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<p>I’ll be heading off to school next fall, and I’m just curious as to how often these things happen. </p>

<p>Please copy and paste this survey, and fill in your answers. Some can be answered with the 1-5, others with a yes or no.</p>

<p>0=never 1=rarely 2=occasionally 3=sometimes 4=often 5=always</p>

<li><p>How often do you invite people into your dorm room when you’re not there?</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you, in the presence of your roomate, take/“borrow” things from them without asking (for example, their pen, some paper, etc)?</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask to borrow things from your roomate?</p></li>
<li><p>Have you ever asked your roomate for money? Would you?</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask your roomate for personal advice?</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you gossip to your roomate (without them initiating it)?</p></li>
<li><p>Say you had a bad day. Would you expect your roomate to listen to you talk about it?</p></li>
<li><p>Do you expect your roomate to do favors for you? For example, fetching them something because they don’t feel like it, running an errand, talking to someone for them, going to the store for them, etc?</p></li>
<li><p>Do you hold yourself responsible for your guests in these respects? For example, say you invite someone over and they decide to go sit on your roomate’s bed or sit at their desk. Would you tell them to get up? And for that matter, do you see anything wrong with these things?</p></li>
<li><p>Do you ever remark on your roomate’s lifestyle choices (religion, politics, sexual orientation, upbringing and culture, etc)? Say your roomate were the exact opposite of you in these respects. Would you?</p></li>
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<ol>
<li><p>How often do you invite people into your dorm room when you're not there?
0 (excluding my sister who just stayed the weekend with me. Otherwise unless we are there the doors are locked shut)</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you, in the presence of your roomate, take/"borrow" things from them without asking (for example, their pen, some paper, etc)?
0</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask to borrow things from your roomate?
1 (such as bleach today to clean the bathroom, or before it would be a can opener)</p></li>
<li><p>Have you ever asked your roomate for money? Would you?
No, and no. </p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask your roomate for personal advice?
1</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you gossip to your roomate (without them initiating it)?
Not sure</p></li>
<li><p>Say you had a bad day. Would you expect your roomate to listen to you talk about it?
Yes, always! </p></li>
<li><p>Do you expect your roomate to do favors for you? For example, fetching them something because they don't feel like it, running an errand, talking to someone for them, going to the store for them, etc?
Sometimes we'll pick up water for each other at the store or hand each other things when we're trapped by computer and books way up in our beds. So, not to the extent your talking about. Nice favors.</p></li>
<li><p>Do you hold yourself responsible for your guests in these respects? For example, say you invite someone over and they decide to go sit on your roomate's bed or sit at their desk. Would you tell them to get up? And for that matter, do you see anything wrong with these things?
Yes, I hold myself responsible. However my roommate and I signed a roommate contract that went over borrowing items (clothing, food, ect) to sitting on the roommate's bed or chair (even sleeping on the bed) when they aren't there. We can have guests sit on each others beds or chairs but sleeping is 'ask first'</p></li>
<li><p>Do you ever remark on your roomate's lifestyle choices (religion, politics, sexual orientation, upbringing and culture, etc)? Say your roomate were the exact opposite of you in these respects. Would you?
Of course I would, but only to gain a better understanding and more insight (in no way challenge or condemn), and only if they were open to discussing it. If in doubt, no.</p></li>
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<p>The roommate contract really goes over the details (such as the borrowing questions) to 'talking on the phone occurs inside or outside of the room during: list scenarios' to any and all guest questions and restrictions to a bunch of other misc things I had never thought of before. If it misses anything then you can always add to it so be sure to include the pet peeves then before they drive you nuts.</p>

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<p>0=never 1=rarely 2=occasionally 3=sometimes 4=often 5=always</p>

<p>For your information, I have three roommates- it's one common room and two small bedrooms attached, so we see each other a ton. It's not one of those quads where you can avoid the other two.</p>

