<p>I would rather have no parents other than mine. We all love each other dearly.</p>
<p>Yeah, I know what you mean.</p>
<p>My parents are divorced and I live with my mother. My father sends money for me which my mother just spends at Nordstroms or Bloomingdales or something… My father sent me 35 grand my junior year for me to buy a car. I never got a car. I tell my father I need to buy certain stuff (I wanted a suit for prom) and he sent money to my mothers bank account for me to buy a nice suit, and my mom purposefully bought a cheap one and told my dad she bought me a designer one.</p>
<p>So yeah, basically my mother uses me as an excuse to get my dads money. Oh and my dad DOES financially support her and gives her a lot of money to live comfortably, but she just wants to go around shopping all the time.</p>
<p>She also complains about how I’m a bad son, doesn’t let me hang out, doesn’t let me do anything. I’m completely honest with her, I never drink, I don’t do drugs, nothing. I ask her if I can go to a party and she acts as if she’s just being overprotective but to be quite honest she just hates me.</p>
<p>She likes to be a controlling b***h and now that she knows I’m leaving for college she knows she’s losing her control and is becoming unbearable.</p>
<p>After doing all this, she wonders why I want to be left alone and why I don’t talk to her. She asked me when I’ll come home to visit again and I told her I have other plans, and then she starts crying and says I’m a loser and blah blah blah. Oh yeah, and she keeps saying my other two brothers are smarter and that I should be more like them. I have a higher SAT score, a high GPA, and I have sports, and I have a lot of other credentials that my brothers never had. My brothers also drink, party late at night, etc. and my mother has no problem with them. Double standards?</p>
<p>I don’t know if she just has some emotional problems or what, but I’m sick of home and can’t wait to go to college and be left alone.</p>
<p>let’s see</p>
<p>they put me through private school even though I didn’t try very hard in school
they’re paying for college
they didn’t kick me out of the house the moment I turned 18
they put up with my emo teenage years
they never gave up on me</p>
<p>Yeah, I don’t think I hate my parents.</p>
<p>There’s a reason that 75% of teenagers say that they hate their parents and the majority of adults say that they love them and appreciate all that they’ve done fot them. I’m not saying that some people don’t have very poor home lives and terrible parents because they definitely exist. But like someone else said, emotions skew people’s views of things, especially teenagers’ views.</p>
<p>I’m 17. I definitely understand being angry and upset with your parents, but hating them is an extreme that I don’t think many could actually justify if they took a level-headed view of things. Everyone has problems with their parents. For example, my dad is incredibly strict, yells all the time, and sometimes it seems like I can’t do anything right. My parents also fight about money all the time. But I think about how much I love and appreciate them every single day.</p>
<p>A lot of the complaints I’ve seen don’t justify hate at all. Strictness, conservative parents, overprotectiveness, none of those are things that justify hate. Think about it this way, you’re on CC, so you’re probably going to college. So many don’t have parents who provide an environment in which to raise healthy, intelligent, high school graduates. As much as I hate to sound like a preacher (ugh), we should all take a step back and count our blessings. We might see that things really aren’t as bad as we think.</p>
<p>Disclaimer: This is in no way me telling people that their situations aren’t real, and possibly painful. I’m just providing another way to think about things, another perspective to view their parents and their lives from.</p>
<p>i’ve never been without food or a house to live in…so i do owe my parents respect and appreciation. they can be very annoying and lame at times…but i could never not love them.</p>
<p>I don’t have the greatest family in the world, but I don’t exactly hate them. I’d just really prefer it if I didn’t have to live in this house anymore. I started college early largely to get away from them.</p>
<p>I don’t know.</p>
<p>My dad left us and pretends to care about us when he really doesn’t. Doesn’t send any money, isn’t sorry he left, etc.</p>
<p>My mom is a bigot. She is racist, homophobic, and sexist. I can’t tell her anything, not even anything trivial. (I made the mistake of telling her I’m an atheist. Should have just put up with going to church.)</p>
<p>My mom’s father left his wife when he found out she was pregnant with their second child, my mom, and proceeded to send birthday gifts to my aunt but never acknowledged my mom. Then my grandma remarried him and my mom had to live with that man for several years before they ultimately ended up divorcing again. My mom says she has no father, it’s really sad it worked out that way. And I’d thought MY dad was a ******. </p>
<p>I realized when I got a little older that my parents and I just make incompatible roommates. I am still pretty iffy with my dad, but when I don’t have to live with these people I get along with them pretty well and even sort of like them. lol. But when I have to live with them, our relationship is very explosive.</p>
<p>Families can be messed up. I know a girl whose dad is getting out of jail soon for trying to strangle her. And she is going to see him again because, in her words, he’s family and she loves him.</p>
