“I’m really sorry you are having allergic reactions to scents.
Did your doctor indicate that the allergy testing revealed other reactions? With Covid and ventilation, you might be at risk.
We really need to talk to the RA because your health may be an issue; later, you may want to contact housing, with your medical records.
I think you might be able to get on the waitlist for special housing. I think that special housing will be more expensive for your parents, but if you’re having reactions in a group setting, especially during Covid, you and your parents will probably want a more isolated setting.”
Put it back on her. If she’s being a witch about it, ask for her medical records. Proof that it is specifically YOUR perfume in the presence of your RA, and BE as sweet as you can be with a very “concerned” expression.
I have asthma and multiple allergies to relatively common things. I cannot imagine that insisting on seeing someone else’s medical records is a good way to get to a productive relationship with a person you are living with.
Asthma is a completely different beast. My son has always had severe reactions, but his medical condition, and medications, were very evident to: the school, RA’s, roommates/dorm mates. Everyone knew he would be prone to asthmatic attacks. His room placement was between RA rooms and the nearest exits to the clinic and possible Emergency Services.
This appears to be a selective allergic reaction. The roommates don’t have to insist on seeing medical records, but housing and the medical community would require or request them since the person is claiming a medical reaction, claiming allergies, but isn’t allowing her roommate to have anything sprayed, nor working with her to ask her what kinds of sprays work. Sometimes, just following through on the claim, will help both roommates.
OK you’re allergic or sensitive to smells and maybe group housing isn’t the best for you.
Might I remind members of the forum rules: “Our forum is expected to be a friendly and welcoming place, and one in which members can post without their motives, intelligence, or other personal characteristics being questioned by others.
Update: I reported my roommate to the Residential Services on campus. Other than this incident with the body spray, there are a lot of other things she has done to me in the past several months which would take a whole page to detail. Because of the evidence I had to back up my claims, it was enough to grant me an emergency move from the RD. I’m not sure if my roommate will be disciplined at this present moment, but even if that doesn’t end up happening to her, that’s fine because what goes around will come around.
I definitely react to sprays and lotion scents, especially florals and, OMG, the Hawaiian line from BBW has me sneezing for hours. Of course my daughter loves it.
But I try to be nice about it and only ban her from my presence (and car) when she slathers it on.
Glad you worked it out, even if it meant a move for you.
. Good luck.