My mom has become chill over the time. She was a rather lenient tiger mom when we lived in Korea, but now she’s gotten “smoother”.
I’m Filipino and my parents and could not care less about me getting straight A’s. Granted, they’re proud of me when I do get them, but for the most part what they’re most concerned about is whether or not I’m happy at school.
@Hamurtle It sounds like a good cop bad cop story 
But yeah, your son should definitely choose what he wants to study because is it really studying if you enjoy it?
@websensation I think that everyone should have a life purpose you are working towards. I read a lot of philosophy and autobiographies and there are a few characteristics that most self-made successful people share: 1) They Have a Life Purpose (NOT ABOUT THE MONEY!), 2) Self Control+Hate Wasting time, 3) Growth
A lot of people have the mindset that if you want to be mega-wealthy, then you have to be a greedy money sucker, but the opposite is usually true. Those who are billionaires and charity workers have a life purpose which doesn’t revolve around financial gain.
@paul2752 Yeah, I think a lot of asian parents (and kids) tend to get americanized and become more relaxed. I know that my parents told me it was cutthroat in India where they grew up.
@Greninja That is so sweet of your parents! I never had any bullies because I am a pretty big kid but I am sure my parents would sense my emotional well being fluctuating as well!
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@NorthernMom61
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QUICK UPDATE: GREAT NEWS!
My Academic Mentee is doing very well. We were able to improve two of his very low F’s (less than 30%) to one C- and another D+. I don’t want to jinx anything, but at this rate, we will be able to get A’s and B’s by the end of the year. This would also prevent him from getting transferred to a helper school which is fantastic!
Also, he has goals now, he wants to become a car mechanic and has a trade school in mind!
I am so friggin excited for him and for the first time ever he is passing his math class with a C!
@oldfort I read Professor Duckworth’s book (Grit) and it was a great book. Plus, I plan to incorporate this into the mentorship program somehow (at least the idea of a growth mindset) because a lot of these kids have been told that they are dumb or bad kids their entire lives and it would be refreshing to know that they are simply in the process of betterment.
That is really exciting news @vivman24, your caring is making a difference! That’s huge.
@NorthernMom61 At the start of the year, he had five Fs and 1 A, however, now he has 1 A, 1 B, 1 C, and 3 F’s.
@vivman24 that is significant gain. Keeping the ball rolling in the positive direction gets more doable when the student sees results!
@NorthernMom61 My mentee is getting transferred to a Helper High School 
, so I will no longer be able to help him in class. His GPA was quite low and I am sure it would’ve shot up by the end of the year, but any kind of help this year is too late–he has too many credits to makeup from freshman and sophomore year. Sigh, I guess all good things must come to an end. But I’m definitely going to keep in contact and check up on him through Snapchat (his only form of communication) to make sure he remembers his goals career-wise.
It just really sucks and I’m not going to lie, I did tear up a bit when we said our goodbyes. But thank you NorthernMom for your help and encouragement. I am most likely going to get assigned to another mentee now and hopefully, I can apply the same principles but it is going to be difficult to establish a good relationship again.
@vivman24 You will make a great teacher or counselor if you choose that path. Helping one person is a big accomplishment.
@NorthernMom61 Thank you! I appreciate it. And yes, I agree helping someone (especially someone in poor circumstances) is a good thing to do, but I wish I could’ve been there till the end of his high school at least :(. Thank you once again NorthernMom for your help!