<p>So it’s not always a case of teenagers being more mature than their parents realize or some such. Sometimes you just need to go off to school or get a job with long hours. And sometimes there are deeper issues. I hope you all will be ok! I think I turned out alright.</p>
<p>OK here goes: I am a 51 year old dad. My son is 18 and will be applying to college this fall. </p>
<p>Food for thought: if you are upset with your parents? that is OK. But remember that this is your life not theirs and soon you will be making your own decisions and running your own life.</p>
<p>SO I suggest that you each learn from your experiences and when you become parents? Be the model parent, be a friend, and a partner to your child. If you do this? Your life will be very rewarding and your past will be just that, your PAST.</p>
<p>I love my mom because she has always loved me and cares a great deal about my happiness. She’s supportive of me and wants me to do my own thing.</p>
<p>I dislike my dad because he clearly favors my older brother and unlike my mom, he barely cares whether I’m happy or not. In addition, my dad treats me like I’m a little child, constantly trying to tell me what to do and it seems like he’s just waiting for me to make a mistake so that he can say “I told you so.”</p>
<p>manayy my dad is also close minded. He saw lady gaga’s alejandro music video andd determind that she is a s lut. Not because of the sexualiy evident throgh the whole thing, but because sh had a tatoo.</p>
<p>I don’t “hate” them but our relationship is strained. They’ve been extremely controlling to the point where my teachers and counselor in middle school and high school, as well as friend’s parents, were very concerned and thought they were abusive. Sometimes they have fits of rage and get irrationally upset. For example, when I was 12 they kicked me out of the house at night and I ended up sleeping on a park bench down the street. They apologized the next morning and let me come home, but what kind of parents let their 12 year old girl sleep like a hobo on a park bench at night? </p>
<p>Another time he physically attacked my sister in front of me after an argument - he is a lot bigger than her and I got SO mad that I grabbed a hockey stick lying right there and swung it at him really hard, he never touched her again.</p>
<p>They’re also homophobic, sexist, racist, and generally make extremely demeaning comments.</p>
<p>you all basically described my parents…which is good and bad thing.
good thing because i am more aware that there are kids all over the world with similar situations.
bad thing because it just downright sucks!</p>
<p>I definitely had the occasional rough patch with my parents during my angsty teenage years but I’ve always been extremely close to them for the most part. I’m a full-grown adult now and as a result, they’ve naturally become more lenient with me which in turn makes it easier to be more open with them. I consider both my parents my best friends.</p>
<p>I’ve noticed that my understanding and empathy for them continues to grow deeper with each passing day. They worked their asses off to come to the U.S. from the Philippines and spoiled my siblings and I and their love for us just doesn’t compare to anything else. I show my appreciation for them in many ways but I almost feel like I can’t fully repay them for all they’ve done for me.</p>
<p>my mom drives me nuts about school, constantly *****ing and asking questions, lets just say i have to repeat myself 100 times about something its so annoying</p>
<p>My mom doesn’t want to let me take the bus at 11:00 PM.</p>
<p>I’m 22. -_-</p>
<p>hahahaha
My mom calls me fat every second and makes me go on diets even though I am 5’7 and 128 pounds. She yells at me whenever I want to go out with my friends, saying I need to stay home and study cuz I suck and I’ll never get into college. She says she’s not paying for my college tuition, but still makes me study hard enough to get into HYP, which I couldn’t afford anyway. She never keeps her promises and whenever she’s wrong, she won’t admit it. All she does is blame me for everything that goes wrong in the house. My dad pretends not to care, and then when I get an A instead of an A+ he flips out, screams at me, and grounds me, even though I can’t do anything anyway.</p>
<p>Yup, I agree. I sometimes hate my parents.</p>
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<p>This is quite closed-minded and offensive to assume that my parents are Asian. Why don’t you instead ask something like “is English your native language?” I am actually Asian but I think English as my third language is a more reasonable explanation for my errors. I am trying to improve my writing skills 
Thanks for your input though. </p>
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<p>I know what you mean. I realize that I am luckier than so many people out there and I am so GRATEFUL for my situation. However, sometimes, my parents truly are just horrible human beings that even “hate” is not a strong word. But otherwise, I know deep down in me, I love and cherish my family.</p>
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Thanks to everyone for sharing your story. Hope as we grow older, this parents problem won’t be such a big issue anymore.</p>
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Same here. Both my parents are ashamed of my weight which is considered normal on the BMI scale. I guess I am considered fat in my native country but totally normal in America (I wear XS!!!). They don’t let me eat or sleep 
I am trying to lose weight so I don’t have to hear them yell at me anymore.</p>