Do you date outside your race?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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<p>by Indian I do not mean Native American but the Asian Indian.</p>

<p>My first girlfriend was Filipino, lasted quite a long time with her but then the transfer admission made me busy and I had little time for her. We still made time for each other but she ended up falling for my good friend, a Black guy.</p>

<p>My current girlfriend is Hispanic.</p>

<p>As for my preferences. I prefer Black, Hispanic (Mesitzo) and Asian girls over White girls. I would date a White girl but I won’t date a Blonde or Redhead. I do like Italians and Spanish women though.</p>

<p>I have been asked out by girls who were Redheads and Blonde, I told them no. One sent me a hate message telling me how my “type” was lucky to even get a consideration from her. That is the deep south for you.</p>

<p>Luckily in less than a month I am getting out of here, so is my girlfriend.</p>

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<p>"i hate it when ppl specifically dont date outside of their race and then try to say its not racist. it’s okay if you’re racist, just admit it!:</p>

<p>So I am sexist if I do not date a person the same gender as me.
I am also “close minded” for NOT dating outside of my own species. People like you make me sick.</p>

<p>Just because you do not want to date or marry someone of a different race than you does not make you a racist, it is preference. Love how the word racist is thrown around so loosely now a days.</p>

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<p>Also. I have been around mostly Black and White girls most of my life. Most of the Indian women I ran into gave me a tough time, a lot did not like me because most of my friends were Black.</p>

<p>I had a crush on this Black girl in high school, didn’t have the guts to ask her out and she eventually got a boyfriend later on. </p>

<p>When I got to college I usually was asked out by White girls and I said no because I do not find European features like Blue eyes and Blonde hair attractive. When I said no one of them even said to me “I thought you people were supposed to admire our features”.</p>

<p>First girlfriend was Filipino, a lot of the White guys even cracked jokes and said stuff like she should be going with them instead of sticking with a “curry eating baboon”. </p>

<p>Current girlfriend is Hispanic, people don’t even know we are an interracial couple. Same hair color, skin color (light yellow), and eye color.</p>

<p>Down here people take kindly to interracial only when it is certain couples. </p>

<p>For example: White guy and Asian girl = Okay.
Black guy and White girl = ***.
Black guy and Asian girl = she must have low standards.
Indian guy and anything except White girl or Indian girl = oh his parents are going to disown him for it.
Anyone with White person = okay.</p>

<p>I hope the Northeast isn’t like this. I also hope I get to be with my current girlfriend for life, though as an Indian guy I wouldn’t mind dating an Indian woman. I would date any girl as long as she wasn’t White (Italians and Spaniards do not count).</p>

<p>As for interracial dating, down here it gets a lot of bad looks. </p>

<p>As an Indian guy dating a Latina, I will tell you it is very tough because:</p>

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<li>The whole pairing is extremely rare, chances are you have never seen an Indian guy Hispanic girl couple.</li>
<li>My parents and her parents are the only ones who have accepted it, other Indians on campus (not a lot here) and mostly everyone else has given it bad looks because they know we are different races.</li>
<li>She has caught a lot of jokes about being with me and a lot of my friends (two who I actually don’t see much) have given me a tough time for it. One said that if I don’t break up with her he will not talk to me at all.</li>
<li>I have noticed that in American society there is such a pressure to date Whites when you date interracially, it is like if you do not date a White person it is wrong to date outside of your own race. My EX has been through a lot of racism and crap for being with a Black guy.</li>
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<p>I don’t really care what race my guy is. I like them as long as they’re:
-cute
-nice
-funny
-smart
-musical</p>

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<p>Techerdz, by definition, it is racism. Preference or pride in a race/heritage can be considered racism. In some cases, racism is rational (ex: taxi drivers in cities actually have a slightly less chance of picking up young black men, because they understand the probabilities and statistics associated with them)… I’m not saying it’s fair or justified, but I think we shouldn’t deny that it exists since there are rational reasons for its existence.</p>

<p>In fact, I think everyone is racist in some way. Don’t try to deny it. (ex…I think it was racism that got our president elected…notice that he is partially of a different race than the previous presidents) … Racism isn’t the worst problem around… There are more important things to worry about than racism.</p>

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<p>Techerdz: how is that not racism? If I am narrowing my prospects with a criteria of race? Or if i am tellin gmy kid that he CANNOT date black girls? It’s okay if you’re racist, really, I’m racist too. Just don’t try to deny it.</p>

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<p>Humans in general (99 percent) have a racist though at least once in their lifetime. But dating based on preferences is not racist.</p>

