<p>How do you bring yourself to deal with disappointment? For motivation I remind myself of my goals but that seems to hurt more when disappointment strikes.</p>
<p>How do you deal with low test scores, lost elections, and low standardized test scores? Is there any way to fully combat disappointment? How does one escape from the fear of being rejected by a dream college?</p>
<p>Step 1: Get rejected.
Step 2. Get over it. </p>
<p>Stanford rejected me. I was sad for about 10 minutes, then I decided UCLA won’t be so bad after all (now hopefully I’ll get into UCLA). Rejection is not a big deal. Its not personal, and there are TONS of great schools out there. Success depends more on who you are than what school you go to. You won’t even care in a few months.</p>
<p>It hurts, but you move forward. My S was rejected by UNC Chapel Hill recently. One of his dream schools. Ah, well. Whether you believe in fate, or not, it’s a nice thought to fall back on sometimes ;). If you don’t get into some school…call it fate…“not meant to be”… That’s what has always helped me during disappointment. </p>
<p>Now if you are talking about test scores not being what you had hoped, that’s a bit different. You DO have control over that. You can work harder prepping (take a course!) and improve your scores. Have seen 300 pt. jumps on the SAT even. So, don’t take too long to wallow in your misery --get yourself up and get ready to take what ever it was, again! At least if you get rejected by some school, you know that you were as good as you could be on that application. No regrets, right? Then move on! The best is yet to come :)</p>
<p>Jkiwmom - your post was very inspiring. I love your positive attitude. Thanks for that.</p>
<p>Qdawg - how did your sadness only stay for 10 minutes. I have not yet been rejected from a college but I fear for when I am.</p>
<p>Honestly, there are other schools at which you will be happy besides UVA. Many, many schools. I guarantee it. (Unless you’re the kind of person who wouldn’t be happy anywhere.) By the time you’re a freshman entering college, you may very well be a quite different person than who you are today.</p>
<p>Relax about college. [Change your location.]</p>
<p>I was deferred from Yale… it wasn’t a rejection, but still, I knew people who got in. In the weeks leading up to the decision I got very anxious, wondering how hard I’d take it if I got rejected. I hardly even cared when I saw I’d been deferred, and I thought I wouldv’e had a much stronger negative reaction. A good friend of mine was rejected. She cried when she first found out. She was depressed/upset for like a week, maybe. Then, she got over it, and now she’s perfectly happy–especially with some nice scholarship offers to mull over. :)</p>
<p>When it comes down to it, it’s either yes or no.</p>
<p>Whatever happens happens. </p>
<p>Like J.Cole said, I get up.</p>
<p>I think it’s just a matter of putting things in perspective and moving forward. When I get low test scores (I have some experience with this, until I got my act together for standardized testing :D), I felt upset or sad, but then I realized that there’s no point in feeling sorry for myself. You just get back up and improve. Although, to be honest, I have no idea how I would handle rejection from any of my top-choice colleges. It would probably take me a while to get over that.</p>
<p>Everything works itself out. So don’t worry about anything.</p>
<p>Jkiwmom - your post was very inspiring. I love your positive attitude. Thanks for that.</p>
<p>Qdawg - how did your sadness only stay for 10 minutes. I have not yet been rejected from a college but I fear for when I am.</p>
<p>Sorry for the double post - on my Blackberry.</p>
<p>Thank you guys for the motivation. I think I will cry if I receive a rejection, it’s life it has ups and downs but you learn to live with it. I have been trying to tell myself that a rejection isn’t necessarily a rejection of myself but rather a rejection of my fit for the school. </p>
<p>I really do thank you all for your posts. It cheered me up a bit :)</p>
<p>I applied to a lot of other great schools, and I’m guaranteed into a decent one. I’m going to end up where I belong. what was there to be sad about? Its their loss, not mine. There is hardly anything that one school can offer me that another school can’t also offer me (aside from brand-name recognition, obviously). I, however, am unique and will make a difference in the world no matter where I go. College is such a small step on the way to greatness, after all.</p>
<p>Be a pessimist and then you aren’t so disappointed…</p>
<p>Kind of, but when you get disappointed think half full. There are other chances and other paths.</p>
<p>Animals will make u feel better. So get a cat. But if u r rilly unset then a dog is better.</p>
<p>You should realize that your body will be rotting in a grave sometime in the next 70 or 80 years and it doesn’t matter if you accomplished everything you ever aspired to or if you failed at everything you did. Worms and other scavengers won’t care as long as you are delectable.</p>
<p>^that is effective advice for dealing with dissapointment how?</p>
<p>As I have noted before, kollegekid gives great advice.</p>
<p>^Well yeah, he’s already in kollege, so he’s way smarter than the rest of us.</p>
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<p>Well, you’re going to be dead, so you shouldn’t worry about being dissapointed. Society doesn’t care whether or not you met your expectations and you shouldn’t either. Lighten up, they’ll be dead in 70 years most likely as well.</p>