<p>this is a ■■■■■…but it’s always interesting to read the reactions to such scenarios.</p>
<p>I think this thread has run its course. JMHO.</p>
<p>“The Preacher’s Children Have no Shoes.”</p>
<p>It occurs to me that, if the OP is real (I too have my doubts), she may be going through an early mid-life crisis. Reminds me of someone on a different board (a long-time user, definitely not a ■■■■■ in that case) who wanted ideas about moving overseas to fill a low-paying job . . . bringing his wife and two small children in tow. None of whom spoke any language but English. Living overseas is fun, but that kind of job is for young people with few responsibilities. </p>
<p>OP, you are an adult with adult responsibilities. Act like it.</p>
<p>jym: you did a better job of articulating what I meant.</p>
<p>Thanks, myth.</p>
<p>Poetgrl-
I thought it was “The Cobbler whose Kid had no shoes”… no ???</p>
<p>the other question is if she doing a low-cost college so she can change to a low-paying job, how will she be able to contribute to med school?</p>
<p>Jym! You are soooo right! :p</p>
<p>katwkittens, What a great post! Thanks for your insight.</p>
<p>It is hard to believe this is not a ■■■■■ since this woman shows little regard for her daughter from, I’m afraid, the very start of her life. Putting an infant into childcare for years and years while the mother both attends college and works seems a difficult path, especially with no other parent around. Then working one’s way up into a very high-paying career seems to again put the mother’s ambitions ahead of the child. Now again, the mother has decided that while she spent hundreds of thousands on ECs (!), she doesn’t feel the desire to help her only daughter to get what she, herself, was able to get. If we believe the original story, OP was able to get FA/loans due to low income, but her own daughter will be denied this help due to the mom’s success.</p>
<p>This cannot be true. </p>
<p>However, true or not, there are parents all over the world who put their own desires and/or financial concerns ahead of giving their children college educations. It is understandable if the family is without funds. In this case, it’s just very sad for the daughter. If there is one.</p>
<p>I am speechless. If the post is true, then daycare really was her only option unless you wanted her on welfare. Maybe you just didn’t really read the whole story?</p>
<p>It seems to me that if the OP is not a ■■■■■ AND if she actually moves overseas when her daughter graduates THEN her daughter’s father would have to become the custodial parent. Since he is low-income, availability of need-based financial aid would materialize and much of the problem would be solved.</p>
<p>That still wouldn’t do much for the relationship between the OP and her daughter, but perhaps the relationship of daughter and her father might flourish.</p>
<p>Pretty sure the income and assets of both parents is considered in the FAFSA, no?</p>
<p>^^^^Only if the parents are married.
That is why I addressed the FAFSA only schools in post #95.
Kat</p>
<p>Not in this case. Parents in this scenario are either divorced, separated, or possibly never married.</p>
<p>@madbean Regardless of whether the OP is a ■■■■■ or not, there are absolutely some parents out there with this mindset. I used to work for someone who was very vocal about the fact that she would never spend a dime of her money for her kids’ college education because “I paid my own way, so they should be able to too.” (Never mind that college expenses were MUCH MUCH LOWER when she went to college.)</p>
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<p>I suspect the OP is suffering from a lethal combination of midlife crisis and delayed onset Postpartum depression.</p>
<p>Katwittens & donnegal - ok, wow…thanks. Well, in that case, OP should just make sure that when she goes overseas she does NOT claim her D as a dependent on her taxes and instead allows the father to.</p>
<p>Naturally, salaries were also lower. </p>
<p>My parents contributed some to my college and I paid the rest with grants, loans and scholarships. I took this onto consideration and picked a school accordingly. In another ten years I’ll be done paying for it. My sister had the same amount of loans in two years ad i had in four. </p>
<p>When I have kids, I’ll more then likely do it the same way, even if I could afford to pay the whole thing.</p>
<p>Same with car purchases and other items like cell phones. </p>
<p>Sent from my DROID BIONIC using CC</p>
<p>We did the same thing, fendergirl, with our kids.</p>
<p>However, costs are going up much more rapidly nowdays than they did in the past, scholarships are becoming much more scarce and lower in value, unemployment is up, and wages are not increasing as rapidly as they have in the past.</p>
<p>IT IS CHANGING. Just saying. I have noticed a huge difference from 2007 to 2013 with kids entering college and the cost associated. Believe me, percentage-wise, raises have not kept up.</p>