<p>I know for a fact that my life would be a lot easier if I married an Indian girl who is of the same culture as me I would have much less troubles rather than if I married a White girl who is of a completely different culture. Also, you cannot deny attraction, I personally find Blonde hair and blue eyes to be a major turn off (even if she is Black with those genes), why should I force myself to date someone with those features? So society can give me the “progressive label”.</p>

<p>Also just because you date outside of your own race does not exclude you from being racist. I knew a Korean girl who would only date White guys and she spent most of her time bashing Asian men, Black men and Hispanic men. Of course according to society she is a lot less racist than a Korean girl who only dates Korean guys but has no problems with people of other races.</p>

<p>If people are racist for sticking with their own race, they are sexist for not dating their own gender and close minded for not dating another species. Afterall, love should be “blind”. </p>

<p>My advice is this, if you don’t like a person based on what they are born with then don’t force yourself to date them just so others can label you as “progressive”. I find it stupid that in our society we call people who stick to their own race as racist, maybe it is because they feel more comfortable around people of their own race as opposed to people of other races. </p>

<p>Call it whatever you want, but deciding to date within your own race does not make you racist, it is called preference. Who you involve in your personal life is your business and if you don’t want someone in it then you don’t want them in it, why make their lives miserable too?</p>

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<p>I’m white and I’ve only dated a half white/half hispanic girl and a fully hispanic girl. First one was pretty whitewashed, the other is pretty hispanic. I think on average Asian girls are gorgeous, but I go to a school that is less than 1% asian, and only about 20% white. Doesn’t matter though, my girlfriend is pretty.</p>

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<p>Where are you getting this from…?</p>

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<p>I am not getting it from anywhere, a large majority of all people have thought a racist thought at least once in their life.</p>

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<p>racism - a belief or doctrine that inherent differences among the various human races determine cultural or individual achievement, usually involving the idea that one’s own race is superior and has the right to rule others.</p>

<p>-hatred or intolerance of another race or other races</p>

<p>Now in no way is it racist to date within your own race because many people still date and marry within their own race yet they have friends of other races. I know people who date outside of their own race and they HATE people of their own race (Korean girl I was telling you about).</p>

<p>Now if that is the case then how is it any different than being sexist? Obviously if a guy decides he won’t date another guy just because of that, we can call him a sexist because according to a “progressive society”, love shouldn’t have labels?</p>

<p>I really hate people who force this dumb doctrine down my throat that I have to date outside of my own race so it doesn’t make me a racist. That is just complete idiocracy in my own view. </p>

<p>Everyone, ignore the BS. Do not force yourself to be with someone you don’t want to be with. If you don’t like Blondes then there is no point in dating one just so you don’t get the “racist” label on you. The word racism is being thrown around way too much these days and honestly I don’t care. I have seen people call others racist for not dating them.</p>

<p>Honestly speaking: If there was a reasonable Indian population in the college I attend I would go for an Indian girl because she would understand my background better than a girl of another race or ethnicity. I would never date a girl just so people can label me progressive.</p>

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<p>okay, that is not preferences. his parents are saying that he CANNOT date black girls. That is racist. I don’t freaking care how you try to spin it.</p>

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<p>Oh yes HIS parents ARE racist for that, kind of like how Samuel L Jackson is racist in Lakeview Terrace, now that IS racist.</p>

<p>But if HE does not want to date Black girls because he is not attracted to them then that is not racist, that is just preference.</p>

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<p>Am I the only one who thinks people of any race or any background can be beautiful? I feel sorry for people who automatically discount an entire race. It’s their loss.</p>

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<p>I don’t really care about their races, but if I have a choice between a person from my race and one from some other race, I prefer to date with the same race.
It would better if my date has similar cultue so that we can understand each other more easily(especially for manner and food).</p>

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<p>^Race =/= culture.</p>

<p>Someone from a different race can’t understand the food you like and manners you have? That’s offensive.</p>

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<p>Chocolate, it’s more difficult for someone from a different race to learn what food you like.</p>

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<p>^What makes you think that?</p>

<p>And even if that is true, so what?</p>

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<p>But race and culture are not mutually exclusive. My guess is manner and food won’t be too different between many people in America, but there still are differences between the cultures of many Americans that is intertwined with race and ethnicity.</p>

<p>Anyways, we should also take into account that people have ingrained ideas of what is considered beautiful. Features characteristic of certain races may be considered beautiful to some people, but not so much for others. I know looks aren’t everything, but they still play an important role.</p>

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<p>^Sorry, I didn’t mean to imply that race and culture had nothing to do with each other either! But they certainly are not equals. </p>

<p>Yeah…IDK, I just think many different things can be beautiful. It’s too bad that some people have a set “type,” when all “types” have potential beauty, I think.</p>