<p>I'm sorry if this is a pitty party but I just need to get this out there! The only other person I can talk to this about is the love of my life.
I currently attend drexel for mechanical engineering and I just absolutely hate it. Since the first day I got there I just want to go home and drop out of college. My roommate is from china and we only talked maybe a total of 8 times durin my 10 week trimester. Half if those times was to ask to copy homework but I said no. My gpa is a 2.57 and I think that's decent for my major and college choice.
That brings me to the main subject, I hate my college so much and I completely regret going there. I have a scholarship so it only costs 20000 to go there instead of the original 50000. I know I have a great opportunity with co op but I just don't think I could get through the next 5 years without me going insane and getting completely depressed. I occasionally get a little depressed but ever since college it's been probably once a week. I think it's getting worse now that my winter break is over and I have to go back to the place I despise so much. I really want to see a doctor about this.
My girlfriend is most likely going to go I the university of delware for nursing. She wants to join a lot of clubs and her two bestfriends are likely going there too, one is a male and that kind of makes me comfortable. I know nothing will happen I'm just afraid with the other guys she will meet. We all know how some college boys are :(( I'm afraid she will forget about me with all her work and hanging out with friends and joining clubs. There will be no time for her to see me. I already talked to her about this but she said nothing will change.
I woul do anything to transfer to the university of delware but my parents refuse since we are out if state and I won't have a co op any more. I hate how everything in this world is based off of money. I don't want to only transfer there because if my girlfriend (we will make it no matter what) I just want to spend time with her and I would do anything to see her. I also just want to enjoy my college life and I hate it right now. I don't really drink so I don't go I parties and meet new people. I have maybe 3 friends at drexel but we don't talk outside of class and that is completely my fault, I always struggled with social skills my whole life. That is just one reason why I hate myself.
If anybody has any advice can they please post it, I need help right now. I want to transfer so badly and it will actually make me enjoy my life</p>
<p>Okay, i dunno how to help you but you can derive pleasure out of my sad life. I am an international student and have only 3 friends, who i don’t particularly like. I am not athletic so i cant play sports and make friends either. Don’t have a lot of interests either. So, its really boring for me and i am probably boring to others. Which in turn will prevent me from making more friends coz i wont have anything to talk about. And I am only 5 foot 4 dude which sucks big time too. I mean seriously who wants to talk to a short foreign guy?? Not even other guys lol. So, I am going to have a crappy time for the rest of my life and not just in college.</p>
<p>You atleast have a girlfriend. I don’t. And i don’t drink and go to parties either. So, I cant meet new people. And my roommate isn’t even in the room most of the time which sucks.</p>
<p>However my GPA is 3.39 ( I am in my first year of engineering). :P</p>
<p>if you hate drexel so much why don’t you transfer? i’ve heard it’s not a very social/fun type of school, even though it’s good for co-op. But if your going to be miserable, you should just transfer and enjoy life, and you’d probably enjoy it much better since you’ll be with your girlfriend as well. I actually go the university of delaware, and i know many people that are out of state, and friends in the engineering program here.</p>
<p>Transfer!!! How can you possibly measure up to your full potential if you aren’t happy!?</p>
<p>Transfer then. Public school is still cheaper than the $20k. Drexel is hard to transfer out of though because of the quarter system and it’s too late for spring…so maybe stick it out until June, start fresh next fall. Until then, try to keep your GPA up. Join clubs, your roommate isn’t your only source of friends, get out of your dorm room and try not to bum yourself out too much.</p>
<p>I swear there are literally only two types of posts on this board anymore…</p>
<p>I don’t know where Drexel is but you need to get outdoors and soak in some sunshine :D. Life is too short to worry about where your girlfriend is going. If you are that miserable I would think about the advise BCT2NYGuy gave you……feelings of depression are normal for this stage in your life, it is part of the growing up process. You were given a nice Scholarship it seems and that is more than a lot of kids get. I know its hard to be thankful at times but you could have it a lot worse…like no place to call home…a dead end minimum wage job…Focus on the good :)</p>
<p>Drexel is in a large city with lots to do. (I know this because I live here.)</p>
<p>When you had orientation, did you get a pass that lets you go once for free to each of about 30 venues for music and theater? See what’s playing. Then ask someone else in the freshman class to go with you for coffee and a performance. Repeat…repeat…repeat.</p>
<p>What activities did you do in high school because you liked them? You probably can do them here.</p>
<p>How do you feel about community service? Drexel sponsors lots of it. See Lindy Center or a campus religious group.</p>
<p>How about a job? Neighborhood stores and food places tend to hire at the beginning of every semester because people have just left.</p>
<p>Happiness doesn’t just appear. You need to make it happen.</p>
<p>I recently transferred to Drexel so I’m going to chime in with some opinions.</p>
<ul>
<li>Half your posted thread is about your girlfriend, and while I understand you care a lot about her and she’s a big part of your life, there’s more to think about here.</li>
</ul>
