Hello everyone,
I’m a freshman at a large state college and I just really hate college. Everyday I wake up, go to class, go back to my dorm and sit there for the rest of the day. I feel like I’m just wasting life. I have no friends and any of the kids I have meet or tried to hangout with out of shear desperation are just complete a**holes. I just don’t know what to do. I joined a club, but it doesn’t start until next semester so ill see how that goes. I feel like i have literally been in prison for the last 12 weeks. I love to hangout with people and party and whatnot. I just feel so alone. One of my roommates has a girlfriend so she basically lives in my dorm, I’m not even sure if she goes back to her room, and my other roommate just sits on his computer all day playing computer games. I like my classes, but that only takes up how much of my time and their is more to life then just school. I went to a college in which i knew no one going and i really regret this decision. All my friends from back home look like they are having a blast at college and I’m just sitting here writing a whiny letter. The past few weeks have been the worst in my entire life and I just really hope things will change next semester or i might have to drop out.
^^“look like” is the operative phrase there. Social media can be so misleading.
Why did you decide to go where you knew no one? Focus on that, and give it some time. This could be a great growth opportunity for you.
And there is nothing wrong with transferring as long as you do it for the right reasons, and give your current school a fair shake first.
Was this school the right choice for you to begin with? It sounds like you might have fared better at an LAC. Are you involved in any clubs or activities that are going on this semester? That might be a start. The roommates situation sucks, but you can either deal with it as is or try to make something. Maybe ask your roommates if they’d like to all go to lunch or something?
Social media can be very deceiving, and your friends might not be having the time it looks like they’re having, or they simply found a school that was a better fit for them.
It sounds like you have a lot of free time and don’t know exactly what to do with it. I recommend you get a part-time job. You will meet a new set of contacts at your job that you might connect with more, and you’ll have something to do besides sit in your dorm. You can also do volunteer work and sign up for leadership positions on campus, help at special events, take up a new sport…use your imagination. Give yourself time. You did the harder thing by going away to college, so it’s a bigger adjustment, but you can learn a lot this way and develop skills that will serve you well the rest of your life as you move to other new places for jobs, study abroad or other opportunities.
You need to get involved. Whether its a job, intramurals, religious activities, political organizations or what not you have to get out and meet people.
If you’re really that bored with college then why not put a little spice into it. Have you considered studying college in abroad? That might change the way you see college now, add up a little challenge if it’s too boring for you