Disappointed with acceptance response. Should I be worried?

College Majors Music Major
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<p>I am new to this, so I am turning to all the experienced parents on this forum for help. Your advice would be greatly appreciated.</p>

<p>My son was accepted and given varying scholarships to seven schools. They varied from NY conservatories to CA private LACs, but, in general, very good schools. It felt great when he was getting calls from the instructors and eager emails. After agonizing for weeks, we made one last trip to a school with a storied reputation. No small feat...a school several states away. The trip wasn't perfect, some introductions didn't happen, and we were on our own to organize the day, but my son felt comfortable there. Several weeks later, he declined some of the best schools in the nation to
accept at a public institution. Immediately, I got emails from caring instructors and people in the "business" saying we made a mistake. Too big, too cold, he won't get the attention he deserves. I probably could dismiss the comments, but the day we hit the accept button...NOTHING. Not a welcome email, a great to have you email, a join our FB page email. Nothing! (And yes, he's enrolled in the system. No clerical error.) </p>

<p>I feel sick to my stomach. Has anyone out there regretted their decision? Or am I just a nervous parent? Surely everyone else is getting communication from their school. Right? Help, please!</p>

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<p>TradingFours: this is such a busy time of year for everyone in a school situation. Professors have their own performances, their students have culminating recitals and/or major paper defenses, and juries are coming up. Presumably it is also quite hectic for graduating seniors, who have academic responsibilities, social obligations, ceremonial plans, and general wrapping up this phase of their life. It sounds like everything is in order. There is nothing to be done now, except be sure about deposits and housing for the fall, which have NOTHING to do with the music school. Relax and enjoy this time with your son. </p>

<p>Public institutions tend to be big, true, but in a music school, there are many bonding experiences. He will be fine. In the largest, students have to be aggressive about seeking out performance opportunities, because they seldom drop in ones lap, but they all need to utilize that skill to be successful at all times of life. Your son will be fine, and you will enjoy watching him develop. </p>

<p>Good luck to everyone in your family! </p>

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<p>I’m confused. Was the school he choose the “storied reputation” school? Was his decision based on money? Sorry…dont’ get it. </p>

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<p>This is a duplicate thread–aka “Poor Communication from Chosen School” which already has a lot of posts. Let’s discontinue this one.</p>