<p>a) Please don’t transfer to a university based on your girlfriend. If you ever break up (in the event), you’ll have wasted your transfer since it was based on your relationship. Do you want to see an ex walking around everyday? You have to think about the worst case scenarios.</p>
<p>b) “I just want to spend time with her and I would do anything to see her” - Right out of high school I thought the same, but over time I realized the opposite. Since you two will be far apart, it’s time to live separate lives until you can be together over weekends, holidays etc. - That’s not to say you can’t talk on the phone, Skype etc. - But if you live a pretty busy life, it’ll keep your mind busy too.</p>
<p>c) “I don’t really drink so I don’t go I parties and meet new people” - Looking at past threads on the forums, people have recommended joining clubs and going to community activities. Drexel is FILLED with clubs - Login to Drexel One and you can see the gigantic list.</p>
<p>That being said, if you want to transfer solely because you want to be close to your girlfriend, please think otherwise or reconsider your thoughts. While applying to universities I thought the same… Apply to universities close to my girlfriend, within the region, whatever it took be close, etc. - And guess what, two weeks into my freshman year (we were states apart), we broke up. I haven’t talked to her since. Not to say this is going to happen to you, but just to say that looking back I would’ve never sacrificed my college choices for a girl.</p>
<p>If you want to transfer simply because you’re unhappy with Drexel social life and community, then by all means consider other options. I transferred during the Fall quarter, and I’m a commuter so I don’t see the social life at Drexel nor am I interested. I preferred the society of my old University, but education-wise, I’m liking Drexel a lot more.</p>
<p>Cliff notes:</p>
<ul>
<li>Don’t transfer because of girlfriend</li>
<li>Join clubs at Drexel</li>
<li>Consider transferring if you’re unhappy with Drexel and NOT unhappy that you’re so far away from your girlfriend</li>
<li>You don’t have to drink to meet people, there are a ton of people who don’t drink, you don’t have to conform</li>
</ul>
<p>If you approach the situation (depressed, not meeting anyone, miss girlfriend) with a positive mindset, I’m sure that by joining clubs or groups you’ll find people with common interests. But please, don’t make the same mistake I made initially. It pays off in the long run, and you need to start thinking about your own life too.</p>
<p>Just don’t make decisions based on your girlfriend. I know what you mean thinking you will make it no matter what, but just in the unlikely chance it doesn’t work, don’t make decisions based upon her.</p>
<p>
Are you Raji from Big Bang Theory? Sorry if this offends you but am watching the show right now and can’t help make the comparison</p>
<p>When women are waddling around in the later stages of pregnancy, the male needs to run around with atlatls and spears and kill food. Males with ample strength and intelligence are usually good at providing nourishment and protection for their pregnosauruses, which is why they tend to like strong, confident men. Transferring to her college because you’re afraid she’ll forget about you and/or cheat implies weakness. </p>
<p>If you transfer with your gf being the primary reason, she’ll see you as spineless and needy, and unless she’s into that kind of guy, you’re doomed to be stuck in a worse situation.</p>
<p>I don’t agree that transferring to a girlfriend’s institution implies a spineless and needy demeanor. My girlfriend lives across the country and for years had been yearning for us to be more close (we only see each other about a month total every year) and I applied for transfer there, but I couldn’t afford it. It was pretty devastating at first for her, but it was financially outrageous for me to attend an institution where I would pay 60K (however I had some stuff going on for me) over two years rather than 22K total if I stayed in-state. </p>
<p>I’m not a macho man and my girlfriend isn’t exactly needy either. Chances are we’ll probably live separately again for the entirety of graduate school. It’s just a basic need to be close to the ones you love but you gotta do what you gotta do. </p>
<p>There is no point in attending a college you hate. It will significantly decrease your chances of graduating. You need to first devise a financial plan for how you’re going to pay for this. It has to be reasonable. If it’s not, look into attending another institution you could see yourself happy being at. You need to work your butt off to get the grades and see what kind of cards come up. See if you get any scholarships. Wayne Gretzky said “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. If nothing comes of anything you do, at least you tried.</p>
<p>To be honest, you shouldn’t worry about your girlfriend. If it’s truly meant to be…then it’s meant to be. I was a college freshman while my girlfriend was still in high school and our 5th anniversary is this year. You have to be able to recognize when you really have something and both have your heart in it. You need to have a heart to heart talk about where you think your relationship is going with your girlfriend and what is on her mind. It is better to know now then in the future so you can save yourself the pain of transferring to her institution and dealing with a break up at a college you no longer want to be at. Don’t make her the reason for transferring unless you are sure of two things 1) your relationship 2) that you’ll actually like it there. Do your homework.</p>
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<p>Hey…
my bro is also a freshman at drexel n doing mechancial engineering… I will also be heading there mostly since i need aid and am international student from india… So even my 2210 SAT is not going to get me into an ivy… He is staying at Kelly Hall or i guess thats what they call it… I pity u that u have such a room mate even my bro doesnt really like them not because they are evil but because they are mostly reclusive n prefer to hang out with each other</p>