<ol>
<li><p>How often do you invite people into your dorm room when you're not there?
0- I'll always be with them when they go into the room, and I'll make sure my roommates know days/weeks ahead of time. It's in our contract. I might go to the bathroom, but any time I've left the room with a guest there, a roommate or two has been there as well.</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you, in the presence of your roomate, take/"borrow" things from them without asking (for example, their pen, some paper, etc)?
0- We ALWAYS ask</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask to borrow things from your roomate?
1- I've borrowed scissors and little things like that- sometimes they borrow kleenex.</p></li>
<li><p>Have you ever asked your roomate for money? Would you?
0- No, never. It would have to be a crazy emergency for anything like that to happen- maybe if we were in the city and I was robbed and needed money to get home, haha. And I'd pay her back after that.</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask your roomate for personal advice?
1- I don't know, I'm not a big advice asker. I can't think of any instances, but I don't have anything against it so I didn't mark 0.</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you gossip to your roomate (without them initiating it)?
0- We gossip sometimes but usually it's a mutual thing that just somehow came up, and I don't ever just start complaining and blabbling on without their input.</p></li>
<li><p>Say you had a bad day. Would you expect your roomate to listen to you talk about it?
1- I might say I had a bad day, and if they asked I might tell them, but that's about it. The other week on the same night I found out one of my best friends/ first boyfriends committed suicide and my 86 year old grandmother was in the hospital coughing up blood, so I was sort of emo for a bit. They offered to talk but I guess I was surprisingly quiet... Meh.</p></li>
<li><p>Do you expect your roomate to do favors for you? For example, fetching them something because they don't feel like it, running an errand, talking to someone for them, going to the store for them, etc?
0- Sometimes we'll offer, but we'll never expect anyone to go out of their way just for us- we're all really considerate to each other and we know that we're all busy. It'll just be like "Oh, I'm going to the store- do any of you guys want something while I'm there?" or something like that.</p></li>
<li><p>Do you hold yourself responsible for your guests in these respects? For example, say you invite someone over and they decide to go sit on your roomate's bed or sit at their desk. Would you tell them to get up? And for that matter, do you see anything wrong with these things?
1- If I had a guest over, I would let them use a roommate's chair if the roommate wasn't using it, because my roommates let guests use my chair, and that's okay with me. We decided together that it was an okay thing to do. I would not let anyone on my roommate's bed without permission, that's too personal of a space. Obviously I wouldn't let them touch or use my roommates' things.</p></li>
<li><p>Do you ever remark on your roomate's lifestyle choices (religion, politics, sexual orientation, upbringing and culture, etc)? Say your roomate were the exact opposite of you in these respects. Would you?
1- We talk about politics because one of my roommates has an Obama poster and she wanted to know if it was okay if she put it up.<br>
Religion- personal thing. If it was a religion unknown to me, I might just ask factual information about it or something like that. I would NEVER EVER challenge someone else's religion.<br>
Politics- It would probably come up in conversation with the election coming, but it wouldn't be a big deal at all if we held opposite views.
Sexual Orientation- There's a huge non-straight population at our school and so far we are all pretty sure we're straight- but we've gone over the fact that it would be completely awesome if one of our roommates wasn't straight. At my college it's pretty important to be open about stuff like that.
Upbringing/culture- We're ALL different in that respect. We talk about how our lives are/were, we learn that way, but it's never caused arguements or anything like that. We get along despite being completely different.</p></li>
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<p>If you're worried about this sort of stuff, talk with your roommate about it when you move in. A lot of schools require roommate contracts to cover rules, and just be honest and say what would bother you. Even if your school doesn't require a contract, make one anyway.</p>

<p>Note: All of my roommates are pretty laid back about the rules mentioned. We have a pretty lenient guest/boy policy, and a pretty lenient borrowing policy. If that wasn't okay with one of us, it would be different. Ideal roommate situation, in my opinion. Everyone is very considerate, and I feel very lucky to have such spectacular roommates. :D</p>

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<p>** Roommate has two "m"s in it.**</p>

