
</ul>
<p>Unhygienic, idiotic, melodramatic, pretty much what you said. Except the cellphone thing; I’d prefer if she didn’t, but I’m hypocritical because I’m addicted to checking my Blackberry all the time.</p>
<p>I text my mom during dates with my boyfriend, sparingly. XD I would NEVER, EVER even have my phone on on a date usually, but my boyfriend thinks it’s funny and is generally flattered because I am bragging about all the cool things he planned, as long as I keep it brief he doesn’t mind-- we’ve been together so long, if that’s the only obnoxious thing I’m doing he thinks he’s struck gold. lol He knows I am still not used to my mom not being able to see me off when I go out for a special occasion. I really missed her on Valentine’s Day, it was bizarre to not have her get to see the outfit I picked or anything. I know, I know, WORST GIRLFRIEND EVAAAAAAAR but if BF doesn’t care it doesn’t matter.</p>
<p>ANYWAY, I would not date a smoker. A heavy drinker is out, and any drug use whatsoever is out. I could not stand someone who is not at least marginally ambitious, and would not be interested in someone who slacks off in school. I am extremely ambitious and dedicated to my work and my study, and am not interested in being dragged down by someone too immature to care. Irresponsibility in general is out as well. If I can’t trust someone to take care of their obligations, it just isn’t going to work. No manchildren please. And hygiene is a must, I would hope that goes without saying. </p>
<p>Granted, if I were not interested in a longterm relationship I would probably be more lenient about everything except the smoking and drug use. For just casual dating with no intention of future commitment those things don’t matter as much, but I am not at a stage in my life when I am really interested in that. I wouldn’t be interested in wasting my time with someone if I knew right off the bat it could not go any farther. I am perfectly comfortable being single until I meet someone who suits my needs. Thankfully, that is not necessary! :D</p>
<p>In no particular order:
-I would never, ever, ever, date someone who had cheated on me or a previous girlfriend, even if it was just once.
-As TwistedxKiss said, drug users, heavy drinkers, and probably smokers are out, and so is anyone who is lazy, unhygenic, or lacks ambition.
-Anyone who has been physically abusive, even once, is out. On a related note, convicted criminals are also out.
-If we’re talking about marriage, he has to want at least a few kids.
-He has to respect me and not be overly possessive/controlling.
-Must be courteous and polite, and kind and compassionate. Those are kind of obvious, but they’re important.
-Also must be honest. If I ever had a bf and found out he’d lied about something big, I would be gone within a second.</p>
<p>I probably have more that I’m forgetting. Maybe I’ll post some more if I remember.</p>
<p>-Smoke/heavy drinker/no drugs etc.
-Personalities don’t click
-Is repulsively ugly (sorry, I’m shallow.)
There’s a lot more, but they usually aren’t deal-breakers unless they happen repetitively.</p>
<p>Now that you guys mention it, I wouldn’t date anyone with a violent past or someone who had cheated, either. I’m not sure how I feel about people who have committed crimes, I think it would depend on the crime and their attitude about it. </p>
<p>I also can’t handle people who get really angry and lose their composure. I burst into tears whenever a man raises his voice in my presence, I don’t know why but I just get really scared, too quickly to talk myself out of it before I get upset. If it isn’t in an angry context it startles me but it’s not that bad, but I couldn’t handle a man who couldn’t help from yelling at me when frustrated. That sounds really high maintenance, but honestly once a man accidentally makes me cry once they usually don’t want to do it again without me having to ask them not to. I have a lot of respect for a person who can get angry without flying off the handle.</p>
<p>"I hope you are a male or you might not be able to find a mate anytime soon :O. "</p>
<ul>
<li><p>Someone that is rude/aggressive with waiters, etc. It just shows that they think they are much “better” and that they have little respect for others</p></li>
<li><p>People that make fun of or look down on people with mental problems. My biological father is schizophrenic, and this is not something I tell people off the bat. If I see that the person uses derogatory terms like “■■■■■■”, etc, it definitely ends there.</p></li>
</ul>
<p>thee are a few others, but they are not immediate deal breakers.</p>
But do you get upset when people say “lame” or “dumb” as well? or one of the dozens of words in our language that implies sexism? it’s just that i notice there’s many people who hate “■■■■■■” but they also realize words have multiple meanings and most people who say “dumb” aren’t picking on the deaf. “schizo” i’d understand getting angry over, but not “■■■■■■” (unless it was directed at a handicapped person) anyway:</p>
<ul>
<li>personalities clash (no humor, different interests…)</li>
<li>smells/unhygienic</li>
<li>too religious or too political (one of those obnoxious uber-liberals or gun-slingers or PETA activist…)</li>
<li>generally ignorant or biased</li>
<li>no sense of curiousity. (doesn’t have to be a “science person” but people who are ignorant about the world are hard to talk to).</li>
</ul>
<p>I try not to use ■■■■■■ because I know its not nice. But I never knew it was offensive until about a year ago, so I’m phasing it out. It comes naturally from time to time but less frequently than before. It was normal around here so I just never thought it was offensive until the whole Tropic Thunders thing. Seriously.</p>
<p>What makes me not interested in a girl:
-Smokes/heavy drinker/uses drugs
-Wears too much make-up
-Taller than me (I’m 5’10)
-Hates sports
-Doesn’t talk at all
-Keeps using their cellphones especially when outside for dinner (Just a pet peeve of mine)
-No courtesy to others
-Uber-religious
-Vegetarian, I love my steaks.
-Hates travelling
-Doesn’t want a family
-Doesn’t care about education or a future
-Fat (Even though I am considered overweight, I’m 5’10/210 lb but I have thick bones and I used to lift almost everyday back in high school)
-Smells</p>
I really missed her on Valentine’s Day, it was bizarre to not have her get to see the outfit I picked or anything. I know, I know, WORST GIRLFRIEND EVAAAAAAAR but if BF doesn’t care it doesn’t matter.</p>