<p>Which colleges do you think have a prevalent dating scene or even a bigger dating scene than hook-up culture?</p>
<p>Define "date" and we can have a discussion. I have had many dates and for the most part it involves planning and paying expense of person you invite. I think this is not school related but what do I know.</p>
<p>fyi, go to the college life forum on CC for this type of thread</p>
<p>I think the schools with a religious affiliation are more inclined to have the kind of dating culture to which you refer. Aside from those schools, my theory is that the best dating cultures where you are considering the possibilities of long term commitments are NOT found at the elite private universities. Students there are too driven by work and career. Their lives are out of balance. Relationships are not a top priority. Students there are more in love with achievement than with people.</p>
<p>The best dating cultures where possible commitments might develop are at the public Ivies and selective top 100 private universities below the top 20 or 30. And also at the selective top 100 LACs below the top 15.</p>
<p>What you are looking for is an intelligent student body but with students whose top priority is still human relationships, not money, success, or esteem.</p>
<p>Well, this is depressing.
Should I just not bother and focus entirely on my studies, then? >_></p>
<p>Relationships should never be a top priority, but I'm not exactly looking for a "culture."</p>
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I think the schools with a religious affiliation are more inclined to have the kind of dating culture to which you refer. Aside from those schools, my theory is that the best dating cultures where you are considering the possibilities of long term commitments are NOT found at the elite private universities. Students there are too driven by work and career. Their lives are out of balance. Relationships are not a top priority. Students there are more in love with achievement than with people.
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A: Can I go out with you?
B: What?!
A: We've been talking to each other for two months...why should my question be such a surprise?</p>
<p>can someone continue B for me; thanks</p>
<ol>
<li>Be Mormon</li>
<li>Go to Brigham Young University</li>
<li>???</li>
<li>Profit</li>
</ol>
<p>I have found, across the board, that many college students engage in the hook up culture their first two years and then begin to date in a traditional sense in their last two. My college roommates constantly dated different guys in our jr. and sr. year.</p>
<p>^ I agree. ^</p>
<p>lawl at BYU</p>
<p>If you're interested in getting in a long-term relationship, then only look for other people that are as well. Try to meet people in clubs and activities instead of parties where there's heavy drinking. I'm sure you'll be able to find people of both sexes that are more interested in a stable relationship than blowing the whole night trying to bone someone. After all, once you're in a good relationship you can pretty much get it whenever you want!</p>
<p>^ Hey bro. Just wondering, do you follow me around or is it just a coincidence that you always post after me in threads? :-P</p>
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dents there are too driven by work and career. Their lives are out of balance. Relationships are not a top priority. Students there are more in love with achievement than with people.</p>
<p>The best dating cultures where possible commitments might develop are at the public Ivies and selective top 100 private universities below the top 20 or 30. And also at the selective top 100 LACs below the top 15.
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<p>Well, at my top 15 LAC there is plenty of "dating" (ie. people in realtionships, though maybe not so much with actual dates)...people aren't like what you described at all (even the ones not looking for a realtionship aren't that way because they are "more in love with achievement than with people"). </p>
<p>There is a big hookup culture, but also a lot of people who want realtionships instead. I've also found that many people who participate in the hookup culture here also want or would be open to a realtionship. I feel like this is true at a lot of places, or at least lot more than people think. </p>
<p>Some schools brag about the higher number of alumns who marry other alumns...those schools probably having something of a dating scene :D</p>
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I think the schools with a religious affiliation are more inclined to have the kind of dating culture to which you refer. Aside from those schools, my theory is that the best dating cultures where you are considering the possibilities of long term commitments are NOT found at the elite private universities. Students there are too driven by work and career. Their lives are out of balance. Relationships are not a top priority. Students there are more in love with achievement than with people.</p>
<p>The best dating cultures where possible commitments might develop are at the public Ivies and selective top 100 private universities below the top 20 or 30. And also at the selective top 100 LACs below the top 15.</p>
<p>What you are looking for is an intelligent student body but with students whose top priority is still human relationships, not money, success, or esteem.
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<p>What an outrageous caricature. For starters, you presume that your value of relationships having priority over career and success is superior. That is just your opinion.</p>
<p>Secondly, there's simply no truth whatsoever to this caricature of students at top schools.</p>
<p>I don't think they assumed that, they just assumed people at very rigorous schools tend to be more career oriented than relationship. I know I actually put my girlfriend going to school near my grad school in both the Pro and Con column. Pro, because it's nice that we'll see each other more than four times a year, con because I knew she'd be a distraction to my studies and work.</p>
<p>lfecollegeguy, we probably just go through the forums in the same order. :p</p>
<ol>
<li>Be Christian</li>
<li>Harding College in Arkansas (where over 70% of the alum meets their spouse there, its called a marriage factory)</li>
<li>????</li>
<li>Profit</li>
</ol>
<p>FWIW, my D just finished her freshman year at an Ivy and, (keeping in mind that she is prone to exaggerate) claims that "everyone" is in a relationship there! Including her.</p>
<p>I think there is some truth to my generalization that students at elite schools devalue relationships relative to "success" in other areas. </p>
<p>I think it also depends somewhat on your major. Some majors, like engineering, appeal to ambitious students. Some majors, like sciences and engineering, are more demanding and leave less time for relationships.</p>
<p>Availability is also a consideration. Some of the tech schools have a very low percent female (20%-30%). Dating has to be a challenge at all-women schools. Engineering programs, some business and econ programs are dominated by males. Some programs are dominated by international and Asian students, like engineering.</p>
<p>It becomes a lot harder to meet people after you graduate. When you are in school, you are surrounded by peers. Once you graduate, you are surrounded by a much more diverse group of people with whom you have less in common.</p>
<p>I think achievements will feel rather empty for 30-somethings when you have nobody special to share with.</p>
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I think there is some truth to my generalization that students at elite schools devalue relationships relative to "success" in other areas.
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<p>You can think and generalize all you want, but it will not make your statement true.</p>
<p>"Some programs are dominated by international and Asian students, like engineering."
-so Asians and internationals don't date? What are you trying to say with this?</p>
<p>"I think achievements will feel rather empty for 30-somethings when you have nobody special to share with."</p>
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<li>i'm not sure what to make of this statement, are you going through a quarter life crisis?</li>
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