Dreading my Sophomore Year

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<p>I feel literally sick to my stomach when I think about going back to school in a couple weeks. This is my second year at the same school and freshman year could not have gone any worse. The only "friend" I made was my roommate (I'm living with her again next year because I had no other options) and she and I aren't even particularly close. I don't do sports and I'm extremely shy in group situations, although I have no problem being friendly and outgoing one-on-one. I'm looking forward to my classes but I feel completely lost socially and I don't know how to fix my situation. When I met people in class that I got along with, they never responded to my attempts to further our friendship. I've gone here a whole year already and haven't made any progress!</p>

<p>Does anyone have any tips for how to get past this, or should I seriously consider transferring?</p>

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<p>Hey, don’t worry. Things will get better. I’m in a similar situation to yours, only I’m a junior, so you still have so much time to meet people! If it’s still Welcome Week at your school, try to strike up conversations with people in class and even students you meet on campus. Once you join clubs during the year, you might even see those people, and you’ll already feel comfortable knowing who they are.</p>

<p>Probably the best advice I can give you is to NOT blame yourself. Things will get better if you really step out of your comfort zone and try to talk to more people. Even if things get awkward or don’t move forward (like with the people you met in class), keep trying! In 20 years, no one will remember all of the awkwardness, and only the good times :slight_smile: Also, don’t think of college as the best 4 years of your life – they can be, but don’t have to. I’ve met many older people who claim to be happier at age 50 than they ever were at 19! Feel free to message me if you need support!</p>