Disabled Parent Effect on Admissions?

Hey, guys.

So, a while back, I posted this thread, which I’m going to repost so you can get the gist of my question:


In 1998, my father was diagnosed with a lumbar spinal disorder. To my knowledge, and I don’t know why the information would be kept, it practically came out of nowhere. Although my father was born premature (8 months), he never faced any other major problems aside from dental issues as well (i.e major overbite and crowding which had to be corrected, although since we aren’t talking a tooth practically growing the wrong way, this isn’t “uncommon”).

Born in 2000, I’ve known my father all my life as someone unable to move. He needs help walking to the bathroom, he varies in his dependency on myself. I had to learn to cook because my mother works long hours. It’s put incredible strain on extended family, my mother, and myself. I’ve had to stay home from school, go in late, or leave early to assist with doctor’s appointments, help because he’s in a bout of massive pain. Although he’s better now than he ever was, it’s just been hard.

I don’t want to push this off as something which has eaten up my life, although I’ve never openly related to someone who had an issue like this, I do know that I do have a LIFE outside of caring for my disabled parent. I still have friends, I still play video games, I still do sports. That said, though, I’ve been restricted. I’ve had to have coaches and advisers accommodate for my tardiness since I’m not permitted to participate in activities which might otherwise take my time up every single day after school or the like; heavens forbid my father needs help. He relies on me as much as he relies on my mother.

I just want to know- should I mention this? In my college application, should I at all point out my father’s disability? Or, might it hinder my chances? Could they see it that I’m just looking for a hand out and for sympathy?


That said, I also wanted to know if this could support my lack of a varsity position? Looking at the profile they had most recently, something like only 170 people got in without being a captain or receiving a varsity letter. I wanted to know if there’s some place I can make this apparent? I have almost 200 hours in volunteer work (I’m trying out for the Presidential Service Award and for the National Honor Society) shooting for another hundred or so by the end of 2017 and continuing after. I just don’t have time for such a scheduled and rigorous by-the-book set of sports. I’m very fit, and I’m trying to look good for the CFA as well?

Thoughts?

@DoctorShrinker: Do not make excuses anywhere on your application for anything. You will go through the application process for a congressional nomination before you can proceed to the academy application. You will appear before your senators’ and congressperson’s nominating panels for a personal interview and it is most likely that they will ask about your sports participation if they consider that to be a flag in your profile. That is an opportunity to discuss. You will also write an essay as part of the nomination process and may be able to address there, but do not belabor your father’s health issues. Instead, focus on what the academies are looking for in sports participation–teamwork, leadership, discipline, and fitness. You can show these traits without a varsity letter. If you receive a nomination, you will also write an essay as part of the academy application and can emphasize those traits there as well. Do not waste time regretting what’s in the past that cannot be remediated. Look forward and put together the strongest application you can. Remember, applicants are appointed based on the Whole Candidate Score (WCS) which is 60% academic, 30% leadership, and 10% fitness.

Good luck.

@ChoatieMom

Hey, thanks a bunch.

Sorry. I just read the profile of everyone during admissions (the one I believe YOU may have linked in a few posts) and I knocked myself around because of it. But y’know, you’re definitely right. I have the opportunity to prove my worth elsewhere, and to show that I’m not only a great fit for the military, but for West Point specifically. I have a 3.9 unweighted GPA, a 34 written ACT score, and I’ll be attempting the SAT at some point. I’ve got community planner positions under my belt.

Thanks a bunch, ChoatieMom. You really know your stuff, and thanks for giving me a bit more insight into the process. I shouldn’t make excuses for myself, and I should focus on honing in on that which I am capable of changing! +1

Also, @DoctorShrinker, you will be assigned a Field Force Rep (FFR) to guide you personally through this process. This person will be your first line for questions, honest evaluation, and advice as you go through this journey. Don’t rely on Internet strangers for the important stuff. Also, if you haven’t discovered it already, serviceacademyforums.com is the source for all questions related to the service academy (all five) application process. Please check it out if you haven’t already.