It sounds like you’re doing well. Congratulations.
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I got accepted post-Baccalaureate to NAU a few weeks ago.
But, it still doesn’t take away the sting of losing a couple good, formative college years.
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You can’t change the past.
But you can go forward and enjoy the future! Congratulations on your accomplishment!!
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Congratulations !
You can never go back but now the future is all yours. Don’t be tethered to an abusive parent - get your own life started and keep going. Very happy you got into NAU.
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Great news, OP!! Congratulations!
We all carry our past with us in some way. There are so many things in life we cannot control, but we can decide how we’re going to react to them as well as how much power we give others to affect how we feel. That’s not as easy as it sounds, so give yourself credit for owning and creating your own future. Hope it feels as awesome and big to you as it is!
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This would probably be a good discussion to have with a professional, which we are not on this forum…at least the vast majority of us.
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I have, she says that since I can’t control the past I have to let it go.
Which I should, but I lost two good formative college years because of this.
Hopefully you find a way to move past the tough times. Someday perhaps you will be able to look back on it without as much pain.
Sidebar story: Due to family/finance challenges, my husband took a long and winding road putting himself through college. (We lightheartedly refer to it as his “eleven year plan”). It turned out OK because we actually met in class during his last 2 years. I am 7 years younger, so the family joke is that he was just biding his time until I was old enough to date.
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My H put himself through college by working and going to school as well—it took him 7 years. He learned a lot in his jobs over those 7 years. 
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It’s funny how even all these many decades later, the jobs he held weave into connections with people he meets. Earlier in November, we were at a luncheon and the NY artist he was talking to was a student of an artist that H showed slides for in HI as one of his student jobs. It’s a small world.
When we are talking about macademia nuts, he mentions the research they did on them when he was a student employee. Same with several tropical fruits. He acquired a wealth of experiences in his campus jobs.
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You also undoubtedly gained something during those two years by doing other things. And what you gained probably sets you apart from your peers, in a positive way.
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@Zonie2013 I don’t think any of the parents here want to belittle your losses.
I am an old lady now (75), old enough to see the where the roads not taken actually took me. But that’s a tough nut to swallow at your age. At my daughter’s (27) age too! I hope your counseling/therapy helps you make yourself the best life ahead. Only the best. 
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