<p>Don't think I'm an emo kid during their rebellious years, hating their parents.</p>
<p>I truly just want to love my parents but just can't. My mother is a horrible human being, like a Nazi. My father is oppressed by my mother to the point of being crazy, he's now acting like a child of 17 years old who wants to rebel !
Whatever I do, i got yelled at. Oh and they fight each other all the time too. I hate my parents, my situation so much that i fear i would kill myself.
I will move to college soon..however my little brother is still with my parents. I'm worried for him. How can I make sure he will not be hurt emotionally like I am ?</p>
<p>Can you stand your parents ? how do you deal with the people who give birth to you but who are like evils ?</p>
<p>Wow, can your life sound anymore like mine?</p>
<p>A mother who acts like a bratty only child, a dad who lets himself be domineered. Super controlling, treating me like I’m 10…</p>
<p>The way I deal with them is to curse them as soon as I turn my back (lame I know) and I also find a ton of relief from just being by myself and writing in a journal. Have you tried writing? Its a huge release. One night when my mother really, really upset me to the point I was crying I just typed out a letter to her. I never gave it to her, but it really calmed me down.</p>
<p>@ISUClub It’s true…I don’t always hate them. I hate them most of the time I want to love them every second of the day. Deep down in me, I love them ! BUT they can make life so cruel @NastyPolitician: They were really nice. But 5 years ago, some stuffs happened and now they truly are monsters @Punkchique: Thank you. I do share a private blog with a best friend. I write down all my thoughts there…but sometimes it just doesn’t calmed me down (like right now). But it’s true, writing has helped a lot :)</p>
<p>My parents scream at each other constantly, and at me, everything I do is wrong. When I was 17-18 I was really very angry about it, but within a couple years I let it go. Your parents are worth having in your life even when they are crazy, of course with some exceptions. I was borderline suicidal growing up and now I am house hunting in the neighborhood I grew up in to be near my parents. It’s weird how things change. o.O I guess as you get older you learn to cope with it better. And of course it gets easier when you go away to school, I am only 20 minutes away but it still helps to have some space. If your parents weren’t always like this, there is hope it will improve, too. My family are all crazies and were born that way. lol But when we don’t have to live together all the time we actually get along really well.</p>
<p>I hated my parents until I left for college, even for most of the first year of college, but then as freshman year started to wind down I started liking them again once I realized I couldn’t live the same without all that crap that they did I always thought was absolutely useless and ■■■■■■■■, which btw I never wanted to live with, and still do not ever want to live with.</p>
<p>And it’s not like I was in a perfect family either. My parents constantly argue with eachother and I constantly retort back to them, we all share some disagreements about the most trivial things and I bet our neighbours believe we’re insane for all the shouting that goes on around the appartment lol. I just realized that even if they didn’t raise me how I believe they should’ve, they still stuck up with me for the first 19 years of my life and I’m absolutely sure now that without them I wouldn’t be in college or have any opportunities for the future. That doesn’t mean I’m happy with the way they raised me, I’m not; but the fact still remains that they did raise me and did not leave me homeless or in some foster home. So as much as I hate being around them, I guess I love them for bringing me into this world and not abandoning me… even though a lot of times I feel like they did abandon me but I realize that’s just delusional thinking since they never disowned me or anything.</p>
<p>wow i thought this only happened to me.
i have pretty much the same story as everyone else.
my parents are the most strict/conservative/JUDGEMENTAL people anybody will ever meet.
with me being open-minded and my mother being close-minded, we cannot even hold a one minute conversation.</p>
<p>ex: we’re at the store, a girls midriff is showing, my mom automatically calls her a prostitute, not questions about it.
ex: i leave the house at 7, she’s calling me in 5 minute intervals at 10pm. I’M IN COLLEGE WHAT THE HECK!!!
that’s why my summer sucks, cuz i can’t visit my college friends unless i come home the same night…at 10.
