<p>I am at my wits end, we butt heads daily, he is always right and he forgets things that are in the present not the past so this starts arguments. He can't do things so he says I am going to do this today and I have to step in and do it. I just had three knee replacements due to complications and it hurts me to do these things. Yesterday he said he can do all this on his own, he can't. I just graduated and I have put off getting employment, he pays me $75.00 weekly. I cannot live on this, but he has the money and it would cost him $400 weekly if he had someone else in here......AHHHH. I don't know what to do. I am meeting with a career counselor next week to see what my options are....</p>
<p>You need to have a talk with your father – made harder by the fact that he appears to have dementia – and explain that you tried your best to be his caretaker, but can’t do it.<br>
You will help him to arrange for other care. You can offer to continue to help in less burdensome ways like with shopping, bill paying, etc. There is no way out of this awful situation without being honest and firm.</p>
<p>Also check the disability and senior services in your area to see what care he may qualify for under his insurance or even his veteran’s benefits if he is a vet. Posting on the Parent’s Cafe here may result in other informed advice as some of the parents here also are caretakers for their parents.</p>