<p>I say I'm gonna sleep at 11PM. My parents stay until 11PM sharp.</p>
<p>I say I'm gonna get all A's. When I do hwk, they look like hovercrafts.</p>
<p>Anyone else with the same feeling?</p>
<p>nope..........................................................................................................................your alone buddy.</p>
<p>Nope...my parents let me do what I want (within reason). They feel it's better to let me make mistakes and learn from them than be sheltered and have a shock when I go away to college.</p>
<p>no...</p>
<p>if I say I'm going to bed at like 11, and they find me at like 1 on the laptop, they usually just laugh and ask me if I want food or whatever..</p>
<p>Uh... no</p>
<p>If I'm up all night, who cares? As long as I get my work done.</p>
<p>theincrediblehax: imagine how annoying YOU are to them! (I trust you are paying the college bills yourself, since your parents are such awful loathsome creatures).</p>
<p>Just teasing you, incred. This fencersmother gets annoyed when kids bash their loving parents. I'm sure they think you are a fantastic person!</p>
<p>That's great about the FLA scholarship. I have a friend whose D has one too; a great financial burden is relieved by that. The $300 for books is pretty lame though. My S's physics book was $292 - just for his one book! Spend wisely!</p>
<p>incredible: no reason to be so rude and braggy about your scholarship.
why did it take so long to finish applications if you already got a scholarship?</p>
<p>Nope, I can pretty much do what I want. No bedtime, no curfew, no homework checks, no real restrictions at all...but I'm not the kind of person that would do anything bad with that kind of freedom (besides procrastinate and not get enough sleep).</p>
<p>Like kat42911, I can basically do anything I want. I wouldn't abuse that trust really. But, it's nice to know that it's there. The only thing that my dad doesn't seem to trust me on is applying for scholarships. Somehow, he thinks that applying for like 20-30 ALREADY isn't enough.</p>
<p>I mean, I think every senior is starting to hear "When you're at college..." things. But, my parents trust me to make the good decisions. And even in the circumstances that I DO, they expect me to do the right thing. Trusting, huh?</p>
<p>fencersmother: haha sorry. well look i will explain my whole relationship with my parents to you: my dad works 7 days a week and comes home at 7pm and goes to his room locks the door and just sleeps. My dad is also very cheap and does not like spending money he just likes having a lot of money so he can be up to par with his friends at work. He also goes to eat chicken and drink beer with his friends from work a couple of days a week. And he never goes to restaurants with our family.</p>
<p>Now my mom is a stay at home mom and takes care of my 5 year old brother who is hyper all the time. She is mad at my dad all the time because all he ever does at home is sleep when he promises to play with my 5 year old brother. And i have a suspicion that my mom is bipolar because she freaks out about the littelest things. Like when i forget to do something or mess up a little bit and there is a 1% chance that something could go wrong, my mom freaks out and starts telling me im stupid and im retarted and then we find out that nothing went wrong and its like shes all nice now and tells me shes sorry. Also my mom has little patience with people because no one can understand her russian accent. Like when shes ordering something on the phone, after she puts the phone down shes always swearing and mad about how "stupid" the person was. </p>
<p>Also my mom and my dad team up against me whenever something goes wrong. Like today i went and ordered a hoodie at some store and they did not give me a check, and my mom asked me for the check and i said they didnt give me one. and she started freaking out but it was my money and i was just chill. so she ran to my dad and told him and then they had a 20 minute conversation about how stupid i was. </p>
<p>Last winter break I slept to 2 pm and my dad told me that I have no willpower and that he thinks i will drop out of college when he is not there to enforce me. Yet he sleeps till 2pm in the morning on weekends. And I mean i only slept till 2 pm because it was winter break, i mean cmon.</p>
<p>And they are predicting that i will come back to live with them after first few months of college because i wouldnt be able to survive without them... LOL</p>
<p>Also my dad said i have to get into a good school like Yale or Harvard and I asked why and he said because they are widely known schools and they look good on resumes...?? At the time we did not have a lot of money so i asked my dad how we are going to pay for it and he said "well figure that out after you get in."</p>
<p>After I told them im not applying to those schools and instead going to a state school, i heard my dad saying to my mom: "well we messed up with our first child, but our second one(my brother) will go to Harvard."</p>
<p>So yeah just wanted to get that out lol. Cant wait, only 5 months and im free.</p>
<p>bradshaw: fencersmother made the assumption that my parents were paying for college and that my parents were actually nice people, which is not true. my bad.</p>
<p>To the OPs question: Nope.</p>
<p>My mom is pretty lax about everything, as she trusts me to succeed on my own. If things start to go downhill ever-so-slightly, she becomes a bit naggy though. Sometimes she'd decide to actually be parent-y and say "go to sleep" if it is past 2 and I need to wake up at 5, but I always take that as a joke :)</p>
<p>My parents pretty much let me do what I want academically. If they think I should be studying I just say that I have all As and they leave me alone, sadly, after this semester, I won't be able to say that any more.</p>
<p>my parents trusted me through high school until it was time for college apps, then they went ape on me. i wasn't allowed out of the house, was forced to quit my job, they told me they didn't like my friends and i should stop hanging out with them, that i didn't have any dreams, and my dad almost made me submit an essay HE wrote. i don't know what i would have done if he had made me submit it. write a letter to the college admissions i guess, and hope for the best. and also apply to my state school so i at least have SOMEWHERE to go. and it was all because they decided they didn't like the essays i wrote.</p>
<p>i suppose my nonchalance at this sudden turnabout of events only continues to antagonize them. i mean, i guess it would be nice if i cared more and had "dreams," but then i'd probably be a nervous wreck all the time, and i can't see how that's any better. oh well. my family and i will work something out some day.</p>
<p>my mom trusts me almost to an unhealthy degree.</p>
<p>today i told her i was going to my work christmas party (ok, so it was a month late...what can i say, we're not very on top of things lol...) at a bar, and she just told me to call her when i got there.</p>
<p>hey op... if you posted looking for someone in a similar situation, there is a book "The Overachievers: The Secret Lives of Driven Kids" by Alexandra Robbins. Some of the kids have parents that like lock the kids in their rooms and listen at the door to make sure they are studying....</p>
<p>where did theincrediblehax's posts go?</p>
<p>^^ I dno what was on them, but sometimes mods delete them. </p>
<p>And I apologize for your situation, I think I'd go insane if that happened to me. My parents give me so much freedom it's insane. They let me stay here for weeks on end with my (ex :[)boyfriend when they went on vacations. </p>
<p>You need freedom in order to make the right decisions when your parents aren't around. Good luck.</p>
<p>My parents probably trust me to the extent that the average (not stereotypical) Asian parents trust their kids, but they won't allow me to stay up past 10:30. Not that I would, anyway.</p>