Decency in Dorm Room

<p>Thought of this the other day after I was making a list of stuff I use every day. </p>

<p>I'm curious as to what people show and don't show in a room. I mean....for a guy...I'm not talking about walking around nude 24 hours a day or anything, but is it okay to change shorts/pants/underwear/etc in your room and be in your underwear or naked for just a couple of seconds, assuming you're not parading all around? Are roomates comfortable with this? Or is it neccessary to go the bathroom just to switch pairs of underwear every single time? </p>

<p>Weird question, I know...but I'm used to changing in my room at home of course, and just wondered what the "standards" are, if any, in a dorm with another person present?</p>

<p>Thanks.</p>

<p>You should definitely get comfortable changing underwear in front of your roommate.</p>

<p>Generally, from my experiences and what I've observed in my dorm, the "standards" of what's ok when the roomie is present are as follows with some variation:
--changing completely, including underwear (naked for a second) -- OK, but assume no eye contact during this time
--walking around in your room in boxers (guys) / bra and panties (girls) for a minute or a short while, including eye contact -- usually ok.
--hanging out in your room in boxers / bra and panties for long period of time -- sometimes ok, sometimes not ok, depending on the particular roommate pair and their comfort levels
--walking around naked (both) or topless (girls) -- generally not ok</p>

<p>yeah, definitely gauge comfort levels. I'm a girl, and in the beginning of my freshman year, we used to go to the bathroom to change (although it was a different scenario since my school is nyu and everybody has bathrooms in the dorm rooms) but the point is, later in the semester, we all started to become more comfortable with each other, and by november, everyone was walking around in their underwear in the hallway, and nobody cared.</p>

<p>I never took off more than my underwear when my roommate was around, but then again I never really changed my underwear unless I was taking a shower anyway, at which point I wasn't even in the room. My roommate did pretty much the same. Usually everyone makes a point not to look in the direction of the other person when they're changing.</p>

<p>i have the walk-in closet so i just go in there and change. definitely close the windows before u take anything off (except ur shoes and glasses) though.</p>

<p>my roommate and i changed in the room with each other all the time, we just looked the other way when each other is changing. i actually do that with pretty much all of my friends.. no problem changing with them in the room as long as they are looking the other way, and I trust them that they won't peep.</p>

<p>we walk around half naked in the dorm all the time....and changing isnt a problem...its not like all four of us are checking out each other or anything</p>

<p>I was in athletics in junior high and then for marching practice in high school everyone changed clothes for class, and I still have to get to know someone fairly well before I feel comfortable changing around them...and I would never change underwear around them. Like someone else said, shower time's pretty much the time that should get done anyway.</p>

<p>When I stayed in a dorm for a summer program, my roommate and I had no problem changing clothes in front of each other. When it came down to changing underwear/bras, we either looked away, or opened a closet door to serve as a mini wall. It's just not worth it trekking back and forth to the bathroom everytime you wanna change your underwear especially if you use a communal bathroom.</p>

<p>I think it depends on how self conscious both you and your rommie are, and what your relationship is. I am not yet in colege but I do go to a part boarding school. People change in the locker rooms for sports in front of each other and the showers in the gym are one big open room. I guess it's just your personal comfort level but I wouldn't really have a problem changing in front of a roomie. That being said, just hanging around naked is kind of awkward and I'm not sure why people would do it. Just in underwear though is fine in my opinion, I mean it's like being at the beach for both guys and girls right? Last year we had this dance and 15 guys including me went in just boxers a tie and a sport cote/suit jacket. It was pretty funny until we were sent away to change.... now I am off topic... sorry.</p>

<p>I'm just going to warn my roommate before I change my boxers. Being in boxers and having my roommate just wearing boxers wouldn't bother me either.</p>

<p>I dont understand why this is a problem.</p>

<p>If you are both males then well It shoudlent matter.</p>

<p>I get naked in my Gym all the time and take a shower in a community shower before Im off to work. everybody does, so what seems to be the problem?</p>

<p>Changing in front of a stranger can be uncomfortable...so that is the problem.</p>

<p>I admit...I have been spoiled with the luxury of having my own bathroom. </p>

<p>Still, bras and undies are okay with me. Full nudity is something I couldn't handle.</p>

<p>why not though, It doesn't bother me.</p>

<p>I really dont see to many guys my age getting naked in the gym, alot of them go and change in a stall or something.</p>

<p>Not really sure why?</p>

<p>"why not though, It doesn't bother me."</p>

<p>Just because something doesn't apply to you doesn't mean that everyone else feels the same way.</p>

<p>Being in sports all through highschool, I'm really used to walking around in thong/bra in front of people (I assume we've all been to the beach before...no different unless you're wearing something particularly sexy ;)), and yes, making eye contact/having conversation. In the beginning I went and changed in the bathrooms and everybody thought it was really weird, so I just stopped. </p>

<p>As far as any part being completely naked, I would definitely have to utilize a closet (although I don't foresee this even being a problem, b/c yeah, like people said I only change underwear when I take a shower?).</p>

<p>when I go to college, I would never "expose myself" to my roomate. I would always change in the bathroom (privacy).</p>

<p>of corse not, thats why Im interested in why it would bother you?</p>

<p>I just don't like the idea of exposing too much "skin"... Thats why I never wear shorts and Also its because I have a slight tummy and don't want people looking at me...</p>

<p>ehgahd. Another thing to worry about with dorms. </p>

<p>I think it would be really weird to change your underwear in front of a complete stranger. I won't change in front of my sisters. It's just weird.</p>

<p>I think I'd get a bit freaked out if my roomie 'bared it all' while I was there.</p>