<p>Spoke to S and found out a floor mate had his parents show up unexpectedly after a long drive to spring a test on the lil' tyke. Good for them. S didn't think the kid would pass.</p>
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<p>I wonder how the gottenridofson would test.</p>
<p>“S didn’t think the kid would pass.”</p>
<p>Hence the reason for the test?</p>
<p>What sort of test? Room cleanliness?</p>
<p>I must be dense. What does the link in post #2 have to do with post #1?</p>
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<p>a… surprise drug test, maybe?</p>
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<p>Obviously, because clearly. Duh?</p>
<p>(I got nothin’).</p>
<p>One of my former college roommates from the Old Country actually got married to a classmate (of a different race, which his parents apparently did not appreciate :-)). So they had an apartment with TWO phone lines, and one was for US callers only and one for his parents only which only he would answer. Somehow his parents found out (they were sending serious $$$ and there were plenty of people from the Old Country there) and showed up from across the Atlantic unannounced…</p>
<p>I never arrive unannounced … I’m scary enough when expected!</p>
<p>I know some parents who have drug-tested their kid as a condition of continuing support (paying his tuition). He didn’t think they were serious, but after he failed twice they stopped paying. He asked them what he should do, and they told him to figure it out for himself. (He had a job, was able to get a student loan at the last minute and continued in college. Don’t think he stopped using, though.)</p>
<p>"Good for them. S didn’t think the kid would pass."OP</p>
<p>Why would any parent drug test their kid? </p>
<p>A parent should be a kid’s advocate and relate to their kid in a trusting manner. </p>
<p>Plus, it is what kids sometimes do in college. They drink and take drugs.</p>
<p>If you stop paying for college, chances are his drug usage will increase, not decrease.</p>
<p>All around stupid idea to surprise, drug test your kid. OP’s “GOOD FOR THEM” is scary!</p>
<p>I would just taser mine if they were doing anything illegal…</p>
<p>Is there a CDK who posts as a parent and a kid?</p>
<p>Nope…just as a parent…first kid started college this year…but I’m still a kid at heart!!</p>
<p>I can guess, 1986, one possible perspective to your query in post 10.
Whether or not college tuition money is a hardship for parents, it is still a generous gift to the student to help him/her have far more opportunities in career and life.
One possibility is student had a cheaper fare offered elsewhere, but convinced parents to pay higher rate in exchange for this condition.
Or a broader, more general idea is that in exchange for what the parents are giving, they expect the student to give his best efforts and/or keep out of trouble. It may be they believe a student on drugs isn’t giving his best efforts.
But a big key here imo is we don’t know expectations of both parties, or what student/parent agreed to/expected before the college, so I wouldn’t be comfortable judging if it’s fair or not without that info.</p>
<p>I agree, younghoss. None of us know what the family dynamics were in play leading up to college entrance. For all we know, this may well have been a kid with substance abuse issues in high school, that had cleaned up under a tough love scenario, and the parents are concerned re: a relapse. And if OPs son is right, then they had good reason to be concerned. </p>
<p>But we dont know the story. </p>
<p>My 28 year old newphew has had substance abuse issues since he was 15. Candidly, a tougher love approach from my brother and his exwife might have derailed and prevented it. (Kid never went to college, and I’m thinking he dropped out of HS and wound up the GED route.) </p>
<p>I always swore if my kid had that kind of issue in HS, I’d be on him like stink on a JuneBug. I’d be sending his happy butt to one of those workcamps in the Catskills for 6 months.</p>
<p>Is it a sign of impending doom of a kid experiements in college? Of course not. But if a kid had “Issues” prior, yeah, as a parent, I’d be vigilent as all get out in their freshman year.</p>
<p>We don’t know the story, but we can detect the glee of the OP - GOOD FOR THEM. </p>
<p>It is the first few weeks of school - Kind of hard to detect how any kid will adapt to a college experience.</p>
<p>It is also more than possible that the majority of readers do relate to their kids in such a manner.</p>
<p>Lots of kids are doing drugs and drinking on campus. </p>
<p>ANY OTHER PARENTS RUNNING OFF TO SCHOOL TO DRUG TEST YOUR KIDS? </p>
<p>EVER HEARD OF ANYONE DOING THAT?</p>
<p>^ Your post drips with self-righteousness…in BOLD. </p>
<p>No one on here knows anything at all about this family’s situation/motivation. Perhaps they really are doing what they think is in their child’s best interests. Obviously many kids ‘experiment’ in college, but this may go well beyond that…we don’t know…</p>
<p>I didnt read the OPs post negatively or gleeful in a snarky way at all. The “Good for them” read in tandem of the context of the sentence that said “S didnt think he would pass” suggests to me there could be issues here that involve abuse. Or maybe there isn’t. Again we dont know anything for sure.</p>
<p>Except this kid does indeed have parents who care.</p>
<p>Good for them.</p>
<p>THANKS FOR NOTICING THE BOLD, CDK - I PUT IT IN BOLD SO IT WOULD BE NOTICED.</p>
<p>You can also read the rest of my post, which you also repeated - thanks again!</p>
<p>Let us know when you drug test your kid!</p>
<p>It is also most likely illegal to force a drug test on a kid who is 18yo or older.</p>