<p>Would it be inappropriate for child to email coach prior to release of decision on dec15. We have a good rapport with coach and the suspense is getting her crazy!! It's d3 LAC. Thanks..</p>
<p>I would not do it. </p>
<p>If the coach has official decision to share in advance of letters being mailed… they’ll call your child directly.</p>
<p>Walter, I’m leaning with Mary’s advice. Frankly, I’m guessing that if you don’t hear anything, it’s good news (assuming you got a likely letter or strong pre-read or whatever the school offers). If the news is bad because something popped up that the admissions office failed to consider earlier, I presume that the coach would be more likely to contact you early to let you down gently and explain on “behalf” of the school what went sideways. Admittedly, this is conjecture. The coach may in fact now know but want to let you have the experience of learning in the time-honored fashion for that school, whatever it is. But it’s hard to call the coach and ask if he or she can share any information he or she may have without sounding a little needy - not a great image to project. Sure, the coach knows you’re excited and anxious, but you would be trying to shortcut the process a little.</p>
<p>By all means, please come back and deliver the (hopefully good) news about her application.</p>
<p>Speaking strictly as one grown-up to another, I have two thoughts. One, it’s a good lesson to teach a child to have a little patience - the same lesson we taught about waiting until Christmas morning to open packages. And, frankly, when my wife and I deliberately insisted we didn’t want to know our child’s sex ahead of time, it was all that more delicious to have it all happen at the right time, with the doctor saying, “Congratulations, you have a healthy baby … boy!” (We didn’t have a rooting interest one way or another, but… ) Sure, like many things in life, we were dying to know ahead of time and in fact could have found out, but in hindsight, it was better to wait and we’re glad we did.</p>
<p>My sentiments exactly, Ursa. </p>
<p>My son applied EDI for 11/15, and got a phone call from the head coach on 12/1 that he was in. Waiting the 2.5 weeks for the formal letter of admission to arrive after that phone call, was painful for all of us. We wanted to celebrate publically, and finally breathe… but we played it safe. Son and parents are none-the-worse, for it ;)</p>
<p>Also - coaches are officially notified the same day as everyone else, so they wouldn’t have much more information than you do right now.</p>
<p>My two cents…Don’t email coach. Wait it out. The coach or admissions knows how to get a hold of you. I know it is difficult to wait, but you’ve got to find something else to occupy your time and thoughts.</p>
<p>We were very fortunate that son’s future Ivy coach called every other week (on Sunday) to touch base while ED app was in process. However, our ED app took 6 weeks. It was usually a 5-10 minute conversation about everyuthing other than he was accepted. Coach told us later that he knew son was in, but couldn’t share until Admissions had made it official. So, I guess different schools or coaches handle it differently…some by the book and some not by the book. As a parent, I remember those 6 weeks as being some of the toughest to deal with. My son (who is not one to get emotional) dealt with it pretty well by engaging himself in his studies & projects, and working with us on various contingency plans. </p>
<p>Somehow the kids deal with it better than the parents.</p>
<p>Ursa has it just right. If any red flags had popped out, the coach usually would be given a “heads up” and also would want to let the applicant know (esp if it will be a deferral…). Remember that coaches depend upon the college counseling services at the high schools as well as high school coaches–get a bad rep and you are pretty much out of business–and college counselors don’t like it when they are sand-bagged and haven’t had the time to prepare the student (and his/her family). </p>
<p>Now if the student wasn’t really a slot/tip/call it what you will, then the coach probably doesn’t know, but I somehow doubt that if a real recruit was getting bad news that the coach would be blind-sided by admissions (sometime the ad com rep to athletics might ask the coach for an indication of how much he/she wants the candidate if the student is marginal…)</p>
<p>Anyway, it is less than a week now. Mary, I’m with you-- I don’t care what any coach says verbally-- show me the letter before breaking out the swag!</p>
<p>Midd Kid-“everything looks good, but it’s up to admissions now, I can’t tell you” Called my s the day decisions sent out to congratulate him-“It was hard not to tell you, but we aren’t allowed”…It isn’t official til its official…</p>