it’s so brutal at home, i’m ready to go back to college.
ex: i’ve never been on a spring break trip cuz of my parents, can’t go skiing with my friends cuz of my parents, can’t go to a resort thats 7 hours away (near my college) cuz of my parents.
it’s like i’m not living life. i can’t wait to move out for good. like i don’t even have to come home for the summer. i just want out already!!!</p>
<p>I’m relieved to hear everyone else story, even though they are all sad I guess the kids who have been raised in harmonious happy home are the super lucky ones. </p>
<p>Like Xptboy, I am SO grateful of my parents for everything (good and bad) they have done to me. And yeah, i never want to raise anyone the way my parents did. However, psychology has proved that the children will be like the parents even if they don’t want to…does it scare anyone? I don’t want to be my parents
Anyways, i guess the bad experience can make me stronger in the future.</p>
<p>I will probably have some parenting aspects in common with my parents since like it or not I was always around them when I was most impressionable and some of their values have become inherent in me, but I think the major flaws are things I can fix. They are terribly inattentive and and not compassionate. They have only made half efforts at taking an interest in anything I do, and have even gone so far as to discourage me. I am hoping that my life will be less about me and more about my family as a unit. It seems like my parents gave up all efforts in us being any kind of a unit when I was very young. Nowadays we literally only see each other once or twice a day and usually don’t speak to each other. We all remain in our own rooms for the whole day. I’ve tried to spend some time talking to my mom lately, since I missed her while I was at school, but she keeps yelling at me to go away. She is always busy watching one of her eighteen different tv shows, or working, or cooking, or doing a word search. I am always being told to go away for one reason or another, there is always some reason I am not welcome outside my bedroom. I go days at a time without even seeing my dad and he lives in the bedroom next to mine. I think he gave my fiance gas money today and I meant to thank him when I saw him but I didn’t lay eyes on him once, and we had our fourth of july celebration today. We had a “family party” and I didn’t even see half the people that live here.</p>
<p>I also really want to make an effort to not have serious fights with my husband in front of my children. That is something I am sure we will not always be able to do, but I’d like to try. My parents not only fought in front of me all the time but my mom would come to me crying afterward and unload on me, and I’d prefer to not stress my children out with those sorts of things. She actually told me in high school that the only reason she wasn’t asking for a divorce was because she couldn’t support herself alone. Witnessing healthy conflict resolution is important but nobody benefits from watching this kind of a circus. lol</p>
<p>But I guess we’ll see how I do when the time comes. My older sister, though possessing major flaws of her own, parents completely differently than our mother did. She’s the complete opposite, involved almost to a fault-- though I think she’s got too many kids to turn into a genuine helicopter parent. lol. So I think there is hope. We will have similarities with our parents and we will have some of our own unique flaws, but we can be better. I think you learn a thing or two about how to treat people and how to be a family when you grow up in environments like these.</p>
<p>Truth be told, if an objective observer were to describe you and your parents and you then read the report, I’ll bet you wouldn’t recognize it as your family.</p>
<p>Emotion acts like a Fun House mirror on reality. We all go through it; it’s hard-wired into adolescence. Just be careful not to burn any bridges now that you’ll wish were still there when the emotional fog clears and hindsight paints a different picture.</p>
<p>I am sorry for your situation. Sometimes, the kids need to be the parents to their own parents. </p>
<p>I personally love my parents. My parents and I have always had a very close and open relationship. My dad acts like a 2 year old most of the time, and I want to throw him through a wall occasionally, but when push comes to shove, both of my parents are great. </p>
<p>Are you sure you and your brother see your parents the same way? My sister and I view my parents (her dad and step-mom… we’re half-sisters) VERY differently.</p>
<p>My parents have been good to me. It would be disrespectful and ungrateful to hate them.</p>
<p>I don’t love them, but hate is too strong a word to describe my sentiment towards them - apathy is a more appropriate term.</p>
