<p>Has anyone here been asked to dinner by a future or potential adviser? Were you already accepted at that point, or were they (or you) still considering whether to 'seal the deal' on the adviser-student relationship? ... sounds kind of funny, but hopefully you know what I mean. </p>
<p>Also, any tips for being in that situation? </p>
<p>Much appreciated!</p>
<p>Can you clarify what you mean by an advisor? Is this the person who interviewed you for the college?</p>
<p>The professor whose lab you will be working in and who you’ll be doing research with/for.</p>
<p>Be yourself. If you feel nervous, own up to it and make light of it. Make a non-overstated compliment AND THEN ASK A QUESTION about the individual’s research, which you can read about on their website. If you’re into the same topics, conversation will flow easily, and then come around to whether you’d be a good match. </p>
<p>The reason why it’s critical to be yourself is that you are looking for a good match, not to win some sort of invisible game. Having dinner with a person can be a great way to establish if you’ll get along.</p>
<p>That sounds awesome. Free dinner. As long as there’s no weird sexual harassment aspect of this, go for it. It’s a way more casual environment than a formal interview, so just relax, be an active listener and engage with what they’re saying. No problemo and, again, free dinner!</p>
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<p>When they ask about drinks order a scotch. Use silverware from the outside in. Don’t look at your iPhone even once.</p>
<p>Haha! Perfect!</p>