What are the pros and cons of the prodigious academic and non-academic demands placed on students at certain boarding schools? My daughter reports that she had four hours of homework each night as a ninth-grader. Is that excessive or is it good for her? We sometimes hear stories of students at such schools being sleep deprived and, hence, physically and emotionally frazzled. Yet we also hear stories of students who are usually tucked-in by 10:00 and leading healthy, balanced lives. Of course, students vary in study efficiency, and some are able to accomplish more in two hours than others can in four–so time invested doesn’t tell the whole story.
I have heard it said many times that after making it through such programs students find the first year of college to be relatively easy, while their peers from less rigorous high schools are struggling with the workload. And that’s fine. But are there any distinct advantages to being overwhelmed as a fourteen-year-old ninth-grader as opposed to an eighteen-year-old college freshman? Don’t the students who initially struggle with the college workload adjust in fairly short order?
In it’s recently released strategic plan, Lawrenceville submits the following as a “Potential Initiative”:
“Without compromising rigor, reduce the grinding pace of life for all members of the community so that even within this richly energizing community, a reflective and measured existence is possible. Impose fewer requirements on students so that their passions can increase engagement and drive their choices.” (from, “A Vision for the Future: Lawrenceville 20/20,” p.9.)
One has to wonder what has prompted Lawrenceville to consider such an initiative. And how exactly does a school “reduce the grinding pace of life” without “compromising rigor”? When they speak of “fewer requirements” are they referring specifically to math and science–or, perhaps, to the arts and athletics?
And consider this take, as reported on the “Salon” website:
"In 2013, UNICEF rated Dutch children the happiest in the world. According to researchers, Dutch kids are ahead of their peers in well-being when compared with twenty-nine of the world’s richest industrialized countries. The U.S. ranked twenty-sixth, just above Lithuania, Latvia and Romania – the three poorest countries in the survey.
As an American mom and a British mom, both of us married to Dutchmen and raising our kids in the Netherlands, it’s hard not to notice how happy Dutch children are. ***Childhood over here consists of freedom, plenty of play and little academic stress.
When we compare notes with friends back home, we hear horror stories, often to do with draconian selection processes to get into schools, starting at the tender age of three. These days there’s even such a thing as “good” or “bad” birthdays and “red-shirting” to ensure children have a head start over the other children in the class. In America, parenting has evolved into a highly competitive, exhausting business and schooling into a warzone with children drilled like miniature soldiers.***
But in the Netherlands, childhood is unencumbered with any of these particular concerns. Education has a different purpose: the route to a child’s well-being and their individual development. Schools in highly-populated areas use a lottery process to select students, rather than competitive entrance exams and heart-wrenching interviews. To get into most college programs, all a student needs is to pass high school exams at the right level. As a result, there is no real pressure to get straight A’s. In order to come to grips with the Dutch school system, we had to let go of a lot of things we’d been brought up to believe in and re-examine what education was all about." (Rina Mae Acosta and Michele Hutchison. “Dutch kids aren’t stressed out: What Americans can learn from how the Netherlands raises children.” “Salon,” March 26, 2017.)
I once asked a teacher at our local Waldorf school why some prep schools are so rigorous. He replied essentially that the market demands it. That would seem to be true on the face of it. That is, certain highly energetic, motivated students will welcome such rigor, and their parents are willing to buy it for them. The schooling experience for these kids is manifestly designed to go beyond the mere transmission of knowledge. These rigorous schools are serving the additional purpose of nurturing battle-hardened-and-tested individuals, who, if they don’t burn out, should be confident in their ability to function at full effort over the long haul–which would have to be a big plus in the most demanding and competitive work environments.
I’m honestly not sure what to make of this. Is “too much” work, really too much? Or is too much never enough? I am curious to hear what other parents have to say.