<p>Ok weve all heard them and maybe even go by them. What my question is do some or all of you use these stereotypes as a dating criterion in college or do you make your own judgements based on your own opinions. Ex: Black girls are precieved as loud "ghetto" and obnoxcious. Knowing that would you date a black girl, or throw the ignorant generalization out of the window and decide for your self? Honest answers please.</p>
<p>do black guy really have the biggest..... oh wait nevermind</p>
<p>just had to use the loud black girl one. didn't u?</p>
<p>It would be ridiculous to judge someone on stereotypes...then you are really limiting yourself in the dating pool. I think people will probably view people in stereotypes...I think a lot of people do. I find it hard for humans in general to not look at people or objects without categorizing them. Hope is not lost though...we do have a brain that can actively look at stereotypes and realize that we hold them. Still, it ultimately lies with the individual to actively work to try to realize that people do not easily fit into the molds that we have created in our minds.</p>
<p>For example, I have heard a ton of stereotypes about white guys (you guys get picked on a lot don't you when it come to stereotypes)</p>
<p>Anyhow these are some things I have heard about them...</p>
<p>White guys</p>
<p>-terrible dancers...;)
-would probably date a black girl for sexual reasons only
-would be pretty clueless on racial matters
-it's pink.....like cotton candy????</p>
<p>If I were to actually judge every white guy that I came across with these guidelines, how foolish would that be?</p>
<p>Edit: I would hope people would find someone who they actually like and would enjoy to spend their time with based on their compatability and not on their skin color.</p>
<p>I think it's absolutely ridiculous to judge people based on stereotypes for any type of interaction. It's so much better to get to know people one-on-one and decide if they would make a good partner for you rather than think about if the stereotype is true.
If you base a judgment on stereotypes alone you can miss out on knowing a lot of wonderful people. There is no one mold for a race or a gender or a state or anything else for that matter. People in general are unique creatures. Personally, I'll take getting to know guys for who they are, rather than what they are supposed to be based on a stereotype, then I'll decide if I like them enough to date them.</p>
<p>We all stereotype sometime in our lives:</p>
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<li>fat people are always jolly</li>
<li>all asians are smart</li>
<li>jews are %$*&% with money</li>
<li>all blacks are naturally born athletes and dancers</li>
<li>all gays have AIDS and are child molesters</li>
<li>all UC Santa Cruz (insert school name) students are potheads</li>
<li>most admitted urms are unqualified </li>
<li>all CCers are smart</li>
<li>HBCUs are academically inferior schools</li>
<li>asians, arabs and mexicans are taking over the country</li>
<li>public schools are inferior to private schools</li>
<li>dumb blonds are...well...dumb!</li>
</ul>
<p>We've all heard them on the playground, in the restroom, on the bus or plane, in family gatherings or sporting events, in the barber shop, etc.</p>
<p>I'm sure you can come up with your own list.</p>
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- dumb blonds are...well...dumb!
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<p>Haha dumb ______ are dumb. Not a stereotype.</p>
<p>Nicee list...</p>
<p>I have heard a ton of stereotypes about white guys (you guys get picked on a lot don't you when it come to stereotypes)</p>
<p>You're kidding, right?</p>
<p>I'm still trying to figure out the purpose/significance of this list. What is this discussion supposed to be solving? A racial stereotype is just that- a standardized mental picture that is held in common by members of a group and that represents an oversimplified opinion, prejudiced attitude, or uncritical judgment- So by discussing stereotypes, we are keeping them alive and in a sense promoting them.</p>
<p>it's probably just a stereotype but every black girl (in HS) I knew were loud and ghetto.......wait....</p>
<p>What is the purpose of this post exactly? To ask if people look at stereotypes , and believe them when it comes to dating? Or to just give people a reason to spt out every stereotype they have ever encountered? Either way, i would just like to say that stereotypes suck, and I hate when people assume things of me because of a steretype they have learned in the past. I am a black girl, but I am anything BUT ghetto, loud, and obnoxious. And I am currently into dorky white guys who have piercings and are into rock music. Didn't see that one coming did you? =P</p>
<p>Wait a second...TALKING about stereotypes sustains stereotypes? I don't think so. Just like talking about racism doesn't keep it alive. So long as the discussion is productive, useful and respectful, I see no problems. All the original poster asked was do stereotypes come into play in relationships? The answer should be yes. Do people overcome them? Sometimes. Hopefully more so in the future. And this goes for friendships too, which are relationships as well.</p>
<p>yea, i bet all the white girls in your school, were nice, sweet, quiet girls. am i right? ahh, perfection.</p>
<p><em>rolls eyes</em></p>
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You're kidding, right?
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<p>I am not kidding...those are actual stereotypes about white guys I have heard. I guess it depends on what group you belong to...I have heard the most about white guys from various sources...not that I believe them. </p>
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So by discussing stereotypes, we are keeping them alive and in a sense promoting them.
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<p>Still...then I suppose that we should put stereotypes under the rug and not talk about them...maybe they will go away...and disappear. YEAH RIGHT. I am not exactly sure how people want to eradicate racism, but they don't want to talk about it....that makes no sense.</p>
<p>Edit: To me, exposing the problem for what it is and acknowledging that it is there helps a little in trying to get rid of racism. Open dialogue and discussion actually gets to the root of the stereotype and it is then that people can actually start to see that yes...it is BS.</p>
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I am a black girl, but I am anything BUT ghetto, loud, and obnoxious. And I am currently into dorky white guys who have piercings and are into rock music. Didn't see that one coming did you?
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haha, for some stereotypes, there is an alternative stereotype. When blacks don't hang in the hood or with other blacks, the perception is: </p>
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<li>oh, that gemstar66, hangin' with those white boys, listening to rock music and lurking out on CC ... she thinks she's white!</li>
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<p>So true...if you aren't "acting black enough" for some people you are an oreo...</p>
<p>Yeah, I get picked on even by my own parents (seriously) telling me that i am a "white boy", it sort of sucks, that people use sterotypes, and dont wanna acccept you if you arent the way they think you should be</p>
<p>White guys</p>
<p>-terrible dancers...
-would probably date a black girl for sexual reasons only
-would be pretty clueless on racial matters
-it's pink.....like cotton candy????</p>
<p>I'm white and these are all true about me</p>
<p>Yah, stereotypes are riduculous. If I realize I'm stereotyping anyone, I stop right away or they prove me wrong. I've reached a point, where if I do begin to make stereotypes about people, I try to get to know them instead. It's harder to put a stereotype on a face than it is on a statistic. </p>
<p>PS.: Gemstar, isn't it weird how all black girls are put in one category? I'm aware that blacks don't have a positive societal image, and we do merit that to some extent. But, I only wish that people had enough experience with a diverse spectrum of blacks that they could differentiate us from myth and reality.</p>