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I do. Both of my D’s are subject to over sharing.
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FOr one, yes. I still have access to her bank account (same one since she was 4 months old) and I still do her taxes (she’s still in college, so sometimes I have to go in and move money around). She doesn’t make much.
The other one? Not exactly but I know the ballpark.
I know exactly what my oversharer makes. 
Ds1 is currently weighing two job offers. I am trying to decide whether it’s rude or overstepping to ask how much the salaries are for each. I know the general range, within $10k.
Yes, DH is asked to do their taxes 
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Lol. I used to know how much little kid made because I did her taxes… she is a married woman now, so no more such insider information. 
My husband is a CPA, so I think he’ll be asked forever!
Nope. My kids are 34 and 36 and married.
I have never known S’s gross income for most of his professional life. He did tell us once some years back that he had xxxxxxx in assets, a number that greatly impressed us, especially considering his relatively young age at the time.
We know that he quit his full time EE job because he was making at least 2-3x as much in his part-time job and was curious as to how much he’d make if he made it a fulltime job.
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Nope. And he doesn’t know how much we make either…
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Yes I do because they tell me, and even if they did not I would have a pretty good idea.
One of my kids also knows what I make because she is leaving her job to return to grad school and they asked for a co-signer on her lease.
Same. My oldest I knew until his latest job. (He’s had it almost 4 years). I knew the ballpark during negotiations, but he never shared the final number. He does tell me his raises and bonuses sometimes. I have an educated guess.
The youngest still loves at home and we help with his taxes.
I struggled with that, too, but decided since he wasn’t sharing than it would be rude. Really trying to give him respect as an adult.
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No, they have significant others now and that’s who they share that information with.
My brother in law doesn’t know either but that doesn’t stop him from sharing(bragging) how much he thinks his kids and their SO’s make.
I find that obnoxious
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Yes. We also know how much she has saved because she still consults my H about investment strategies. I suspect that will change as she grows more confident in managing her own investing independently. (She just graduated from college this month).
MY D24 will be making $20/hr at her summer internship.
She was super excited until the cashier at Jersey Mike’s told her they also pay $20 /hr.
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I think the younger they are, the more likely you’ll know, especially if they are still dependents.
I knew older S’ starting salary after graduation. And he shares with us (verbally, no $$$ shared lol) his bonuses and percent raises. So after 3 years, I have a general idea but not an exact figure.
Younger S starts his first real job this summer. I know his salary. I expect it’ll eventually be along the same lines.
Ironically I just shared with younger S my new salary yesterday. With our recent raises, I (after almost 25 years here and 30 in all) just passed his starting salary back. But I usually shared our salaries with the kids growing up. We are poor by CC standards, but in our community we have a lot more than many.
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I do taxes for one so yes I know how much she makes and also how much her BF makes because it comes in conversation. I also know how much she saved because I manage her finances since I do it for DH and I she knows I will do it better then she would at this point in her life. I know how much my DS and his wife make because it comes in conversation about a huge amount he pays in taxes and how much he saved because he is looking to buy a house and we discuss how much he should put in down payment.
I do my daughter’s taxes and have access to her bank account (still on one from when she was a kid). She is 29 with no significant other.
On kid’s salary and benefits are a matter of public record…and the kid told us anyway.
The second kid…honestly, I have no idea. But he doesn’t ask for money…
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