Hi all,
I am a rising junior at a top-5 LAC, and I am debating whether or not I should take time off from school. I’m experiencing the worst depression of my life, and I’m terrified of being too low to function when I return to campus. I have a week and a half until I return to school. I have up until the day before classes to decide whether I will return. Please excuse the ranty nature of this message; bear with me as I try to be as brief as possible.
To say the least, my experience at school has been nightmarish. Perhaps what is hardest is that I haven’t found my people; I have a few acquaintances with whom I’ve struggled to connect. My roommate situations during both years (different people) were toxic, which only made me feel inferior and unworthy. Extreme stress and isolation led me to drink to excess my freshman year. This led to sexual assault on two occasions, a hospital visit, and endless shame that I can’t seem to shake. This year, I took a break from alcohol but made no close friends. I constantly eat meals alone, which is basically taboo at my school. I spend an unhealthy amount of time alone, despite efforts to meet more people. It drives me crazy. At this point, I feel like social circles have solidified, and I’m just out of luck.
Academics aren’t much better than my social life. I decided to change my major from physics to economics sophomore year due to a growing lack of interest in physics (which I loved in high school) and shame surrounding my assault (my assailant was my physics TA). Now, I’ve become disillusioned with my new major, which is chock full of people who are in it because it’s (more or less) a pipeline to finance. My coursework feels like nothing more than a chore. I have a 3.74 GPA, but I feel that is not competitive.
Moreover, due to low self esteem, I secured two crappy internships (unrelated to my major) over the past two summers just for the sake of having them. Now I’m afraid these experiences will hurt my resume more than anything. Strong job prospects don’t seem to be on the horizon either.
Ultimately, I have no idea what I’m doing with my life, and I feel purposeless and incredibly lonely. My self-confidence continues to plummet. I need help, but I fear that taking time off will derail my academic (and professional) career and lead to even deeper depression. I have no plans lined up for what I would do during my semester off, but I am absolutely dreading going back to campus. I constantly feel sick now just thinking about my future–I keep shaking and crying. I don’t want my parents to blow thousands of dollars for me to be somewhere where I’m regressing in every sense of the word. But I also don’t want to be a deadbeat burnout, sitting out the semester.
If you have any suggestions/insights, I would love to hear them. Any ideas are welcome.