<p>My boyfriend broke up with me at the end of June.
It was the single most devastating thing to happen to me in a really long time, simply because it was very, very unexpected.
He just called wanting to talk... and said it was over. Apparently I had been "mean" to him (I would pick on him, tease him, all in good fun, I assumed!) and he just wanted someone to comfort him... boohoo.
I felt bad for what I had done, but I was also so upset over losing a best friend. I mean, he was my boyfriend (kisses are nice) but if I had to chooce between hasty kisses at the end of the day or meaningful conversation like I have with a best friend... Obviously he was my best friend.
Then it was suddenly over, and I was like Whaat? So for about a month I was devastated, horribly ripped from a relationship that had been going so well, so strong, for 6 months, my longest relationship (I'm only a rising freshman!!).
But then I revisited some boarding school websites and found out that... I don't have to be stuck at my school, with the poor academics, horrible athletic department who doesn't give a crap about anything but football, and the shallow dating pool. I can go to boarding school!
So my applications process is helping me forget the miserable end to a wonderful relationship, and making me realize... My high school is only 4 years. who cares?
(BTW, I'm avoiding dating until I know if I'm staying here or going to BS. If I'm staying, then the second I get my rejection letters I'm on the hunt. If I'm leaving, I've already met some cuties from the schools on facebook... Lol!)</p>
<p>amciw, you're still adorable anyways :P</p>
<p>i once had a serious boyfriend long ago, who was different from most of the guys around here. this was back when for our grade, pda was a biggg nono taboo thing.
and we SURE broke that rule XD i wasn't into kissing stuff but he was ok w/ it.
while it lasted, it was great. but now, he's conformed all the same. so i don't really feel like i myself have lost him, because he lost himself</p>
<p>strange thing to talk about a guy like that. it's usually girls who conform.
that's my wonderful story :D i have the whole "he and i are best friends but we don't go out" and the "he was my summer fling" and "he and i just flirt on facebook because we have nothing else to do" stories down and packed. but that was the only relationship i felt REALLY serious about. actually there were a few more, but they're hard to explain lol</p>
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When I do finally get a boyfriend, I fear I will be terribly unexperienced. Every single one of my friends has dated someone, and recently.
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<p>Don't worry too much about it. I didn't get my first boyfriend until a month after I turned sixteen - over halfway into my sophomore year. By that point all of my friends had had at least one boyfriend, and most of them had had multiple boyfriends. Then, when I finally DID start dating someone, it only lasted like three weeks and he broke it off because he "wasn't ready for a relationship." (I think it was mostly because it was too hard to see each other; we went to different schools and neither of us drove, so we saw each other like once a week.)</p>
<p>So when I started dating my current boyfriend (a couple weeks before my 18th birthday) I was really pretty much going into it blind - my previous relationship hadn't given me much to work with in the way of what to do and what not to do. And my boyfriend never dated anyone before me. And we've been together longer than any of our friends who have had multiple SOs. It's not really so much about experience as it is about willingness to try and make things work and not split at the first sign of trouble. We went into it saying that there was no point in being together if we weren't going to try and make things work no matter what came up. (And believe me, things have come up, and it hasn't been a cakewalk all the time - but then nothing ever is.)</p>
<p>When I do finally get a boyfriend, I fear I will be terribly unexperienced. Every single one of my friends has dated someone, and recently.</p>
<p>^ sorry to steal your limelight bandnerd, i just felt like i had to respond to this one as well (but your post is 100% truth and awesomeness, believe me)
trust me, when you get your first boyfriend youll always feel inexperienced in things, especially if he's had several before you. i felt so much like that before i had one, and albeit i've had intense relationships with guys but that was the only official one where we actually did go out, so trust me when i say after the first time, you are just as experienced as the next person. maybe you've experienced less than your friend who's had 5 boyfriends, but that's to be expected; still, you know what it's like to have someone, and i think it's pretty easy to be close with guys after that (not relationships, i mean, even friendships)</p>
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<p>kayleigh: i'm an athlete too (baseball), and my girlfriend is a total geek!!(marching band and chamber orchestra), and she is only a sophomore while I'm a senior. We do go to the same school, so I guess if you can find time then so can i! I'm just pretty stressed and scared about college essays, even though I've gotten a pretty good head start on them this summer. So i'm just gonna try and finish the apps soon and spend more time with my adorable lady love :) good luck to you, you sound like a nice person!</p>
<p>My (now) ex-girlfriend and I broke up this summer because we're going to colleges in different states, but we'd been best friends for ages so we're still making the absolute most of our time together.</p>
<p>I do... for like 10 days anyways.</p>
<p>Screw you long distance relationships!</p>
<p>In fact, the absence of screwing is one of the chief downsides of long-distance relationships.</p>
<p>hhahah that's a good one!</p>
<p>I'm happy to see that I'm the not the only one whose freaked out that they'll be totally unexperienced. I'm sixteen and almost finished senior year (2 months and 20 days) and i've never hooked up/dated anybody. I kinda go to an all gilrs school, makes it a little difficult to meet guys... not to mention that none of my friends from school live in my area.</p>
<p>^well, i'm 17, and i've never had a boyfriend...sadly... :( you're not alone.</p>
<p>Even though the strategy has done nothing so far, I figure I will let the boy come to me. Maybe it's a good thing no one's wanted me yet...</p>
<p>i'm almost 16 and never had a boyfriend. I'm incredibly picky and have turned down the boys who asked :/ we'll just see how this year goes!</p>
<p>My boyfriend is awesome. We met at driver's ed in July of 2007, and started talking online after I heard his name and friended him on Facebook. It went from simple, awkward messages to painfully and wonderfully long e-mails and IMs. After talking for a few months, we became close friends and confidantes, and then we fell in love. A few days after we confessed this, he sent me a relationship status update for Facebook, and our profiles have each said "In a relationship with [the other's name]" since. It's been a great 9.5 months with my dearest friend and love, and we're hoping for many more months. </p>
<p>I'm going into my junior year, and he's going off to college. I'm going to miss him like crazy.</p>
<p>I met my boyfriend in West Virginia in June of 2007. (we both happened to live in the same state, only about 15 min. away from each other) We didn't become boyfriend/girlfriend until Oct. 13 though. It went kind of like phanatic's did, with the awkward emails. We've been together for ten months and it has been amazing. </p>
<p>I will be going away for school this year and he is staying here. And I am going to miss my boyfriend very much as well.</p>
<p>Nope, no boyfriend right now. </p>
<p>Working on it, however :).</p>
<p>I love this thread! I love love stories : ))))))</p>
<p>speaking of love stories, i'm watching the notebook right now..its such a nice story!!! if we're lucky we'll find a love like that sometime in our lives :)</p>
<p>I'm reading phanatic's post over and over again, and I can't tell if it's a clever satire of the Internet Age or if it's actually genuine.</p>
<p>I've had one serious boyfriend who I was with for five months, and we broke up when he graduated. There were definitely some devastating moments, but overall it was great fun. I had a fling this summer but it wasn't a big deal..he's a lot older so it would never work seriously. Not to mention I'm leaving for boarding school in a week!</p>