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<p>Well, I was worried about this same situation with regard to my little sister. Just try talking to him. Sound him out and see if he has the same concerns. It turned out that my sister and I view our parents very differently. Perhaps the same applies to your younger sibling.</p>
<p>I love my dad but i can’t say the same for my mom. Her and i were never close and it’s hard for me to even talk to her and i feel really awkward when she tries to give me a hug. She’s not a very good person in my opinion and her way of thinking and looking at the world is completely wrong and it’s hard to respect a person like her. If i met anyone else who was like her i would hate that person a lot but i can’t say i hate her but i do know that i don’t love her and most likely never will. I do hate her at certain time though but i never feel love for her. </p>
<p>My parents fight all the time too and it’s terrible I don’t understand why they can’t go away from the kids to argue and the things they say to each other are just terrible. I probably wouldn’t even talk to someone i didn’t like, the way they talk to each other most of the time.</p>
<p>My mom decided to tell me she was bi and is now dating someone my age . I figure rather than to make a big deal about it, its better to just pretend like this isnt happening when I talk to her. My stepfather used to be homeless and has been in jail, and just moved out of my moms house and is living under a porch in NJ. My mom is unemployed. My college expects that my parents are going to pay $2,500 in fees in this coming year.</p>
<p>Yeah right. </p>
<p>I love them and everything, but my parents just arent fiscally responsible. It is hard to explain this to the staff without sounding like a liar or someone just trying to get more money out of the school. I definitely skipped on coming home after freshman year. I got a full time job and an apartment in the city of my college.</p>
<p>I love my mother. Can’t say the same for my father. But I know my mother works really hard to try to give the best life for my siblings and I. She provided and provides much more than 99% of parents would have, yet in return only asks to get good grades in studying whatever I want. She also very logical and understands how it is being young.</p>
Your sentence structure and grammar are terrible. They detract from your points.</p>
<p>I don’t think psychology has proven this. It has happened, but the children of today are beaten a lot less in the US and China than they were in the previous generation.</p>
<p>In addition, as long as you find a kind spouse you can get along with, I doubt you will become like your parents.</p>
<p>I hate my mom. She’s a lot like yours, and I have frequently thought about suicide. We’re not alone in this :D. Things get better when you are in college. Just be sure you don’t let all the freedom hurt you. And find some responsible friends.</p>
<p>My little brother (10 now) isn’t abused physically as much as I was. My dad has a steady good job now so he seems to not be as angry. He also seems to hate himself for once running over my leg once as I was getting out of the car. It’s not something I ever think about. I think he is afraid that he could’ve killed me so he thinks the trivial things aren’t worth as much. I can’t believe that I really don’t hate him now. Your brother had you to help him, he won’t grow up too psychologically damaged. Try to get him to write a diary and teach him how to hide it, it helps a lot.</p>
<p>I just ignore my parents when they are yelling at me. Usually talking to my mom leads to yelling, so I sometimes ignore her when she is saying something that will lead to yelling. I’m grateful that I can go to college and I won’t be returning home for the summer next year ;D</p>
<p>In addition, are your parents asian? This would explain your grammatical flaws. Bookmarking this page to remind me that I’m not alone.</p>
<p>I’m pretty much grateful for my parents. They have done so much for me that even when I’m angry at them at times, I can easily forgive. It would be selfish of me to hate on them for stupid minuscule things. They are supportive even if I fail at something. They don’t come down on me.</p>
<p>I guess I’ve been lucky. Some kids aren’t so lucky, and I can understand why some of them might loathe their mom and/or their dad :(</p>
I want to love them every second of the day. Deep down in me, I love them ! BUT they can make life so cruel 
. I figure rather than to make a big deal about it, its better to just pretend like this isnt happening when I talk to her. My stepfather used to be homeless and has been in jail, and just moved out of my moms house and is living under a porch in NJ. My mom is unemployed. My college expects that my parents are going to pay $2,500 in fees in this coming year.</p>