<p>Not too long ago, I decided that I didn't want to go to UCLA if i got in. I've been stuck at home for 3 years and would like to experience 'typical' college life when I transfer. I know my parents will force me to go there if I got in, but my heart's not in it. I'm really tempted to email the school and ask them to outright reject me. Is this a good idea or not?</p>
<p>lmao, sure.. what do you got to lose?</p>
<p>no! just hide the acceptance letter from them if u do get in, lol.</p>
<p>yes please! Then one of us can have your spot ;-)</p>
<p>freshhh, grow up. You are an adult now; it is time to stop listening to your parents and do things you feel is right for you. The whole purpose of college is to make mistakes and learn from them. </p>
<p>With that being said, who cares if you get accepted in UCLA or not... when that day comes and you decide not to want to go there, tell your parents straight up.</p>
<p>whats your major/gpa?</p>
<p>If you email the school and ask them to outright reject you, can you also ask them to accept Maria Milova instead? ; )</p>
<p>That has to be the stupidest thing I have ever heard. You should not do that. If you get accepted to UCLA and really do not want to go there then grow some.....courage to tell your parents that you dont want to go there.</p>
<p>it might be stupid for the OP but it's advantageous for us, lol.</p>
<p>You can instead ask to withdraw your application</p>
<p>I would call and tell your parents. It's unfair to take up a spot at UCLA when you don't want to go. I applied to UCLA because it's a definite possibility for me. Maybe not my first, but I'd sure as hell think about it. To apply when you truly don't want to go, seems silly.</p>
<p>People, you have to remember his parents are probably going to help finance his education. If he doesn't go to UCLA but gets accepted they might not be willing to front the bill.</p>
<p>I don't know how much contact the UCs have with one another, but just to be safe, I would wait until you had an acceptance from another school (that you are willing to go to) in hand before sending any type of letter asking UCLA to reject you. For most of the UCs, you'll have ample time to do this. And if it's CAL that you really want to go to, I would come up with an argument to make to your parents in favor of going to CAL instead of UCLA. You could heavily exaggerate the difference in their rankings etc. </p>
<p>As far as the letter goes, I wouldn't outright say that you want to get rejected. Instead I would ask for a major change. For instance, if you're applying to Chemical Engineering, you could (repeatedly) ask for a major change to something like Art History. That would almost be a surefire way to ensure you get rejected.</p>
<p>you're an adult. Either live your own life or do what your parents want you to do forever.</p>
<p>It would be presumptuous and ridiculous to ask them to send you a letter of rejection. (What if you one day want to go there for grad school?)</p>
<p>If you don't want them to accept you, as Malishka31 said, you simply ask them to withdraw your application from consideration.</p>
<p>hey if you have no passion to stay at UCLA, just don't go and tell your parent straight up. They won't like it that for sure, but it's your life to obey. YOU!! decide what best for yourself. If you have no passion to stay at UCLA, just withdraw and let other people who wants to go to UCLA, to get their chance.</p>
<p>Email to reject you? Are you joking...</p>
<p>If you don't want to go there simply send them a letter stating you are withdrawing your application. As others have said, one day you may choose to study/work/research at UCLA, asking them to reject you will decimate those opportunities. </p>
<p>If you don't want to go there, send a letter of withdrawal.</p>
<p>OK, ok as stupid as the thread was I felt compelled to throw out the question because I'm just so stressed over which school I'll end up at. I have a little over 2 months before I really have to hunker down, but the truth of the matter is, I don't have much power in deciding the school. Why? Because my parents are paying for my college education and I am fiancially dependent on them. Financial dependence limits my decision making in a lot of things, and school is one of them. I wish I could grab life by the balls and do my own thing as many of you say, however that is not going to happen.</p>
<p>I applied to UCLA and five other UCs because it maximizes my chance of getting into a few out of the six. My parents are narrow-minded asian folks who care mostly about prestige, prestige, prestige. So much that it makes me want to barf because there's more to life than that. I'm sorry if some of you truly want to go to UCLA and here I am being a little ***** about it. But i'm nervous as hell that my 'rents won't hear any of my thoughts and march me over to westwood this fall. who knows? maybe la will just reject me. It's very possible. oh yeah, i don't plan to go to la for grad school at all because it doesn't even offer my field of study. I just want to know though...why do so many people want to transfer to ucla? aside from status and convenience do you really think choosing bruines over other UCs will really make a difference? just a thought.</p>
<p>Medusa, your reply hit it on the spot. thanks for understanding my insanity. this thought makes much more sense in my head than it does on this post. haha...I think the pressure of choosing the 'right' school is really getting to me. even i'm laughing at my own question. </p>
<p>i'm an art history major with a 3.5 gpa. good chance la will reject me. who knows. anything is possible. i'll wait it out like everyone else.</p>
<p>"Why? Because my parents are paying for my college education and I am fiancially dependent on them...."</p>
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<li>so it'll be a little harder.. if you really want that experience outside of LA, you'll find your independence and attempt to become self sufficient. when your parents see how hard you're trying and how badly you want something, 9 times out of 10, they'll get you out of a hard spot if one should come up. life won't be so lavish, but take it from someone who was in a similar position -- so far as overbearing, foreign parents intent on living vicariously through their children -- when you provide for yourself and do things on your own terms, they're infinitely more rewarding. if you have specific questions, or want to have a little personal discourse, PM me. i'd be glad to sell you on the notion of actualizing your OWN desires (be sure, i mean that in no way spiritually). </li>
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<p>"I wish I could grab life by the balls.."</p>
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<li>get a job.</li>
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<p>UCLA is my number one pick basically because I think it is an AMAZING university and it would be an honor to attend there. I've lived in the San Fernando Valley all my life (about 20 miles from Westwood) and when I venture into that city I am so drawn to it. It's absoultely beautiful, prestigious, and it makes me feel safe. When I tell people that I am hopefully transferring to UCLA, I get this look of impression that really can't come from other UC's, except for Cal. Overall, UCLA just really embodies every element that I believe comes with a great university. </p>
<p>With that said, if you want to get the college experience and move away, make sure you choose a place that you will feel comfortable in. San Diego is absoultely beautiful and that is my 3rd choice school (behind Cal) but when I think of location it would definetely come #2 behind UCLA, maybe even #1. I do plan on moving out and living where I go to school and UCLA just really seems like a place I would want to be, even though housing can cost $$$$$ and I'll be paying for it on my own, so for you that is a different story. Personally, call me a baby, but I don't really want to get away from my parents and would love to have the comfort of calling them up on a Saturday and getting lunch, or even coming home for the weekend. </p>
<p>I think that what you really want is just to get away from your controlling parents, which is why UCLA would be too close of an option for you because they could really come and go as they please if they wanted to, or even force you to live at home. If you really have no intention of going to UCLA I would recommend withdrawing you application. There are soooo many people that are dying to go there and it would be unfair for them to give up a spot to someone who really has no intention of going. </p>
<p>Good luck with whatever you chose to do!</p>