My roommate and I have been fighting. It began somewhat minor and has been escalating. Last night we exchanged some words and I called him something he mentioned a while ago he did not like being called (has something to do with affirmative action), but later realized that the statement could be interpreted as racist (although being racist was not my intent, I only said it because he mentioned that it bothered him a lot when people said that)
I am anticipating a disciplinary hearing. What should I expect from the hearing and what kind of outcome should I expect? This would be my first encounter with student accountability
Have you apologized to him? Told him exactly why you said it (because you were mad and he told you that he hated the term, so you whipped it out) and acknowledge you were wrong to do so? Might avoid the hearing, and even if you have the hearing it will go better for you if showed remorse before you even knew there was a hearing. Fights happen.
People say stuff. Own it and start rebuilding the relationship.
Completely agree with the above posters. If he’s not reported the incident to the office, you still have time to make amends. I would also reach out to your RA and keep them in the loop. They’re trained for handling these kinds of issues, and can act as mediators if appropriate.
If you do have a hearing, be as honest as possible. I cannot stress that enough! Express your remorse as clearly as possible. The least penalty you’ll probably get is a reprimand (won’t show on your record), the worst would be being placed on a disciplinary probation (will show on your record and prevent you from applying to leadership positions and rushing).
Honestly you are worrying way too much. It’s unlikely he reported it and if he did I am sure your RA would have contacted you about the situation by now.