Well boo for autocorrect. You know what it meant. IMO the OP is probably yanking our chain, or is demonstrating continued bad judgment (like failing all those college classes). Hope he dropped them or withdrew. Maybe he had his teacher on his mind and couldn’t concentrate. That would make for a great appeal letter if he is on academic probation or was discharged from school and trying to re-enter.
Well, okay, it’s not about a “teacher” having an affair with a student, either. They are both adults. Not only did the “teacher/student” relationship end three years ago, but neither is married, so it wouldn’t be that type of an “affair” either.
Sometimes, I think people get confused about these things. The societal concerns are about people who are in a position of authority having relationships with their charges and the abuses it could foster. People like to add their own, personal issues about age differentials, but the law doesn’t prohibit that.
This is ridiculous. Even in states without statutes, there are ethical guidelines that most teachers would adhere to. And besides, she would probably politely blow him off- maybe tell him to get his act together and get back in school.
You are the one who brought up a teacher having an affair with a student (post 17). Some of the follow up discussion was in response to that. There is no confusion. Just disgust.
I used it as an example of what was NOT happening in this case, primarily because it had to be said so many times. Sorry if it confused you further.
There is no confusion on my end. Just disgust. Enough. Its smarmy regardless of how you want to dance around it.
you said this
and I responded with this
Sorry if thats confusing to you.
It’s probably not illegal. Just stupid. And probably a joke in the first place.
I would advise the OP not to pursue his former teacher unless they remained in contact and are already on a friendship level (at least). As someone who developed a huge crush on one of my married teachers, I think that the idea of a law restricting former students from dating their former teachers is ridiculous. Live and let live. Once you’ve passed the age of consent, there is no reason that their dating should not be allowed just because age differences make some people uncomfortable. However, it doesn’t sound like the OP actually had a deep/meaningful relationship with his former teacher (otherwise he would keep in touch with her and would have seen her in these past 3 years), so it’s probably just a fantasy that the OP wanted to live.
Wrong thread.
Take it to the chance thread. Lay out all your stats. Hight, weight, awards, extracarricular and how much you are making annually. They will tell you if she is a reach or match.
Sorry, seriously speaking…
I don’t think it’s disgusting or ridiculous to have a major crush on a teacher. Not at all. But it’s still a good idea to keep it as a crush/fantasy and not pursue the relationship in real life. You know, keep it as one of those bittersweet adolescent memories.
You’re legal, and she’s divorced. I guess you could give it a try but don’t expect miracles…
Give it a shot man it won’t hurt
Do. Not. Do. This.
It’s creepy.
@JustOneDad and @jym626, I have a credential working with ages “0 to 99”; we are required to answer questions, when we renew our credentials with the state via a yes/no check box:
stating that we have maintained a professional relationship with students, staff and parents,
and have not had any untoward relationship with current or former students.
I agree with Jym626, it’s reeks of the creep and abuse factor. It doesn’t matter that he’s been out of school for 3 years. My coworker was put on administrative leave for dating a former student and they had to investigate how they met and how the relationship evolved. This was a student who had been out of the high school for 5 years and whom had never had a class with the teacher. He ended up being transferred.
A 20+ year old’s mental state is very different than someone of 40+, to think they could be of equal in a relationship is stupid.
Just because something is legal, doesn’t mean it’s smart.
She’s probably going to see u as a creepy stalker.
OP hasn’t been back in a few days. Brief thought that maybe he was out on a date 
But its summer break- would have to be a creepy stalker to find the teacher when school is not in session.