I believe she is in her 40s but she is still good looking
what are my chances with her? what do you guys think? should I go ahead with this idea? and how should I do it? I haven’t seen her since graduation and if she says no then it’s a no and I won’t see her again, nothing to lose…
She could risk losing her job, her state license and her credential because if there is even a hint that she paid you any attention, even innocently, then she’s done. Why would you put her in that kind of risk?
According to one of your other threads, you were failing all your classes last fall. Did you withdraw and go back to cc? It would be better to focus on your academics and get those back on track than to focus on an old HS teacher.
I’m sure she would appreciate the idea that she is “still good looking” at 40.
And what on earth would she have in common with a 20 year old? Particularly one she’s taught?? We tend to think of all our students as “kids”-- read posts from teachers, that’s inevitably what we call our students.
None…don’t even go there. A 40 year old divorcee is not interested. Trust me, been there. She gets plenty of male attention from her own peers. She is not looking for a fling with a 21 year old to make her feel young or desirable. I found myself at that time having to explain this to young guys…(I’m good. I don’t need your “generosity”…but thanks for thinking of an old lady;)
Assuming you just like her or hit it off on an emotional level, then out of respect for her, just walk away. This would be very embarrassing for her. And it would be disrespecting her position in your past life. No one wants people to spread rumors about them and a former student out at IHOP Saturday night…
In the stone age when I went to school, 2 different male teachers began dating female students immediately after the students graduated.
For those of us who were seniors the next year and had these men as teachers, the ick factor was through the roof.
Oh and the “relationships” were pretty short-lived. I feel bad for the young ladies involved, and I certainly wonder what kind of “attention” they may have been paid as minor students.
OP, I’m sure your former teacher is lovely, but there are lots of lovely women out there. Go look for them.
The OP’s academic record is extraneous to the discussion. Presumably, if the OP has contact with his ex-teacher and she indicates no interest, he has enough sense to get the message. We have plenty of teachers having extra-marital affairs with current students, so the notion that it’s impossible to have this sort of interest is ignoring reality.
And, the facts are that both are unmarried adults who are not in a student-teacher relationship.
There is nothing wrong with it despite the squeamishness that some feel the need to express.
Disagree. The OP needs to get priorities straight. This discussion is getting creepy, and any teaching having an affair with a student should be reported. Immediately.