<p>turbo: what a way to start. Just out of curiosity, what country would one come from, besides Wyoming :D, that one would wear such an outfit?</p>
<p>I think there are couple of different kinds of ‘what the kid wants to major in.’ </p>
<p>One is where the kid has long had an interest in, and apparent aptitude for, a particular field. My son, in 1st or 2nd grade, brought home a piece of paper from school with ‘fisix’ written on it. Apparently, this was his answer to ‘what do you want to do when you grow up?’ Despite this early decision on his part, we have assessed and discussed with him over the years what his academic aptitudes are, what his goals are, what his interests are. If we thought physics was a bad major for him, we would have had discussions all along the way about alternatives etc. Today he’s a happy physics/math double major.</p>
<p>The other case is where the kid has no idea what they want to major in, or they suddenly change for no rational reason. Ideally, the student would have a relationship with the parent where they would discuss the various possibilities and seek mutual opinions. Whether the parent goes along with whatever the kid decides, if the choice is not in line with the parent’s thoughts, would really be a personal choice between the parent and the child, depending on their background, expectations, cultural norms etc. It is not one size fits all. Also, if it comes with conditions on the parents part, it is not likely to be a surprise to the student as it is assuredly part of a larger parental pattern.</p>
<p>Personally, I’m not willing to hand over >$200,000 to my then 17 yo and say, “here honey, do whatever you want with this as long as you have a degree by the time you run through it.” You bet I have a say in how and where they spend that money but it is a two way conversation with mutually respectful discussion that has been going on since they were old enough to talk.</p>
<p>Students should not be deciding their majors in a vacuum but base it on their interests, aptitudes, life goals, anticipated needs (lifestyle for example). If I see my child making a decision that is clearly out of line with the above, I will have (more than one) discussion with them. I believe that they trust I have their best interest at heart, that they know that I have life knowledge that they do not, and that they will take fully into consideration my thoughts and suggestions. </p>
<p>OK. I’m going to go and smoke some more of that stuff now.</p>