5

<p>0=never 1=rarely 2=occasionally 3=sometimes 4=often 5=always</p>

<ol>
<li><p>How often do you invite people into your dorm room when you're not there?
0</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you, in the presence of your roomate, take/"borrow" things from them without asking (for example, their pen, some paper, etc)?
0</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask to borrow things from your roomate?
2</p></li>
<li><p>Have you ever asked your roomate for money? Would you?
Yes occasionally for coffee or something small. I always pay it back though.</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask your roomate for personal advice?
2</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you gossip to your roomate (without them initiating it)?
4</p></li>
<li><p>Say you had a bad day. Would you expect your roomate to listen to you talk about it?
Yes</p></li>
<li><p>Do you expect your roomate to do favors for you? For example, fetching them something because they don't feel like it, running an errand, talking to someone for them, going to the store for them, etc?
I don't expect it... usually we don't do things for each, but we'll usually go along if the other asks us to accompany them on an errand.</p></li>
<li><p>Do you hold yourself responsible for your guests in these respects? For example, say you invite someone over and they decide to go sit on your roomate's bed or sit at their desk. Would you tell them to get up? And for that matter, do you see anything wrong with these things?
I would ask guests to stay off of my roommates things, and I think she generally does the same.</p></li>
<li><p>Do you ever remark on your roomate's lifestyle choices (religion, politics, sexual orientation, upbringing and culture, etc)? Say your roomate were the exact opposite of you in these respects. Would you?
I'm pretty close with my roommate, so we can talk about such things.</p></li>
</ol>

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<p>0=never 1=rarely 2=occasionally 3=sometimes 4=often 5=always</p>

<ol>
<li><p>How often do you invite people into your dorm room when you're not there?
0</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you, in the presence of your roomate, take/"borrow" things from them without asking (for example, their pen, some paper, etc)?
0</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask to borrow things from your roomate?
0</p></li>
<li><p>Have you ever asked your roomate for money? Would you?
No; probably not</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask your roomate for personal advice?
0</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you gossip to your roomate (without them initiating it)?
1</p></li>
<li><p>Say you had a bad day. Would you expect your roomate to listen to you talk about it?
No, not really</p></li>
<li><p>Do you expect your roomate to do favors for you? For example, fetching them something because they don't feel like it, running an errand, talking to someone for them, going to the store for them, etc?
Nope</p></li>
<li><p>Do you hold yourself responsible for your guests in these respects? For example, say you invite someone over and they decide to go sit on your roomate's bed or sit at their desk. Would you tell them to get up? And for that matter, do you see anything wrong with these things?
Yes to all questions</p></li>
<li><p>Do you ever remark on your roomate's lifestyle choices (religion, politics, sexual orientation, upbringing and culture, etc)? Say your roomate were the exact opposite of you in these respects. Would you?
I don't comment on her lifestyle, and she doesn't talk about mine (granted, we do not speak all that much, but...)</p></li>
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<p>0=never 1=rarely 2=occasionally 3=sometimes 4=often 5=always</p>

<ol>
<li><p>How often do you invite people into your dorm room when you're not there? 2 (only mutual friends of roommate/I, roommate's boyfriend)</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you, in the presence of your roomate, take/"borrow" things from them without asking (for example, their pen, some paper, etc)? 2 (we have a mutual agreement that we can borrow/eat/use each other's stuff as long as we return it in proper condition).</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask to borrow things from your roommate? 4 </p></li>
<li><p>Have you ever asked your roomate for money? Would you? Yes (not often), but only if I can pay her back asap. </p></li>
<li><p>How often do you ask your roomate for personal advice? 3</p></li>
<li><p>How often do you gossip to your roomate (without them initiating it)? 0. My roommate is awesome</p></li>
<li><p>Say you had a bad day. Would you expect your roomate to listen to you talk about it? 4</p></li>
<li><p>Do you expect your roomate to do favors for you? For example, fetching them something because they don't feel like it, running an errand, talking to someone for them, going to the store for them, etc? 1 </p></li>
<li><p>Do you hold yourself responsible for your guests in these respects? For example, say you invite someone over and they decide to go sit on your roomate's bed or sit at their desk. Would you tell them to get up? And for that matter, do you see anything wrong with these things? Yes. Most of my "guests" are my roommates good mutual friends as well so it is not a big deal at all</p></li>
<li><p>Do you ever remark on your roomate's lifestyle choices (religion, politics, sexual orientation, upbringing and culture, etc)? Say your roomate were the exact opposite of you in these respects. Would you? Obviously it's talked about in friendly conversation, but never with malicious intent. We are great friends and understand each other's choices</p></li>
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