<p>Someone told me that it is a good idea to keep your schools secretive because you never know whether a backstabber or an insider may have an axe to grind with you to try to get your acceptances rescinded. Has anyone had a problem in regards to this?</p>
<p>During graduation, usually they announce your name and what school you will be attending - there is also a published map that tells what state and school you will can be found at. Does this seem to be pointless paranoia - or something other people have thought about.</p>
<p>An acceptance is not rescinded because an admissions office receives a nasty letter or phone call. First the school would look at what the potentially negative information goes to--and decides if it is warranted to do anything about it at all. At that point the school would contact the high school counselor to investigate the allegations against the accepted student.</p>
<p>My older daughter told everyone where she had applied and where she was accepted. No problem. Everyone was cheering her on and she has that kind of open personality, so it was great. The younger daughter has been stalked and harassed by the mother of another student for several years and since she's already taken action of a physical nature against my family, we're going to guard this child's applications like the Crown Jewels. Barring such a situation, most people don't have to worry and most colleges won't take such calls/letters seriously.</p>
<p>"What about if someone finds bad pictures or something."</p>
<p>If you've got something serious that might disqualify you from admission, then you should address it yourself because in that case, who knows? Perhaps a GC would feel compelled to address something serious.</p>
<p>to me, go ahead and share if you like, but personally, I think it is up to the student, and the school shouldn't share this information so specifically and publiclly...i don't understand the point of that....</p>
<p>I think it's pointless paranoia unless you've got something to hide. As long as you've got nothing that will make colleges question you, you've got nothing to worry about.</p>
<p>why does a school need to share? whose business is it anyway? i don't need to know where everyone is going, just as I don't need to know my neighbor's business</p>
<p>and whether they mean harm or not, it can be caused</p>
<p>as for not worrying about nothing to hide, please, it takes so little to spread a rumor, share in innuedo, etc to create doubt, we should all be thinking about how easy it is to ruin a reputation with the tools we have today....</p>
<p>i'm not the type to divulge my whole life to people i don't really know, so I wouldn't be all HEY LOOK WHERE I GOT INTO. But of course I'd tell people if they asked.</p>
<p>This was a problem for a friend of mine when she was applying to college two years ago. One of her best friends didn't tell her any of the schools she applied to until after April because she'd feel embarrassed if she didn't get accepted to a lot of them. I'm sure a LOT of people have this mentality, though.</p>
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One of her best friends didn't tell her any of the schools she applied to until after April because she'd feel embarrassed if she didn't get accepted to a lot of them.
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Yes, a lot of kids do feel that way. But that's different than saying, "Don't tell anyone where you applied or where you got in because someone will sabotage you."</p>
<p>The first is protecting oneself (and if a student doesn't want to tell, that's fine; it's no one's business unless she wants to tell); the second is paranoia.</p>
<p>DS's friends know (mostly) where he applied and know where he's been accepted. Our neighbors have no idea. (DS doesn't attend the local HS.) At some point we'll share that info, but for now, we are laying low.</p>
<p>It's a tough admissions year and DS is very sensitive to that, esp. since he was fortunate to get some great early news. We are crossing our fingers and toes for his friends who are waiting for their dreams to come true.</p>
<p>I agree not to tell anyone before you know whether or not you are accepted to a certain college but when you do receive your acceptance then it's ok to celebrate with some close friends. Hey, that is what friends for.</p>
<p>My kids' school puts a copy of their acceptance letters up on the bulletin board! I suppose if someone didn't want to share that information, they simply wouldn't give a copy of their letter to the GC. (Their school is NOT competitive, not at all.) They also announce where they will be attending at the final assembly, and how much $ in scholarship money they were offered. Doesn't bother me.</p>
<p>I think to a certain point it's offensive if you DON'T tell people where you're going. Last year there was a girl I knew who refused to tell "certain people" where she'd been accepted, and really, it just reeked of *****iness... :P</p>
<p>I don't mind telling people where I get in, but I kind of regret telling people where I've applied. Being the school "smart guy" and saying I've applied to MIT Caltech Stanford et. al, it's really raised expectations, especially since I go to a Canadian school, where only 2 others (at most) are applying for US schools (LACs).</p>
<p>Just about everyone I talk to says "You're going to get into MIT," when in reality, I know it's most likely not true.</p>
<p>There is a bit of a personal note though, maybe his paranoia is slightly justified: One of my close friends, who I had known since grade 6, out of the blue, decided to copy my take-home exam in grade 9 without my permission, dropping my final mark by 15%, despite his admission of guilt. He's since moved to another province, but I've heard that he's applying for Stanford. If he gets in, and I don't, obviously I'd feel a bit wronged. I wouldn't necessarily blow the whistle, but the thought has occured to me.</p>
<p>Just saying, if there's a reason for someone to hate you, it may not be the best idea to tell them you're going to a very selective university.</p>