<p>Ok...I got a typicalish Catholic Middle Eastern father...he doesn't want me to go far from home
...but I've worked to hard and I wanna go to UCSB!</p>
<p>I need help convincing him! Any good ideas? (p.s. the party school reputation makes it worse even though ALL COLLEGES HAVE PARTIES)</p>
<p>It depends on which UCs you get admitted to and private college choices. In other words, your arguments would differ based on the real opportunities you face.</p>
<p>The real only options I got going for me is community college, Cal Poly Pomona, and UCSB…
I doubt I’ll get into UCLA (small chance!)</p>
<p>Remember parties don’t come to you, you have to go the parties. UCSB has plenty of students who are serious about studies and choose how to have fun their own way. You can always stay away from the party scene in Isla Vista.</p>
<p>you admit to him you are allergic to alcohol and find either gender repulsive.
no drunkenness, no surprise baby</p>
<p>:]</p>
<p>im in the SAME boat.
but im still going
ive got tips for you ;]</p>
<p>Go to the UCSB open house in April and bring your dad. [UCSB</a> Admissions Open House](<a href=“http://www.admissions.ucsb.edu/OpenHouse.asp]UCSB”>http://www.admissions.ucsb.edu/OpenHouse.asp) It’s a chance for your dad (and you) to “kick the tires”, so to speak. And you can be sure the admissions office is well aware of the party school rumor, and that they’ll be directly addressing it in the presentations they give. If your dad will at least agree to go with an open mind you’ve got a shot.</p>
<p>IMHO the UCSB experience would be miles ahead of the other options you listed; you’ll get the real college experience of making friends, learning responsibility, and get a top-50 caliber education.</p>
<p>Wow thanks, Mikemac, I was wondering if they had an open house like UCSD. Thank you!</p>
<p>Glad to help. Post again in this thread and April and let everyone know how it turned out …</p>
<p>Tell him that your roommate is Catholic. =)</p>
<p>Isla Vista is known for the party scene, but there’s also a Catholic church right in the middle of the action:
[Welcome</a> to St. Mark’s!](<a href=“http://www.saint-marks.net/]Welcome”>http://www.saint-marks.net/)
Check it out! Visit with your dad and attend mass there. I’m sure it’s 99% students and can provide a wholesome social alternative. Good luck! </p>
<p>a Catholic mom of a Catholic student at UCSB</p>
<p>i had a similar situation last year. my mom told me to accept the UCSB admission but then later after she visited SB she told me to go to UCSC instead because SB was too far(although i’d already submitted my SIR to UCSB lol). she never stopped complaining about the distance from home to UCSB (yeah the problem was the 5-hour trip) and started bringing up all other things related to school. i ended up at UCSB anyway, although i had to listen to all the stuff she had to say to hurt me =(. we got into the most dramatic argument in my life a few weeks before the move-in day. but at least she got nicer after i left home lol. and i found a way to travel to and from home so my parents didn’t have to drive me. kinda tough having an Asian mom =P. </p>
<p>maybe you can have someone convince your dad for you. my mom changed her mind and let me come to UCSB after consulting a friend.</p>
<p>Aww Nicha, I know how you feel, but with middle eastern parents (i’m a girl so its even more protective) but it really seems like my dad is letting me go when I talked to him a few days ago. Its about 3 hour away from my house, I think an hour and a half by train. SO I think I am really going to go <em>so excited</em>.</p>
<p>that’s good for u =). i’m a girl too btw lol.</p>
<p>Haha, I didn’t mean toward you, I figured you were a girl. I mean because my parents are middle eastern and I am not a boy that it makes it worse. XD</p>
<p>oh i see xD. i think asian parents are a bit protective too. but in my case my mom was more concerned about the 5-hour drive LoL. she didnt even seem to care about the fact that UCSB was a party school XD.</p>
<p>Recite everything on the ‘Points of Pride’ to him!</p>
<p>[UCSB</a> Points of Pride](<a href=“http://www.ucsb.edu/pop/index.shtml]UCSB”>http://www.ucsb.edu/pop/index.shtml)</p>
<p>;)</p>
<p>You can tell him that although we do have a huge party scene most of the students here know when to play and when to work. We are well recognized across the country and have a very respectable marine biology program. If your dad is concerned about the party scene, it’s only on Friday and saturday nights that people go partying and no one forces you to go and even if you do go, you don’t have to drink. If you choose not to go partying there are people who share the view as you so you won’t feel lonely.</p>
<p>I know what you mean, my dad is the same way! And we have Middle Eastern origins, so I know how it is. If my dad had his way, I would be living with him going to a university 5 minutes away from home. Show him that you have grown up and that you can take care of yourself. Talk is cheap so you’re going to have to actually prove it to him. And tell him that this will be your chance to grow and become a responsible and independent young women. Like mikemac said, having him come with you to is also a great idea! Let him know that you’re going to visit often and have him come to visit you every once in awhile(so that he does not think you’re pushing him away) talk to him about your career, dreams, hopes, and aspirations for the future and explain to him how UCSB will help you achieve all this. Make sure to mention the rankings and the excellent professors and how hard it is to get into the school. Let him know that it is a well respected school. and let him know that he can trust you to make the right decisions!
Good luck! :)</p>
<p>Sarah and many of the others here definitely have the right of it. Whether you’re an incoming freshman or even a transfer student planning to head off to college you are an adult now. This is the time for you to grow and learn about how to be independent, how to take care of and look after yourself. </p>
<p>Many people seem to obtain this idea that independence means charging in, drinking until you’ve completely destroyed all semblence of coherant thought or doing drugs until your body decides it wants to stab itself. Unfortunantly these are the ones that should probably stay at home.</p>
<p>You seem to be genuine and have a solid head on your shoulders, so I would think and hope. If so then you need to get out there have the opportunity to take responsibility. </p>
<p>Try to explain this to your father, but in the loving daughter/son sort of way and not clashing heads. If your father is as patron minded as he seems to be he wont’ appreciate that.</p>
<p>Definitely take him to UCSB for April Insight, there is a Q&A session I believe and he can address many of his questions and concerns there I’m sure. Once he gets to see the campus and notes that people arn’t just tearing down the school left and right he might change his attitude.</p>
<p>Best of luck.</p>