<p>So, I was deferred REA for Princeton, but I was actually kind of happy at the decision - it made me realize that I really don't want to go to Princeton. Am I crazy for thinking this or has anyone else experienced this too?</p>
<p>You’re not crazy! I applied Brown ED and got deferred… The more I think about it, the happier I am that I didn’t get in! I think it has more to do with extra time to think as well as the sting of “you’re not quite good enough to go here.”</p>
<p>When I left my princeton interview, i was 100% convinced that I didnt want to go to princeton. My interview was terrible…I was a blabbering idiot compared to my alumni interviewee. </p>
<p>When I got my acceptance letter, I was beyond overjoyed. When I came home all i did was watch videos of princeton on youtube and just take in as much princeton culture as possible. I drank the Princeton kool-aid…and I loved it. Now i cant imagine myself anywhere else…</p>
<p>The mind is a funny thing.</p>
<p>No offense, but I’m glad I didn’t apply to Princeton SCEA. I would’ve most likely gotten deferred, and that would have made me subconsciously hate Princeton. Putting acrylicsalmon’s implied message into explicit words: love and hate, right and wrong, good and bad are all illusions that are cast into our minds by our surroundings.</p>
<p>I just want to say that you shouldn’t think that Princeton isn’t for you; for all we know, you might get accepted in the RD phase. Whatever happens, you’ll end up going to a great place and you’ll grow to think that it was the right place for you since even before you started applying. Keep in mind, the “great place” is variable at the moment, so don’t start building bonds with a particular college yet. This is why I love quantum mechanics. :)</p>
<p>Zaza94, I know EXACTLY what you’re talking about. I applied to Princeton SCEA and had to hype myself and say how awesome Princeton was, but getting deferred kinda killed it for me.</p>
<p>It’s not the deferral that killed the school for me; it was my reaction, or lack there of, for getting deferred…my guidance counselor thought I would’ve been devastated, but I wasn’t - makes me realize why Cornell is for me <3; now let’s hope I make Cornell loll</p>
<p>Err, I got into Princeton SCEA, and now i’m really questioning if it’s right for me. Weird right?</p>
<p>I had a minor breakdown yesterday when it hit me that the hardest was yet to come, in the next four years. I also felt afraid of committing because everyone around me was acting like this decision was a life-changer and the be all and end all, etc. I had aunts and uncles start talking about how X school is better and Y school is the best etc. So I started to see the positives of other schools more than I did in the fall, and the negatives of Princeton as well.</p>
<p>Also, before I got in, I was afraid of doing too much “research” on Princeton in case I would get too attached to it. Now, since I’m free to read and associate, I’m beginning to see criticisms and faults. Either people have just started talking badly about the school more or I’ve just begun to notice it more :(</p>
<p>Acrylic - “The mind is a funny thing.” 
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<p>Ceilingfan and speachy: Lots of us have “buyers’ remorse”. Hopefully you’ll get a chance to visit campus. Regardless of what you choose, you really need to let yourself off the hook – this isn’t going to shipwreck your life. It’s a choice at a fantastic school. you’ll be fine wherever you attend, most likely.</p>
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<p>Every college has its downsides, and I think it’s important to include them in your decision process. Try weighing the cons of two schools instead of their pros (or, as can happen when you’re having buyer’s remorse, weighing the pros of one school against the cons of another). For example, will grade deflation at Princeton bother you as much as the graduate school focus of Harvard (or whatever)?</p>
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<p>It’s also surprisingly adaptive, so much so that, as long as you make your decision based on good information and without external pressure, you’re very likely to be happy wherever you end up.</p>