I didn’t want to make a long post but I’ll do the best I can to explain my situation. Lately I’ve been very depressed and feel hopeless. In high school I was very quiet but my senior year I got a little depressed from my inability to start the initial parts of a relationship like all my close friends. This carried over to college and got very very bad my freshman year cause I stayed home and didn’t have much social contact. My second year I moved in at UGA with some of my friends and things got a lot better and improved a lot socially with making friends but was still no better at starting a relationship. The only thing I normally take pride in is that I do well in school, but now I’m in my fourth year trying to be an electrical engineer and between calc 4, circuits, programming, and biology I’m doing very poorly and really hating it. I’ve kept a 3.3 gpa up to this point be it’s not looking like that will last. This combined with the fact that I feel completely inable to start the initial parts of a relationship going on 22 year old. It seems like Il never learn at this point. And now that I’m questioning my major cause of how poorly I’m doing I just don’t know what to do with myself and feel hopeless and losing all motivation to stick my classes out. I would really appreciate any advice anyone is willing to give.
3.3 gpa in 4th year is pretty nice. Don’t even sweat the social stuff. I’m 30 now but when I was 18-22 I totally blew it with school I spent all my time partying and trying to chase social rank. It’s not worth it I’m now 30 with a 2.5 trying to wrap things up. One thing that’s helped me that you may want to consider is therapy/psychiatry especially if you have insurance! Take care of yourself!
Hugs to you. My D finished college with a sub 3.0. She was salutatorian of her HS and found college very challenging socially and academically.
She is also 22. Her last year was rough. She has anxiety and nearly derailed several times including just a few weeks before graduation. She has been in therapy, tried various meds and managed to graduate with a degree in EECS.
She graduated in May, has a new job, new boyfriend and seems much more balanced and happy with her life. Night and day.
How you are feeling now is not permanent. Not having a relationship now is temporary.
You might find therapy helpful. Be kind to yourself. We are all a work in progress.