<p>Do you guys think it's ever okay to date your high school teacher after graduation, given that the student is a mature 18 year-old and teacher is in 20s or early 30s? </p>
<p>I am aware that this is a little weird, but is it immoral or unethical on the teacher's (or student's) part? </p>
<p>Just wondering..</p>
<p>Might raise a few eyebrows if you were in their class. Not to mention even if you are a "mature" 18 year old there's still a huge difference between what you are now and what you'll be in two years while they're still someone that would date one of their high school students.</p>
<p>I don't see anything wrong with it considering both are adults but I don't make the laws.</p>
<p>I have the most wonderful science teacher in the world and would go out with him in a heartbeat. We're only 4/5 years apart. But thats only in my dreams.</p>
<p>There is a definite line between student/teacher. I wouldn't cross it. No matter how mature you are now, the teacher has more than you. If you started a relationship a few years after graduation, I can see the lines blur a bit more.</p>
<p>No matter how much I connect with my teacher, he is a paid educator to benefit my learning.</p>
<p>i think it will come back to hurt both of you, in different ways. when word gets out ( and it will) he'll be under close scrutiny by parents and teachers AND administrators in his district. if he doesn't yet have tenure, this'll probably cause him to not get it. you will most likely lose out, as well. at the age of 18, there's an apparent(not exactly sure of his age) huge age gap, but more importantly, the relationship was/is built on unequal ground...teacher/student. and that theme will remain within the relationship. and altho he /you wouldn't be breaking any laws, he would have used his PRIOR privileged position with you to gain personal access to you. not so different from a past therapist dating a patient, etc.</p>
<p>Here's an interesting story - a former teacher of mine (in their 50s or 60s) married a former student of theirs (when they became an adult), and there was like a twenty to thirty year discrepancy in their ages. Needless to say, when my class heard this story, there were a few eyebrows raised, despite the relationship occurring decades after they were student and teacher.</p>
<p>My point is to wait a few years if you want to have a relationship with a former teacher, otherwise, it might be rather awkward.</p>
<p>Depends, is the student a girl or boy?</p>
<p>I'm thinking about the student being a girl and teacher around 10 years older. But I'm also interested your take on this situation regardless of gender roles.</p>
<p>Why should it matter whether the student is a girl or a boy?</p>
<p>One of my science teachers married one of her students. There's like a 4 or 5 year age difference. It's pretty gross actually considering someone would actually marry her. yuck.</p>
<p>^ I don't get the "yuck" here......</p>
<p>Gender plays a big role in this because an older guy with a younger girl...
Well, it's quite self explanatory.</p>
<p>ew ew ew . even the movie, "Never Been Kissed" which is incredibly cute, totally grosses me out! </p>
<p>and.... i think there is a big deal. that would be so weird to have that stigma for the rest of your life! it is just plain sketchy and always will be from an outsiders point of view.</p>
<p>but why does it matter how other people take it...?
aren't we always told to do whatever that works for us?</p>
<p>I'm playing the devil's advocate here...</p>
<p>An english teacher at our school recently got engaged to one of his former volleyball players (and student), everyone is pretty much grossed out, which isn't exactly fair, but I think it's just really weird to see someone as a teacher for so long, then suddenly consider that same person in a totally different light. It's like two entirely different criteria...</p>
<p>There are two teachers that have had "relations" with students after graduation. Everyone knows about it, but nothing has been done to them thus far. I think it makes the teacher more interesting ... as well as a bit more creepy.</p>
<p>My sophomore English teacher married one of his professors in colleges, albeit that is a totally different arena from high school.</p>
<p>A teacher at my school just got engaged to a student who graduated a couple years ago... the reason it is disturbing is because it was pretty apparent that they had something going on before she even graduated, but waited until afterwards to go public about it. Also the 13 year age difference. I'm sorry but I just find it weird that teachers would even look at students in that way, I think as the older person it is their responsibility as professionals not to lead students on or get involved with them. Can't they find someone their own age??</p>
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Do you guys think it's ever okay to date your high school teacher after graduation, given that the student is a mature 18 year-old and teacher is in 20s or early 30s?
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If anything, the age raises eyebrows. No matter how mature an 18-year old is, dating someone middle-aged is questionable. Especially with a mentor-like figure, in which case people would be quick to assume he or she had some sort of influence over the student.</p>
<p>Besides, why would the current student body find out about it? ;)</p>
<p>Alex</p>
<p>I think teachers who find looking at students are very creepy. I know at least three at my school, who are pretty blatant. I would like to fight them. </p>
<p>There is probably one of these guys at every school. </p>
<p>I don't think people like that should be teaching, they should be in jail or working somewhere without young girls.</p>