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Yes, I love to talk about academics outside of class, its a great feeling. But, I also like to be laid back and just hang out.
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<p>Well, at Wes at least (and I would imagine Vassar and many other of the schools listed), you DO get both. While Unalove is right, at Wes, we do often say "lets smoke pot (or not, it's up to you!) and play video games for fun," we ALSO stay up all night arguing over god, and discuss Nietzsche in the bathroom for an hour (true story). Of course, I'm sure there is some balance at the other type of school, too.</p>
<p>I think the real distinction is not what people talk about while at the dinner table (because I bet it could go both ways at either type of school--I know it can at Wes), but how academics are approached. From what I know about UChicago/Reed/Swarthmore (all second and third hand, of course, so unalove might correct me), when people are doing their work, they are doing their work. Period. They love it. And sometimes (at least at Reed, I'm not sure about at the other two), this also makes them really stressed. But they still love it.</p>
<p>And people at Wes (and my guess is others like it), sure, they DO love their work, and are serious about it. But sometimes Wes students also say, "screw this reading, it's a beautiful day and I'm going to go sit on the hill for an hour."</p>
<p>Anyway, Oberlin is very like Wes and Vassar, and slightly easier to get into, so it could be a really good match for you. As for other suggestions, see my former post. But definitely Oberlin if you like Wes and Vassar.</p>
<p>ETA: Another way to look at it is that UChicago types tend to, I think, (not trying to make a sweeping generalization here, I'm sure this is not true of everyone!) be people for whom academics really is their first love (whether or not they want to go into academia as a career). A Wes type is more likely to attract people who quite like academics, but for whom saving the world/making movies/writing the next great America novel/making sweet, sweet music/the theater/whatever else is actually their first and greatest passion. That's not to say UChicago types don't have other passions, or that Wes types don't have great passion for academics, it's just that priorities are slightly different. </p>
<p>Unalove, does that sound right to you? And OP, does that help make one sound more appealing than the other?</p>