<p>Roshke, yes she did tour Maryland and did like it. She liked it more than I did, actually.</p>
<p>Geezermom:</p>
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I have said a similar silent thank-you that my freshman son and his friends did not actively compare college lists, in some cases until they began to hear from schools. They were respectful of each other's individual interests, not overly swayed by prestige, and driven by what they wanted, not what they thought they should want. It's hard for kids (parents, too) to stay out of the one-upmanship of the admissions process and avoid being influenced, distracted, or hurt by others' opinions. Some HS counselors actually recommend that students keep their lists to themselves. That's good advice.
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<p>You know, that is an interesting point.</p>
<p>D's friends have talked about colleges a lot. At first, D seemed not to like these conversations, as they made her feel stressed and inadequate.</p>
<p>Lately, though, I've noticed that she does seem to know which school is the favorite of all of her friends, and she knows who is applying ED. The surprising thing is that there is next to no overlap between her list and theirs.</p>
<p>Of her closest friends, we have favorite schools of Tufts ED, Univ of Wisconsin, Vanderbilt ED, a Wake Forest ED, a fashion institute, and Lehigh. It sounds like she is listening to what these friends have to say in evaluating these schools but somehow isn't signing on to those same schools. Indeed, she seems to be actively resisting one in particular (Tufts) that she liked when she visited. Weird, huh? </p>
<p>Maybe the thinking there is that if she doesn't apply where others are applying, there won't be that awkward moment when they find out one friend was admitted and one was not?</p>
<p>Now. Contrast this to what is going on with the parents. I swear, I cannot swing a dead cat without hitting somebody who asks me to tell them the list of schools that interest D. I tell them I am sworn to secrecy, and this seems to get me off the hook. Still, these friends will volunteer what their kids are considering. For the D of a running buddy, I know that she is applying ED to Haverford and is the only one at her prestigious private school doing so, including test scores and ECs.</p>
<p>It's DC. People are insane. What can you do?</p>