<p>1.) Hey, is it true (rather, has anyone heard of instances where) asking for a smoke-free dorm may land you a more debauched experienced (i.e. your roomate-to-be does coke and knows the cops dont harass the drug-free dorms as often, thus the real heavy pushers choose "no" on the form)? What, if it is, would be the best approach in terms of avoiding such vice?</p>
<p>2.) We all accept sexiling as an altruistic burden to uphold. But if your roomy is doing it every day with his/her significant/insignificant other(s), what should you do? Assume telling them to alternate rooms each time still leaves it being too often...</p>
<p>Sexiling, ***? Who the hell says that? Lol, jk. I'm guessing that you would have to confront the guy about it or file some type of complaint to switch rooms.</p>
<p>Sorry to not clarify; this was directed preferably at current students, but it is open to siblings of, friends of, as well as prospectives that may simply be in the know. That kids do drugs at Princeton is taken as read at this point.</p>
<p>To clarify one other thing, this is not for me, but two too-shy-to-post-themselves friends who will be class of '09. Please allay their fears...</p>
<p>If you have a sexiling problem, you can set up a dialogue with your roommate and have an RA moderate it. Given that many suites have common rooms, there is often enough space that students can negotiate. You are not expected to put up or shut up</p>
<p>well, for one...I think the whole reason sub-free is sub-free because the rules are enforced. I hardly think a coke-doer would sign up for sub-free housing since...well, there's no reason to. So, if you want to be sure to get in a living environment without all that stuff in it, sign up for sub-free. If you don't, you'll obviously have to stand the chance of doing so since non sub-free dorms are non-sub free, heh.</p>
<p>Sexilation (or sexiling or its derivatives) is something that ought to be discussed in the first days you and your roommates get to campus, from what I've been told. Since it can become an issue, it's better to at least come to some understandings before people start getting ****ed off and bitter and all that jazz. Hopefully if you talk to your roommate, compromise will be reached (or even better, it could end up not being a problem at all).</p>
<p>1) To be honest,I really really doubt it, and I think your friend is just a little nervous :). Getting caught smoking/doing drugs in a substance free dorm is a lot more serious than getting caught smoking/doing drugs in a dorm that has less explicit rules against it. There's also the issue of consideration - I doubt smokers light up to disturb other people;people who have elected to live in a non-substance free dorm have not specifically stated that they cannot/will not tolerate drugs. </p>
<p>2) sexiling [<- "..."]: I think there's no way to avoid this completely at any uni/dorm. I guess part of learning to dorm with people is confronting issues like this. It might be a good idea to peaceably lay down ground rules with your roommate(s) in the first few days or so to avoid conflicts later. The good news is that Princeton isn't on the list of the 25 most sexually active dorms (according to a post on CC somewhere), hehe.</p>
<p>Responding to the OP, if you're in a non-sub free dorm, pretty much nothing can happen to you for having drugs or alcohol. The cops don't come in and search. This isn't like state schools like Rutgers where people get written up for alcohol and arrested for marijuana possession (like all my friends have run into these problems there). If you're not stupid about it and don't bring an open container outside and don't have a keg in you're room, you can have all the pot and alcohol and whatever you want in your room. No one will care. Sub-free is a bit more tricky. If you have a party or something and you get reported, you could be in pretty deep ****, if they actually catch you. So people who really want to drugs and stuff probably won't choose sub-free, just because its not like the drug and alcohol policy here is actually enforced.</p>
<p>Both are violations of a contract against the person paying for it. People who want to have their fun should go find their own locations for it. Arrange with a friend, while he or she is at class; go get a motel room, whatever. Would it make any more sense to bring in an out-of-town friend for non-sexual purposes, & constantly kick out the one who's paying to reside there? (Just because the visitor "didn't have" a room? -- Oh, that's fine; you can just kick me out.) </p>
<p>The whole problem with the sexiling thing is that first of all, it will not necessarily be an even situation, if your roommate does <em>not</em> have a significant other. (Uh, pardon me: I just didn't happen to meet someone I was wild enough about while visiting campus, to get immediately cozy with during the first week of college. Second, it could be a major physical inconvenience for someone like me who is really affected without my normal bed.) </p>
<p>Sexile yourselves to the common room. Maybe I have a test tomorrow. </p>
<p>And is this the first thing on everyone's mind before you even get to P? I guess I'm weird; I'm still lookin' at the course offerings & the e.c.'s & filling out the forms.</p>
<p>This thread looks weird.. I tought Princeton having a such rigorous admission process that potentially filtrated the majority of drug users of that sort..</p>
<p>: / maybe in an ideal world gocollege, but if a person's able to do drugs and perform well academically and in ECs and show good character etc, then he's as likely to be accepted as anyone else.</p>
<p>Tom Perrotta's book "Joe College" is a comic novel about a kid who goes to Yale and is amazed to discover that the students don't study all the time and do abuse drugs. </p>
<p>I think it's fair to say, though, that Princeton is not a school where the dorms are thick with weed.</p>