<p>I find myself looking at my Facebook friends' profiles and admiring their beauty. I'm tired of being known as the smart ambitious asian girl. Sometimes I just wish I was pretty and I could go out and party my life away. Anyone concur?</p>
<p>Nah, everyone is made unique. </p>
<p>Doesn’t matter if you’re black or white… or gray and green.</p>
<p>Get some self-confidence. </p>
<p>The only thing i probably want is to get taller.</p>
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Lol? …</p>
<p>Wow way to assume I have no self confidence… I think you’re being a little self righteous… I’m sure you’ve wished (sometime in your life) that you were different.</p>
<p>I’m sure everyone has thought something like that at some point in their life, even me hahah. I’m in the same situation as you (Asian girl) and I go to an all girls school where there are some pretty girls 
good thing they’re stupid though. Nothing mean intended.</p>
<p>When I like someone and they don’t like me/don’t notice me back, yeah I feel that way.</p>
<p>Hahah yeah. It sounds terrible but thats how I make myself feel better. Everyone has their gifts and talents. I may not be extraordinarily pretty but at least Ive got the brains. Some people have neither so I should just be grateful…</p>
<p>lol the issue of not being able to choose your own qualities is something I sometimes think about. I think it’s pretty unavoidably sad, the fact that people can’t. Obviously not sad for everyone, but sad for some people, so overall sad.</p>
<p>self confidence doesn’t mean thinking your equal or unique or special in the same way everyone else is - it means not letting it bother you that you are somewhere on the bell curve for every measurable, valued trait, and that you’re probably pretty far on the side you’d rather not be on for some of them.</p>
<p>Well, i think this should bother us - if your not bothered by being significantly less of x, where x is a highly valued trait by you and society, than other people, than you’ve given up the fight, resolved yourself to the unfortunate way things are.</p>
<p>And * that * is an unfortunate thing because science is at the point where these fights aren’t futile anymore. </p>
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<p>but, if you don’t want to fight the fights, then I would just say what you feel is something that you won’t feel forever. It’s something many, many feel at one point or another, for varying lengths, but the point is in most cases it resolves itself. You won’t spend your whole life feeling the way you feel now.</p>
<p>Your feelings do reflect an unfairness though, i think. But the good news is that its a very universal unfairness - you’re not the only one experiencing it. And knowing that should maybe make it less problematic, because the universality of the unfairness which is death certainly comforts me to some extent (knowing 100 billions people have dealt with it before me).</p>
<p>Seems like a universal girl thing. I do what I can with tasteful makeup. But it’s comforting to know that a pretty face fades with time (or is very expensive to preserve), while a good brain can always serve you well.</p>
<p>Amen Clepsydra. Well said.</p>
<p>^^
Why is it expensive to preserve?</p>
<p>And intelligence can fade as well.</p>
<p>But back to the original post, I don’t think it really matters as long as you’re in decent physical shape. Nobody looks like the people in magazines or movies. Not even the people in them, since they’re practically airbrushed to look like that.</p>
<p>Realizing how pithy I’m sounding. 's what I get for posting so late at night.</p>
<p>Ever seen how many skincare products there are? Or cosmetic procedures for everything from tiny wrinkles to the teeth? </p>
<p>And true, but I figure most people don’t think that far ahead (including me).</p>
<p>I’m terribly hard on myself. I’m a rare outwardly self-conscious guy. I have a really negative sense of body image, and seeing these tiny, thin boys and really athletic & built guys is so not helpful.</p>
<p>Saugus have you ever called a girl a butterface? So I beg to differ on that point.</p>
<p>@enfield 100% agree</p>
<p>Not really, I do occasionally wish I were a few inches taller though.</p>
<p>If I had the money for plastic surgery, I can’t say I wouldn’t do it.</p>
<p>I’ve been in plenty of crying fits just because of my appearance. I’m not pretty. I want to look like that Norwegian girl Emilie Nereng</p>
<p>You don’t need to be a beauty to get the guy of your dreams. </p>
<p>I would say that I am about an “8”, but over the course of my life, I have been with a number of “10’s”, so it didn’t really matter if I didn’t look like Brad Pitt.</p>
<p>Also, beauty eventually fades, I can assure you.</p>
<p>Further, even beautiful girls are sometimes insecure about their looks.</p>
<p>you guys have got to be kidding me i’m short and extremely ugly yet i’ve never complained about it</p>
<p>I want to look like Catherine Deneuve, but NNNoOOOoOOOooOOOOooo, life doesn’t work that way.</p>
<p>Whenever I see a girl I feel is more attractive than me, I just consider how much higher my GPA is than hers. </p>
<p>LOL, does that make me a horrible person?</p>