Dealing with Classmates

<p>Right, so I'm certain this will sound arrogant/elitist/what have you, and would like to start out by saying that that's not the intent. However, I was wondering: how do you guys deal with being smarter than your classmates? I'm always asked by my friends to show them my report cards/progress reports and I hate doing that because it feels like I'm gloating, or if I get a grade I'm disappointed with someone always jokes that they'd love to have it and it is, candidly, obnoxious as hell. So. How do you respond to this sort of remark?</p>

<p>Never say how you did on anything. Never ask about grades. Ask, "Are you happy with your grade?" If people ask you about yours, just say, "I did pretty well," or "Aw, man, I wish I'd studied harder." </p>

<p>Count the hours until college.</p>

<p>Yeah... the best way to avoid talking about grades is to not talk about grades.</p>

<p>Just say, "No. You don't want to see them."</p>

<p>If they ask, you shouldn't have to avoid telling them. I get this on both sides. Most people make comments like that about my grades, but bthere's a handful of people-including a guy who got a freaking 99 on the Calculus midterm-that I'm guilty of saying things like "ugh"</p>

<p>"I'm always asked by my friends to show them my report cards/progress reports and I hate doing that because it feels like I'm gloating"</p>

<p>holy molly! i'm not alone! i wrote my stanford short essay on getting this feeling... i can show u it later if you want, but... wow, never thought anyone else would feel this way.</p>

<p>Hahah...you must go to a public regular school. I go to a magnet school, and never ask my friends to see their reports cards. Why? Someone will ALWAYS get higher than the next. SATs...I don't even try.</p>

<p>I know the feeling silentsailor and IVYPoison. I am one of two people in my junior class who scored in the 99th percentile on the PSAT, and it is just awkward discussing my scores with people who didn't do so well.</p>

<p>ha i wish. My school is so freaking competitive sometimes. The day SAT scores come out... gah.</p>

<p>I totally understand that feeling. A lot of times I'll just be ambiguous - instead of saying my actual score for the PSAT, I'll say that I would've qualified for National Merit if I were a junior (my score was 16 pts higher than the cutoff in my state). Also, I always try to get the point across that I am satisfied with my high-but-not-perfect score and that I'm not uber perfectionistic.</p>

<p>I hate sharing grades, particularly if soemone might be doing better than me in a class or if I know someone isn't doing well...It's like when you just ask someone how they did, and they happily state their grade...Then, they ask you, and you got higher...It's so awkward.</p>

<p>Totally agree mcz. Last year, I was one of 15 or 16 sophomores in my APUSH class. With the exception of maybe one or two people, we were most of the top 16 spots in our class. When it turned out that I was one of three who got an A first quarter of the class, it just became so awkward between me and all my friends in the class who didn't. They were all struggling, talking about how hard it was, saying "I'm so happy that I got a B+!" Then someone turns to me and asks my grade, and I just kind of had to go "Uhhhhhhhhhhh..." I hate that!</p>

<p>I don't think it's particularly surprising that a CCer has to deal with this issue. If you feel uncomfortable about it, then just don't share your grades. Pretty soon people will stop coming to you and asking "what did you get on..."</p>

<p>well i just said my grade. well i really hate the awes and all that part but one time i tried to hide it and they were relentless.</p>

<p>Yeah, the problem is more of how to not say my grade without having people ask again and again, like imiricle said. Glad to hear other peope have the same problem - not that it's a good thing, of course, just that it's nice to hear I'm not the only one :) Thanks for the National Merit thing, orchdorkbando, I think I'll start saying that.</p>

<p>I really don't ask people about their grades or SAT scores for that matter. I mean it really isn't any of my business...to me it is a personal matter.</p>

<p>I lie. I tend to subtract 5-10 points from my real grade.</p>

<p>i'm not exactly the smartest kid in my entire school because theres a lot of grade inflation among kids in the top of my class, but i have some classes with friends like art and w/e, and theyre always saying how im a walking dictionary or infallible, its a lot of hot air u know, and frankly too high a standard to live up to, even if i did take it seriously, which i dont i just brush it off cuz they don't know what theyre talking about. i find it best to think to myself that i could be the greatest fool in the world when it comes to some things, and it keeps one from getting a big head when something like that gets said.</p>

<p>Well if you feel uncomfortable to show it and don't like the comments, then don't show it. Just say "No."</p>

<p>PUNKiiE you made the situation sound like as if it was dealing with drugs (just say "no"). Just one of my random thoughts. =)</p>