Plan B indeed.
That was exactly my point. Depending on the individual concerned and/or the given educational environment, being in a relationship is fine and could even enhance one’s studies.
For other individuals and/or depending on a given educational environment, being in a relationship can serve as a distraction from one’s studies with the associated negative consequences.
This is one major reason many parents/families I knew of discouraged dating in HS or even undergrad. They were fearful of the possibility it could end up being the latter and instead of being on track to graduate within 4-5 years…the romantic relationship in HS/college causes those educational plans to be derailed with all of its associated difficulties for the student concerned and his/her family. They want to avoid that if possible…even if the attempt at avoidance is more illusory than real.
Sorry I don’t buy that shacking up is the cause.
It is completely possible to get decent grades while shacking up. I know of many students who shack up and that get good grades.
My daughter just told me her boyfriend got all A’s this semester, the first time he ever had grades that high. I asked her why and she said “Because I made him study.” She didn’t get all A’s, but did pretty well. I think she is much happier at school this year because of her BF, so I don’t care if she might have had a 4.0 if she had no boyfriend. He makes her happy.
My D1’s boyfriend (started dating 2nd semester freshman year, still dating – oops, I guess “shackling up” now 7 years later) was more diligent than she was. He was a good influence – they both graduated Phi Beta Kappa. You can’t assume a significant other automatically causes a dive in grades.
“shackling up”
funny typo!
OP gone. Dead horse successfully beaten. /thread
Given how a couple of posters so misrepresented her child and others latching onto an image of a stoned pregnant girl with possible EFD stuck with (or abandoned by) a loser boyfriend, if I were the OP, I’d bail too.
There were helpful posts until, oh, around #30. Then this thread became something that was sport for CC’rs than helpful to the OP. Why come back for that?
Agree I just read this thread. CC at its worst.
A good relationship can support one’s success in college. A bad one could certainly derail it. But so can friend drama, or family problems, inability to make friends, anxiety or depression, excessive partying, etc. I would bet that simply the fact of being in a relationship is one of the less common reasons young people fail out of college.