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<p>You're right, of course. I know that our son doesn't share our feelings, and it's good and appropriate that he doesn't.</p>
<p>Yes, I have 2 boys. One is in his last yr college @ RPI and is self reliant and needed no help from us to move back and forth. He worked the last 2 summers on campus while taking a course. My youngest and the one that seems to be the more sensitive one is very close to us(my DH and I) and we all know that this is a good thing. He is not far from home but as he said his first week, "Ya know, I'm not that far away but it seems like I'm in another part of the world".
The first week was filled with calls to us regarding his glasses cracking and his second pair not working, losing his keys of which I stayed calm on the phone but was pacing back and forth on the back porch. He found the keys in a short time and felt better. I said all alond 'you will find them". He called b/c he remembered I always pray to St. Anthony to find lost things which works pretty good so I guess he wanted some of that from me. )A throw back to my very strict Catholic upbringing) LOL
A few weeks have gone by and he still communicates quite frequently although when I asked if he was interested in coming home for the day during the weekend he response was...Mom, I really can't come home on the weekends much... I want to do stuff there and try new things...that made me feel better and I was totally ok w/ it. He laughs now at the amount of discussion him and I had prior to him leaving for college(2 weeks before). He kept saying that he didnt think he could do it, and he didnt think he could sleep there, and he didnt think he could study there, but he is....and is thriving. I Told him to give himself time to adjust. Everybody there was going thru the same feelings. Since then he has joined a few clubs, volunteered for campus events and even has met new people by just introducing himself to tohers at the dining hall. He has called with some very crazy but typical dorm events like the time he called to ask me to listen to the "crazy guys" outside at 1AM singing by the dorm so loud everyone was hanging out their windows! i said ...welcome to college life...enjoy the spontaneity and freedom...!! I give him alot of credit b/c my DH and I felt he was capable academically but was quite shy so we had concerns. Fortunately housing listened to his concerns on the reslife applic. for housing and gave him a single in a quad setting with 3 other great people in a great dorm. He has found a nice small group of like minded people and is not afraid to follow his heart.
On the other hand our house is way too quiet and I am adjusting to it. The cat is having difficulty though, wandering around the house crying out for him upstair and downstairs and even in the garage. She was his cat.
Last night on AOL I signed off with xoxo, Mom and he signed back- I love you very much too Mom. That made it all ok.</p>
<p>I just heard from my son tonight, and he is very busy with band camp this week. He sounds well, and is looking forward to my sending him some things he forgot. He's been busy meeting a lot of others, and getting to know new people on his dorm floor. It just felt good to hear his voice, and know he is well, and things are going ok for now. I'll sleep better tonight!</p>
<p>I'm jealous...I missed my son's call last night. I'd been hanging out by the computer all night and then I went to do the dishes, when I came back I could see he'd called me via skype. I tried him, but no answer. Maybe tonight?? It was good just to see his name on the missed call list and to know he'd made it back from frosh camp.</p>
<p>Nice post, mafool. I like your approach...a creative way of thinking during this big adjustment time for all of us parents.</p>
<p>Yes, mafool -- nice post -- and lovely thought about enjoying being this child's mother. It's hard for me to imagine what an 18 year old boy thinks - but I'd guess that was nice for him to hear, too.</p>