<p>it seems that most of the asian students i know have very low self esteem and don't really talk to their parents about much other than grades/dont confide in their parents. if you're asian, is this true for you? why?</p>
<p>i do know that asian american females ages 15-24 are most suicidal in the United States or something like that.</p>
<p>What the *<strong><em>!
Do we give a *</em></strong>??</p>
<p>I'm not Asian, but of the Asian parent's I've known and met, most are crazy. The desire to see their children become a good person ranks far below the desire to see them become good statistics for the crazy ones. </p>
<p>But of course, the not-crazy ones are awesome.</p>
<p>Explode i comprehend your perspective.For me its the total opposite. My dad and I talk about anything.
Btw, how do you know so well that the asian students you know don't talk much about anything other than grades to their parents? As a Korean-American, it may seem like that, but in reality their parents who care very much about their childs future. When asian students are not in school, they don't discuss school related issues. Explode you are deceived.</p>
<p>I am Chinese American, but I wouldn't say I have low self esteem or that I only talk about grades with my parents. I happen to have a strong relationship with my parents, and many of my friends describe me as a very outgoing person who pretty much knows everyone wherever I go. I think it varies from family to family, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that most Asian kids have low self esteem because I know for a fact that it's not true. </p>
<p>Explode, I can see where you're coming from, but perhaps in the future you could include a "why not?" at the end of your questions. I think there are many people who would disagree with your statement.</p>
<p>I am Asian, but I don't have low self-esteem AND I talk to my parents about things BEYOND grades in schools. I know that one of the reasons for this is because I'm first-generation and they probably don't even know what the SATs are! Haha. But I do know a lot of Asian parents who can be this way, but nevertheless the relationship between a parent and a child, regardless of ethnicity or cultural pressure, is stronger than any grade.</p>
<p>The reason I don't confide in my parents is not because I'm Asian.</p>
<p>This is ONE of the stupidest thing i ever heard. Most suicides occur among WHITES...most rocky parent-child relationships happen among WHITES</p>
<p>**** *** <em>? </em> or **** *** <strong><em>?! *</em></strong> no.</p>
<p>PS. Sorry, couldn't resist it after frenchdude's comment.</p>
<p>What are you talking about? my parents do not put much pressure/expectation on me. They want me to be happy. On the other hand, I'm usually the person who expect a lot from myself. And I am an Asian female who is not suicidal.</p>
<p>I've seen this is some people, but it's rare.</p>
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<p>Explode, as a Vietnamese person, the reason why SOME Asian students have low esteem is not only their parents wants to be very successful in their future but also the parents tend to be the "Enforcer." In other words, they literally force them to study as hard as they can. Pretty much the most common method of forcing is getting hit by their own parents with a bamboo stick or some other item causing them to be very depressed, hurtful, and scared of their own parents. Others can be verbal such as insulting and disencouraging them that they will live as a homeless person for the rest for their life and they aren't worth ****. Thats very emotional if you ask me.</p>
<p>I don't know much about conservations bewteen a child and a parent, but from my experiences I don't talk to my dad a lot except for important things in matter such as grades, colleges, driver's license(not the way you think of), and vice versa. I used to be child abuse from my dad but things are kind of better. But there are some things that aren't changed such as I don't talk with my dad much still but we are pretty much neutral about it.</p>
<p>Basically what I'm getting that some Asian-Americans(mainly first generation) still hold their cultures from Asia and haven't realized what the life of America will be like. So the parents do whatever what they do to make their child the best of the best.</p>
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<p>That can be false or true depending on the living conditions. I know majority of the Asians are hard-working and so as the women progressing a lot. Combine the two and you'll see someone working faster tirelessly than you do. But hey, what do I know? I'm not a woman. XP </p>
<p>Hope this helps your confusion.</p>
<p>-DragonSharp</p>
<p>lol that's where i got it from. sorry, i must have phrased the question in a bad way... sorry.</p>
<p>She committed suicide because she thinks she is messed up by appearance.......... Holy crap dude..... Seriously I'm proud to be asian no matter what people say about us and that professor needs to be slap(or better yet punch) across the room. Sure I can say racist jokes all the time but not in practical use..... </p>
<p>The one thing I will point out that is true is the asian culture where asians can point who is worthless. I remember once for a summer reading that I read a book called The Good Earth where it takes place during the European's sphere of influence in China that having a daugther signfies bad luck to the family while having a son is the opposite.</p>
<p>Still we are in the present and must accept who we are.</p>
<p>lol. i was just wondering if it was true for more people. maybe it's just the people i personally know are like this.</p>
<p>Its really hard to generalize Asian-Americans parents right now since we got a lot of first generation family coming into America and then we have other generations exposed to the American culture. And time is changing so I might be wrong about first generation Asian family right now.</p>
<p>But hey, just hang around with them and see whats up with them. I might be right or wrong.</p>
<p>Is that so?</p>
<p>Being Chinese, I don't feel the big reason I have low esteem is because of my parents. I had a rocky time in middle school with stress of peers and what not. They of course contributed with the Harvard talk and not messing up with life but they stopped soon enough and now its mostly that I do it to myself. </p>
<p>Yes I do not confide in my parents. They have always disagreed with the fact that I have friends and activities. They prefer if I stayed home and cleaned. I don't feel I can tell them many things without backlash and forbidding me to do things. For instance they are furious this summer as I intern for the Congressman. Just wait until they learn that I am going to major in History and then go into the Peace Corps. (Scream Fest '08) I don't feel they support me in my endevours so why must I confide and deal with negative put downs all day long?</p>
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<p>Then enlighten me. Show me that contradicts my point about generalizing. If it is well done, then I will accept it. Besides I don't have the necessary skills to be a final judgment dude and I still need to learn a lot....... :P</p>
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Yes I do not confide in my parents. They have always disagreed with the fact that I have friends and activities. They prefer if I stayed home and cleaned. I don't feel I can tell them many things without backlash and forbidding me to do things. For instance they are furious this summer as I intern for the Congressman. Just wait until they learn that I am going to major in History and then go into the Peace Corps. (Scream Fest '08) I don't feel they support me in my endevours so why must I confide and deal with negative put downs all day long?
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<p>Well said man. Just follow what you wish to do, thats why we are in America lol.</p>
<p>hm. well I have three friends who are all actually depressed underneath, but they continue to excel in the things they do. I also knew a yalie who was also asian and had similar concerns as my three friends do now. .... just from personal experience... </p>
<p>haha yeah.. i had a rocky point in MS too.</p>