My son applied ED2 and was curious because the notification date is Monday ( a holiday) so I wrote to see when the decisions will be out. I am a surprised because they just said “early next week”. Isn’t that odd for a school which I am sure expected the applications on a deadline and expects students to honor deadlines to not honor the date? It’s bothering me. Plus, as much as I think this school is great for him, really pretty perfect, he is getting into a LOT of schools we thought were reaches, schools significantly harder than the one he applied ED 2. I am sort of wishing now he had done regular. Our family had a real crisis at the beginning of high school that would have devastated any kid’s performance. He has made an amazing recovery from that and I only hoped that colleges really will listen if you can document what happened and recovering from it. We didn’t count on them listening. He had said maybe he wanted to do RD because he wanted to be able to choose after he knew, then we saw this school he loved and thought, if the ED gives an edge then he should do it. Not saying I really think we made a mistake just this deadline thing is bothering me as I was thinking… ok… Monday… that’s it then we know. Seems wrong to me. Of course, I don’t want to name the school. Part of me thinks if they are late it breaks the contract. I feel like that would be true if my son had been late. I should just be relieved because I know he got into one really good college he loved that I didn’t really think he would get into. So, really, it doesn’t matter. But I am upset. My son, he’s fine.
Why not just call and withdraw the application now?
I hope I’m not being too tactless, but I think you should follow your son’s example and just relax a bit. Maybe have a few glasses of wine or go see a movie.
Added - I also agree with lostaccount. He/she gave really good advice to think about. But decide before Monday.
Yep, I agree. And heck no withdraw would be stupid he picked ED for a reason. Just frustrated and second guessing. But should be focusing on being happy that he is definitely in somewhere good and we will know next week not the late notice. Just ready to be on to next chapter.
Monday is a holiday. Give it a break. For all you know, this will appear in his student portal on Monday.
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So ETA…Monday, the USPS is a postal,holiday…so if coming via snail mail…it won’t come Monday, because no mail is being delivered that day.
When my kids applied ED, one school said - you will hear on December 10 at 6 o’clock eastern time. The other simply said mid-December. That’s how it went. There was no specific date or time. They actually released on December 10 as well but we weren’t expecting a decision til the week after.
Relax. They said early next week. It’s not a contract.
This is why I had to step back past year, let my child handle things while I remain in the dark. The child is always fine while the parent is a wreck. (I’m still learning this lesson this year, D’s freshman year - her woes upset me but her? She’s fine)
your real concern is not the notification date, but the fact that you are now having second thoughts about EDII; your son wanted to do RD, so now you feel guilty. Sorry, but you made that deal (with the devil).
And, fwiw, I’m not sure EDII is much as a boost as ED I. (Just throwing that out there for others who might be reading this thread, not to pile on.)
If they release on Tues vs Mon, that does not mean they ‘broke’ the contract and would not give you legit grounds to reneg.
I agree with everyone and I feel sort of bad I posted about this at all. If the site allowed me to delete my question I would. Best advice in my mind was to follow my son’s lead and back off.
It’s OK…you are a concerned parent!
Please keep in mind that many colleges are not closed this Monday. Unless notification is by snail mail, you may hear on the 15th. Good luck and try to relax.
^^Good point. I have to work at my state university on Monday. I wouldn’t feel bad about being stressed for your child. I think we feel it so our kids can be fine.
It’s good that your son is fine with it. I can understand your being a little miffed about it though if February 15 is the notification date they published, although I wouldn’t let him in on your feelings about it. I know each college has a different way of communicating, but perhaps the online portal will change to “accepted” prior to the letter in the snail mail. That is what happened with my daugher’s acceptance notification.
He is in, they let us know on the date… all good in the world! Woo hoo!
Congratulations!
In a year, you will look back on this and wonder what the issue was. It is tough now because you are worried about him getting accepted and then what to do if he is not.