<p>It's common for people to compensate for the feeling of being social outcasts by acting as if they are "above" the group from which they want acceptance. They create a false sense of self-esteem, but still remain somewhat emotionally fragile. Unfortunately, a lot of people spend the rest of their lives trying to deal with that feeling of frailty. </p>
<p>Simply put, the whole, high school, "social" thing obviously didn't go to well for some of you guys. Instead of creating an emotional crutch for yourselves, why not just force yourselves to open up and enjoy life? Trust me, you'll have a lot more fun in whatever remains of your high school years, and you'll even create some lasting memories.</p>
<p>And by the way, try to get to know some people. Make an effort instead of assuming you couldn't get along. I guarantee you that there is a lot more to your classmates than what you see on the surface.</p>
<p>Moving on from the social scene at my HS was not a bad thing though, like I dont lament my decisions or anything. I go to a rich kid laguna beach type HS where about 2/3s of the kids drive brand new cars, and im just not in on the "hip" culture there, so I found a different niche.</p>
<p>You naysayers act as if high school kids aren't high school kids. Lets face it, at most schools 60% of high schools are shallow and narrow-minded while the other 20% don't speak English. It's that simple. The last 20% are the ones you meet in college.</p>
<p>Im with Obs on this one. My life circumstances have just pushed me to be different from everyone else at my school. I dont enjoy MTV, or buying things at the mall, or cheering at football games. The kids at my school don't hate me either. I just dont many friends there because we don't share common interests. I have a ton o fun w my waitress friends too. In two weeks, im gettin blitzed with one of them and were goin out to a strip club where she knows the owner.</p>
<p>you should talk to people, a surprising number of people dont watch MTV, cant deal with malls, and dont care for football games. btw, how big is everyones school where they dont like anyone? mine is about 3500, maybe thats just big enough that there are a lot of 'outsiders' with similar interests</p>
<p>My school has only 180 students, and I've found a few who share some interests with me. And my school is also extremely homogeneous. So it's definitely possible.</p>
<p>We have one hill in my town. Two years ago, i climbed to the top. I could see for 100+ miles. There was literally no horizon, or even any trees. The only thing that stopped my vision was the haze created by the particulate matter in the air.</p>
<p>Obstinate- I noticed you live in Carson...I used to live in Torrance/Carson, moved to Santa Clarita, and now I live near Pasadena. I don't know what part of Carson you live in, but not all of LA is like that. While I do agree that the car culture here is tiring, the dearth of public transprtation angers me at times, and that we are segregated, I know that once I go to college far away from here, all I'll want to do is move back because I love where I live now, and I seem to agree with your ideologies!</p>
<p>Anyway, about you- Perhaps you're living in the wrong part of the city for someone with beliefs like yours. I don't know if you have tried this, but go into the city and explore. There are going to be more people who hold the same beliefs as you in WeHo and Santa Monica, I guarantee you!</p>
<p>I'm not trying to stop you from going to college on the East Coast, I just dont think you're giving LA a fair chance. Big cities are diverse.</p>
<p>So I guess the point of this post was to say: Once you get out of your bubble, even just a few miles, everything will get better! </p>
<p>Yeah, actually, I'm alot more open than most people. Luckily, I live about six blocks from a Blue Line station. I'm in LA on a weekly basis usually. I have a student monthly pass so I go all over: Downtown, WeHo, Santa Monica, Hollywood, Pasadena, Little Armenia, Echo Park, etc. I think LA is an amazing city, full of culture, things to do, etc. It's just that whole coming-back-home part that always gets me down. And it's absolutely huge. </p>
<p>Yeah, but don't get me wrong, I like the Central part of Los Angeles, just not...well, every other part of the megalopolis. In short, I don't really have a Carson bubble as many of my peers do, because I don't have the Carson mentality. I identify alot more with Los Angeles news and culture. </p>
<p>I think in the 1 1/2 years I have left here, there's much to see of the city. That was a very thought-provoking post though, thanks psych!</p>
<p>I'm involved to too many things not to have friends. Plus my school is not the typical 'clickish'. Sure there are, but my social mobility is huge. I can talk and get along resonantly well with everyone, cause I do many actvities (band, jazz, pep band, crew for theater, filming football games, alpine skiing, boy scouts, general tech stuff, and the list goes on....)</p>