Sophomore and lonely

<p>As a freshman, I didn't really make any friends and I was hoping that sophomore year would be different. Of course I was wrong. It's still the first week of school but everyone already has all their friend groups. I can't meet anyone in my dorm because it's like an apartment building and there's only one other room on my floor. I'm so miserable. I have no one to eat with, no one to spend weekends with, and no one to just confide in. I love my roommate but she's very social and always has someone different to hang out with. I've tagged along with her before but I'm always uncomfortable around her friends and I don't fit in. I've joined clubs but haven't made any friendships. I just wish I knew someone else here who feels the same way I do. </p>

<p>It sounds like you need to be more proactive. To go your whole freshman year without making friends means you’re doing something wrong. You’re either [unintentionally] making yourself unapproachable or you’re not making enough effort. Sometimes people will gravitate towards you and make you their friend whether you have a say or not, but that’s rare. It sounds like you need to initiate hanging out with people. Chat people up in/after class, at school events, clubs, etc- then ask them to hang out later. It’s as simple as, “hey, what are you doing tonight?”</p>

<p>If you really don’t want to repeat last year you need to step up and make some first moves. Remember- you get what you put in! Good luck!</p>

<p>When I was in college, back in the cretaceous period, the most common way one person would start talking to another was to ask about class assignments/problems. Around sophomore year was when people on teh same major started gravitating towards each other to to get caught up on work also. </p>

<p>I know what you mean! This is my second year here. I don’t have many friends. I have a boyfriend but he goes to a different uni thats close to mine. I spend a couple days a week with him. Which helps me not feel lonely. The roommate I have this year is a girl that i met last year. We don’t know each other well but we agreed to live together. I don’t think she has many friends either. It seems like she doesn’t. But she does work a lot it seems. So lately she has been in and out of the dorm like crazy. She hasn’t slept here since we moved back to campus. She said she might come back to sleep here if she doesn’t get off work too late. But if not she will just sleep at her house. I admit I’m kinda bummed she works so much lol. It would be nice to have someone to hangout with throughout the day. I don’t know if I would say we are friends yet. We have been texting about school stuff. She’s super nice. </p>

<p>I know my problem with making friends is that I need to put myself out there more. It’s kinda hard sometimes though. Since I have always been a bit of an introvert. I think just talking to people in class really helps. Especially if they are new students. What have you tried so far to help your situation? </p>