<p>How do you guys balance relationships with everything else going on? My gf and I just broke up just because we never saw each other. Last time I saw her was three weeks ago right when classes ended and ever since then she worked all day or was busy with other chores. Especially during college...how do you balance having a gf/bf with the workload and everything else? Just looking for some advice, thanks!</p>
<p>The relationships that usually stay together are the ones where both people know that the relationship kinda comes second to schoolwork.</p>
<p>^ I agree, doing well in college is kinda a big thing…so if it isn’t a mutual “schoolwork first” thing then forget it. Neither should have to put school aside for someone else.</p>
<p>School should always come first. If you’re too busy to meet face to face, you can always grab a few minutes on skype before bed or during meals (next best thing to having dinner together in a pinch). It’s also a good idea to carve out time each week to be together, like a Sunday afternoon walk.</p>
<p>My boyfriend and I just started going out at the very beginning of this semester- and academically, this has been our best semester yet (his first time on the Dean’s list and my highest GPA ever- in high school or college) and we still managed to spend a lot of time together every day. We did this by making sure that we used our time efficiently and we even kept each other company if we had to pull all nighters. We pushed each other to do work so that we could have time together. We did put each other second to school work, but we also made damn sure that we tried our best to get that work done so that we could see each other. Additionally, we slept together almost every night and therefore we were able to at least talk and spend time together before we fell asleep.</p>
<p>Personally, I studied maybe 5 hours total this entire year. Maybe 2 hours of homework/paper writing?</p>
<p>So yeah, it wasn’t too difficult for me. Your mileage may vary…especially if you don’t go to a ****ty school like mine.</p>
<p>Romanigypsyeyes - I could have written most of that paragraph myself, except that my boyfriend and I have been together two months shy of six years. </p>
<p>This year I transferred to the same school as my boyfriend, and like others have said, it came down to being efficient with time. A lot of the time, we would spend time “together” by studying in the same room, or even laying side-by-side in bed and reading our textbooks. When he was on duty as an RA, I would sit in the office with him and keep him company while we both did homework, or sometimes just goofed around with our friends some too. </p>
<p>One thing that helped (which can be a bad move if it’s a new or rocky relationship) was that we had the same social circle, so we could be together and hang out with our friends at the same time. </p>
<p>Other than that, I can’t imagine my life being so busy that I could only find time to spend time with him once in three weeks. Of course, before this year we would only actually see each other every few weeks (due to distance), but we would talk almost every day. My school isn’t very competitive, but I have a very high GPA and I work (8 hours/week first semester and ~17 second semester) in addition to being involved in several clubs, so it’s not like I don’t do anything but schoolwork either.</p>